6 months in...are these normalish and I am being too picky?

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Hello All,

I read here alot, have name changed for this as slightly scared of answers

I have been seeing someone for just over 6 months, and for me we hit crunch time this week and I'm thinking of leaving, just wanted others opinion if possible.

All been ok, been on 2 long holidays etc and see every weekend however a week ago my mum who lives a long way away said she would be over at end of Dec and wanted to meet him, so I asked him, he lives half an hour away and said o might be too tired as its a monday, i got the message and said ok fine will tell her you are too busy. However was annoyed and all the things I am unsure about have reared their ugly head...

1. He is incredibly tight, so much so that his friends take the mick, and hates going out

2. he eats at his parents every night so as to save cooking and prefers me round latish so he can eat first, his mum also does all his washing and ironing..he is 50

3. He farts now continually, didn't used to and thinks its hilarious

4. Like some kind of tourette syndrome he keeps saying fcuking c@@t under his breath apropos of nothing when we are out??

5. calls his boss female a slag and a c@@t and says she slept her way to top and wants him and i should be lucky he has morals??

6. A bit shorter than me and I'm average height and wears huge built up shoes so he can hardly walk, I hate this, I don't care about the height

7. obsessed with anal sex??? WTF

8. Slightly controlling and bossy and hates me drinking or looking at other guys, I don't realise I have looked till he makes a comment, I'm normally just looking into space I think

9. Ok just read these and they sound awful, he can be lovely, good company, and fun, but I'm getting irritated now hugely, yes been asked to meet his parents and I would never say o no too tired as its in week

Any ideas

Good for you, OP! Have to say he's absolutely awful - how could you think of introducing him to your mum? Do you want to make her cry?

When I see threads like this, I wonder why so many decent guys can be single for ages and guys like this seem to have no difficulty in finding relationships. Why would any sane person put up with that sort of crap for three months, let alone six.

Run away, run away.

He sounds AWFUL! Why is there even any question about whether or not you should be with him? Surely you're not that desperate?

"calls his boss female a slag and a c@@t and says she slept her way to top and wants him and i should be lucky he has morals??"

Deal-breaker. Anyone who talks about any woman like this is a misogynist and should be booted out.

Sorry, posted that before reading the rest - well done OP .

Gives her something to do !!

So women really don't have any lives, desires or thoughts of their own unless it's about housework, or looking after their husbands/children?? You do realise this will be how he thinks of YOU if you ever get married?

Run!

Sorry I know you've already said you'll call it off but I was so taken aback at that

Rest assured I have put up with similar and worse in the past - you're not alone. But be assured that it's absolutely not worth it in the long run - there's no such thing as a fixer-upper in relationships. Hang around here for a while and your standards will become higher and higher and this is only a good thing.

Well done for dumping him!

What a repulsive little man.

From the list you wrote, he not only needed to be dumped but put to sleep as well!

DaveMccave

I was thinking the same assuming his mum is in her late 70's if not 80's why would you think it acceptable for him to allow her to do his washing and cooking. He should be doing it for her not.

It's wimmin's work, innit?

I'm a bloke, dump this loser in a hurry, change your phone number, move house. Seriously, bin him now

Only read first post - my instinct would be to get out. Sorry x

Well done op! You're a lot quicker on the uptake than i was...

Remember when Danny De Vito played the disgusting 'Penguin' in a Batman movie? 'Oswald Cobblepot'? This guy could be his stunt-double....

I think you're being too picky OP. You've got a catch there!

Aw, you let him go :-(

I suggest you treat yourself with he money you would have spent on him for Christmas. And then spend it again .

A guy can't help being short. He can help all the rest of it though.

Hey, now he'll be free to get it together with that female boss, so he too can sleep his way to the top. That's nice.

Did he have any good points? Beyond being alive and being single, which is all I've read from you so far. So many of those list would be grounds for turning him down. Why on earth did you go out with him in the first place? How on earth does a man like that get a girlfriend?? Where did you meet him?

Well done for getting rid - you should be so proud of yourself.

Take some time to focus on yourself so you don't end up with someone like him again.

I have been having a bit of a giggle reading all this. Such a breath of fresh air to know the bastard has been left.
Don't think I will ever stop laughing at his built up shoes.
Glad you did it OP, you can name change now to
'NoOneIsScrapingMyBottoNow'

Come on! This has got to be a wind-up right?

Please tell me it's a wind-up. Please...

So lets get this right.

1. He is unbelievably tight. Probs will never take you out and will leach off of you for all its worth.

2. At 50 years old dosent cook and wash his own clothes even though he lives away from his parents. Not much needs saying here tbh, but he sounds like the kind of man would expect a partner to wait on him hand and foot.

3)The whole farting thing. Just silly and juvenile.

4. Continuous muttering of "fucking cunt" while out. Just who is he actualy insulting, and if he thinks random people are cunts then what level of opinion is reserved for those close to him after a disagreement?

5. Female boss is a slag and cunt who got there by sleeping with people and wants him bad. So he dislikes women being a success and thinks that its only possible for her to have got there by using sex? And he lives in a fantasy realm where he thinks he is some kind of addonis like sex god.

6. The whole built up shoe and hight thing. He has issues with his hight and feels threatened that you as a woman are taller than him?

7. Obsessed with anal sex. Has boundary issues and a lack of respect for you and your body?

8. Controlling bossy and hates you letting your hair down and is paranoid that you are eyeing up other men. BOSSY AND CONTROLLING = RUN!

Put this man down to experience and get out before he becomes even more of a royal PITA. This bloke is an utter tool im afraid and is never going to be good in the long term.

The built up shoes.. I am imagining an old, ugly Tom Cruise