6 months in...are these normalish and I am being too picky?

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Hello All,

I read here alot, have name changed for this as slightly scared of answers

I have been seeing someone for just over 6 months, and for me we hit crunch time this week and I'm thinking of leaving, just wanted others opinion if possible.

All been ok, been on 2 long holidays etc and see every weekend however a week ago my mum who lives a long way away said she would be over at end of Dec and wanted to meet him, so I asked him, he lives half an hour away and said o might be too tired as its a monday, i got the message and said ok fine will tell her you are too busy. However was annoyed and all the things I am unsure about have reared their ugly head...

1. He is incredibly tight, so much so that his friends take the mick, and hates going out

2. he eats at his parents every night so as to save cooking and prefers me round latish so he can eat first, his mum also does all his washing and ironing..he is 50

3. He farts now continually, didn't used to and thinks its hilarious

4. Like some kind of tourette syndrome he keeps saying fcuking c@@t under his breath apropos of nothing when we are out??

5. calls his boss female a slag and a c@@t and says she slept her way to top and wants him and i should be lucky he has morals??

6. A bit shorter than me and I'm average height and wears huge built up shoes so he can hardly walk, I hate this, I don't care about the height

7. obsessed with anal sex??? WTF

8. Slightly controlling and bossy and hates me drinking or looking at other guys, I don't realise I have looked till he makes a comment, I'm normally just looking into space I think

9. Ok just read these and they sound awful, he can be lovely, good company, and fun, but I'm getting irritated now hugely, yes been asked to meet his parents and I would never say o no too tired as its in week

Any ideas

Run for the hills! Any one of those things on your list would have me out that door.

What are you going to do, OP?

I'm amazed you've lasted six months. Tight, short, sexist, grumpy and randomly sweary.... and you say he hasn't had anything but a short relationship since age 40? Crazy...

He wears built up shoes...HE WEARS BUILT UP SHOES...

OP, no, just NO. He sounds like a prize bellshine, get rid, and do it quick...Christ on an actual bike, I'd have a riot with that one

Thanks all

Yes done it

Hes clinging..but if he were the catch he keeps saying he wouldn't so I feel ok

he did start out ok

Some one once described it to me as that point when the scales fall from your eyes..

Well done!!

l think he sounds quite nice.

ok, ok, only pulling your leg.
dump and let us know when you have.

I love love love this

Thank you

sorry meant to add i love the hobbling along farty one, keep laughing!!

x post. you already have dumped him

No thank you all very much

Now have chocolate, film and pets with heating on and giggling somewhat over some of the messages

many many thanks

x

I am stunned. My first reaction was that it must be a "joke", and am still wondering.? Don't like any of your numbers, but 4 & 5 are especially nasty, and the rest disgusting. I assumed he was a teenager/early 20s, not a mature 50 year-old. Irritated - I am appalled.

Yay! Finally, someone who actually did leave the bastard! On live chat. Not something you see everyday.

Good for you OP!

He's 'clinging'? O dear, having to prise their fingers off your ankles as you swan on to your infinitely brighter-without-them future is tres tedious - as soon as you've got one foot free, simply kick him in the teeth and hope the blood can easily be removed from your Manolo.

I'm immensely relieved you are laughing at the messages, honey, but are you laughing at ours which are laughing with you and not at you or his which will inevitably be taking the piss because that's what he does?

This site never ceases to show up how much women will put up with. It is really sad.

Why? Why do we do it?

You sound very together, OP.

This must be a record LTB actually.

He does sound bloody awful by the way.

I couldn't get over a 50 year old going for dinner at his mum's every night and having her do his laundry... Sorry, I would be laughing too hard just at that to find any other redeeming virtues of his (of which there don't seem to be many anyway) worthy of my time.

You've done it already?! Great work. Sounds like you've wasted enough time on this poor excuse for a man.

Good Luck.

Well done x

With his qualities he's a shoe-in for this board's Most Repulsive Twat of the Year 2012 contest and I hereby nominate him forthwith.

Let him take his place among the other candidates until the jury returns a verdict early in the New Year.

He sounds vile. That is a LONG list of flaws for a 6 month relationship. I have been with my partner a year, and can't think of a single one.

I'm going to assume his mum is about 70? do you think it's right that he lets her do all his washing and cooking?! He should be looking after her, not using her. He's probably looking for a replacement in you... don't let it get to that point!

He sounds absolutely horrendous! I would rather be on my own for the rest of my life than be with a bloke like him. Eughhhh