6 months in...are these normalish and I am being too picky?

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Hello All,

I read here alot, have name changed for this as slightly scared of answers

I have been seeing someone for just over 6 months, and for me we hit crunch time this week and I'm thinking of leaving, just wanted others opinion if possible.

All been ok, been on 2 long holidays etc and see every weekend however a week ago my mum who lives a long way away said she would be over at end of Dec and wanted to meet him, so I asked him, he lives half an hour away and said o might be too tired as its a monday, i got the message and said ok fine will tell her you are too busy. However was annoyed and all the things I am unsure about have reared their ugly head...

1. He is incredibly tight, so much so that his friends take the mick, and hates going out

2. he eats at his parents every night so as to save cooking and prefers me round latish so he can eat first, his mum also does all his washing and ironing..he is 50

3. He farts now continually, didn't used to and thinks its hilarious

4. Like some kind of tourette syndrome he keeps saying fcuking c@@t under his breath apropos of nothing when we are out??

5. calls his boss female a slag and a c@@t and says she slept her way to top and wants him and i should be lucky he has morals??

6. A bit shorter than me and I'm average height and wears huge built up shoes so he can hardly walk, I hate this, I don't care about the height

7. obsessed with anal sex??? WTF

8. Slightly controlling and bossy and hates me drinking or looking at other guys, I don't realise I have looked till he makes a comment, I'm normally just looking into space I think

9. Ok just read these and they sound awful, he can be lovely, good company, and fun, but I'm getting irritated now hugely, yes been asked to meet his parents and I would never say o no too tired as its in week

Any ideas

This must be a joke

Erm, I married somebody who wasn't a million miles from this description, so I do believe the OP.

I'm with Annie - age aside most of those points describe my ex husband - not sure why I was with him for 8 years.

He also had the platform shoes (and serious height issues), and in a fit of jealousy one night went through my wardrobe and burnt every shoe I owned with a heal (no matter how small)

"The built up shoes.. I am imagining an old, ugly Tom Cruise"
LOL. Did he look like OP?

Thank God - he sounds quite horrendous. Good for you OP.

If it wasnt for the age difference I would be pmming you to ask if we had the same ex glad you ended it.

how are you doing, OP? haven't heard from you for a while.
Hopefully you are busy doing young, free and single things

Hope you're well op.

I'm surprised you lasted 6 months to be honest. I think he's using you in the same way he's using his mum. Yuck.

Hello!

I am fine, thanks for all your messages.

No really wasn't a wind up I'm afraid.

Ok apologies OP hope you have found the support you needed! You have a whole life ahead of you - make it yours.

he was lovely at the start

What start? Conception?

Sounds like a man only his mother could love. Great escape for you.

God he sounds awful, find someone else.

Christ on a bike .........(In a Mrs. Merton stylee..) "Scraping, , what attracted you to the tight-fisted, free-loading, farting, sweary, misogynistic, built-up shoe wearing, butthole surfing, control freak millionaire in the first place ?"

Where on earth did you meet him OP?

Yea, tell us so we can avoid!

and warn all our girlfriends to avoid !

Thepath
Love your last sentence - made me laugh on this dreary foggy morning and watching Jeremy Kyle

If he doesn't want to meet your mum then I hate to say it but it doesn't sound like his hearts in it.
As for the other stuff, that just adds to how quick you should be running