Twirling body builders, dominant alpha males and been hurt in the past-Dating thread part 29

[Milkandlotsandlotsofwine]

Took the liberty of starting a new thread.

Off you go ladies and gents...

It would depend just how much he resembled Johnny Depp mercury

I'm kidding of course.

Hi all
Not posted for ages and was under a different name but have been keeping up with all that you've been getting upto.

Have been seeing someone I met OD for a few months now but not sure I really want to date any more, quite happy doing my own thing which seems to fit in quite well with some of your feelings at the moment too.

Anyway de-lurked because I've seen this a couple of times and honestly do not have a clue what I'm supposed to look out for....what are "prison tattoos"?

Evening life

I have no idea either, does anyone have an explanation of sorts?

I think they're very basic tattoos, badly done, black ink only as far as I know, which are commonly given in prison. It it's a butterfly on his arm, or a celtic band, that's art. If it's 'LUV/HAT' on his knuckles, watch out

ok, he looks like a combo of Johnny depp and robert de niro in cape fear..google image cape fear if you want a better idea.
Suffice to say he looks as mad a a box of frogs and has so far sent 4 messages

Ahh, get you, thanks makes more sense now!

@mercury looks like he's got the hots for you

So bant you made your escape? Did you climb out of the window or make a dignified exit?

Ooh definitely got a fan there mercury

No profile link?

Come on bant tell us your story!

it was just a 'meh' date. We sat, had coffees, talked for an hour. It was plain when she turned up that I wasn't going to possibly fancy her. And she wasn't a sparkling conversationalist. It was okay. Passed a couple of hours. Could've been watching TV. Not much more to tell really. I've got to think about whether I send her a text saying 'nice to meet you, no spark though' or just leave it. I don't think she was hugely into me either, there just wasn't that spark.

So. Meh.

Sorry mac didn't say hello back... How rude! Hi

Ah bant I'd probably just leave it tbh unless she sends a follow up text and then do your "no sparks" line

Good luck with the rest of your dates this week

profile link:
sexy.adultfishdating.co.uk/member/profile/?profileid=15629723

wont work unless you're a member, although it's free for women

Mercury checked it. As a box of frogs, although looks so deranged he could be ok. Now I've had to join up, how do I hide 'profile' there?

Aghhhh too many cocks. Literally. Mercury how the hell do you work out who's ok on there?

ha ha ha yes it is a bit louche, but entertaining :o

I dont think you can hide but leave your profile empty and dont log on, you should be safe like that:o

Hi all, mind if I join in? Last time I was here lurking you were all busy writing a 'my single friend' profile for hatesponge - did it ever get posted? I was right off OD at that stage, having had very depressing no-response experiences with match.com & grown-up dating. But, being an old bird (52) I thought I'd try 'olderdating' (there really is something compulsive about OD isn't there - the tantalising thought that there must be someone out there...) and guess what! Some guys have messaged me - and some seem halfway decent! Cripes! No dates or anything yet, but heck - I'm reeling from the shock!

Hiya Walkacross:) not at all.
I agree it can be a bit compulsive, although I do have long phases of not wanting to know, usually in the winter.
Suspect that finding a site/niche that works for you is part of it, some sites I've never really got on with!

Questiontime ooh, good luck!

MacAndCheese I ditched all OD profiles etc about 13 months ago - still have totally no desire to ever set my eyes on one again!

Don't let me put anyone off though. I did about 3.5 years of it altogether and I have totally had enough, even not having been involved for all this time. But it really does seem to work for some people. Some quickly, some after a lot of potatoes, frogs, weirdos etc. I think it's worth giving a good go, but if it starts getting you really down it's time to quit and do other stuff.

Hi and welcome Walkacross good luck with that different site! Sounds good so far - keep us posted :o

Hi Melanthe, I think you've wandered onto the wrong thread with your question - this thread is for sharing online dating experiences. I don't know what the 'fallout' was (but I suspect you have other threads about this - I vaguely recall the scenario) but the simple answer is - short relationship, he ended it - don't talk to him! Having a strong sense of 'unanswered questions that only he can answer' is part of a breakup, and has to be dealt with by deep breaths and telling yourself it's over over over, any remaining questions will become less important with time and he will not be interested in further discussion. You might not get any more responses on this thread btw because you've posted on the wrong thread but I don't think MNHQ can move a single posting, just delete it if you ask them to - you might like to re-post as a new thread.

Melanthe, I don't think it will help you to talk, to be honest. Rejection sucks, but it happens, and it doesn't mean there is anything wrong with you!

The relationship wasn't working for him, and that's all you really need to know. If you push him for reasons (not sure if that's why you want to speak to him, you don't say), you will be pushing him to think of what he thinks is wrong with you. You don't need to hear that, it's not relevant to your life.

As Walk says, in time it will matter less, but in the meantime, keep up a friendly, professional demeanour.

We've got a few dates and second dates, this week, haven't we? Good luck!

Watch, is it today you hear about the house for certain? Have got fingers crossed for you.

I've hidden my profile .. I lasted a whole fortnight although no genital portraits were received thankfully

Got a 2nd date lined up with theAuditor and have a date in a couple of weeks with theSubmariner and that will do me just now ..

Hope this wet and windy Monday finds you all well!

yoga any reply to your email?

Melanthe - I am not on online dater, only tried it for two months before I met someone in RL but have been on the this thread since it first began, last August I think should probably leave but...I haven't

Anyways, it must be hard for you, having to work with him after splitting. I can see why that would make it hard to move on, find some sort of closure. If it would help you to know the reasons why, then see if he will talk but only the once.

Wanted to ask you all something too but as this thread is for online dating I will stick it in relationships and maybe some of you will have a look, it's a lot easier talking about things with people I have been chatting to for over a year than random mumsnetters