Ginny pigs prove the options are of limited quality - Dating thread 28

[lubeybooby]

New one - chit chat all dating stuff here.

Off you go! :o

[Yogagirl17]

can't sleep

mac yay, that's great!

Aw I luurrrve rubber ducky!

[MacAndCheese]

Thank you Yoga I can't sleep either

Anything in particular keeping you awake?

[Yogagirl17]

First just cause I was thinking about tomorrow's date. Felt a bit nervous. But nice. Then because i got a reply from fuckmuppet XH. Was just thinking of starting a new thread on it. Fucking wanker twat.

[MacAndCheese]

Eek for tomorrow's date! What have you got planned?

WRT exH, it may be therapeutic for you to start a thread and just pour it out? I'm not sure about the number of replies you'd get this time of night, but just getting it out of your system might help you get some sleep.

[Yogagirl17]

Coffee date at a lovely little place nearby.

What about you - what's keeping you up?

[MacAndCheese]

Ooh. Will there be cake?

I don't know what's keeping me up tonight. it's most disconcerting.

[Yogagirl17]

Ooh, cake. I hadn't thought about cake. Mostly I was wondering if there might be kissing? But cake woudl be good too.

I used to have the worst insomnia. I didn't sleep well for YEARS when I was married. And ever since the fucker left I've slept brilliantly. Except for the odd night like this. But how's a girl to look good for her date without sleep? :(

[Yogagirl17]

New thread here if anyone's interested TWAT

[MacAndCheese]

Kissing is good too Yoga. I'm food focussed at the moment.

Hmm, interesting correlation between exH and sleeping patterns. Tosspot. (Him obviously)

"How's a girl to look good for her date without sleep?" - concealer

[StrictlyComeDancingDiva]

Hmmm, just spotted a typo in my late night post! *scrumpy obviously...

[hatesponge]

Yoga good luck with todays date :)

Start of my second to last week in my current job. To say I am looking forward to leaving is an understatement! But not long to go now...also think I might take a look at the dukan following your recommendation Snape. Am feeling v fat and bloated atm so hopefully it will help with that...

[Scattylatte]

Morning.
Feeling a bit gloomy today, not sure why. Got a message from someone on Okc who said he liked my cheerfulness and he likes his women a bit chubby. Most of his pictures are off religious icons and cows. Then of course my lack lustre date from yesterday who wasn't 5ft11 is slightly annoying me because he a) lied about his height and b) didn't even send the no spark text which I think is respectful as I was the one who drove 30mims not him!!

[bantamrooster]

so come on strictly - details on the scrumpiless dating?
yoga - good luck with the coffee
Scatty - annoying when there's no text, maybe he was embarrassed about getting caught obviously lying? I think the 'no spark' text is polite but not essential when it's obvious or in response - just the act of not following up with a request for a second date is enough to send a message, although cowardly

Ah, I've got to work out these rules for ethical dating. And do I reward Nectar points for good behaviour?

[VoiceofUnreason]

bantam - I don't approve of the Nectar points idea. It's like frequent flyer miles and favours those who go on lots of dates which discriminates against those of us in rural areas who have far fewer opportunities.

[natureslaw]

I've been lurking for a while, I'm completely new to OD and terrified!
Can I join in?

[bantamrooster]

Hi Nature - of course you can. The first rule about the dating forum is - you do not talk about the dating forum...

how are you doing so far?

[OhWesternWind]

Hi Nature - course you can! Pull up a chair and fire away . . . (PS It's not scary really, honest)

[bantamrooster]

I was joking about the Nectar points voice and I get your point about those in rural areas. The point of ethical dating though, at least as far as I've got this fuzzy idea in the back of my mind, is that it is aimed at making OD a less confusing and potentially unpleasant process for all involved.

There would be a membership fee, although not as much as match.com. This would give people the ability to contact a certain number of people on the site. Winking would be free, probably.

The fee pays for a certain number of points each month which are used to contact people - this is like Zoosk where you can buy additional points to contact users (if I remember correctly) The difference is that behaving badly - e.g. standing someone up, disappearing off the scene with no reason, sending cockshots or requesting nude pictures etc reduces your points so people shouldn't do it, or at least would be penalised, and would have their profile marked as such : The black mark of shame. That way users can see people who are unreliable, who have turned out to be rude or arrogant on dates, who have dropped off the radar. People can also earn more points by doing things like sending the no spark text. Okay it's not nice to get but it gives closure at least.

So, you know more about what you're getting into and you can earn more points by generally being nice to people.

Yes, people in the city who go on more dates and behave well would earn more points, but also they make dating a bit of a less potentially unpleasant experience for the people they date. Those who go on lots of dates in the city and act badly end up with the mark of shame and lose points to contact people.

[VoiceofUnreason]

bantam - um, you really didn't think I was being serious, did you???? Oh dear...

[VoiceofUnreason]

bantam - additional (non jokey) thought. how do you ensure people are being honest with their 'black marks'? Let's say person A goes on a date with person B. Then on a second date. Person A REALLY likes person B but B doesn't feel the same. Person B declines third date. Person A feels mortally wounded and gives them a black mark.

[Yogagirl17]

Morning. Hi nature - welcome.

Bantam - Can we do "liking" instead of "winking" (winking always strikes me as slightly sleazy)? Also, has anyone noticed on POF there is a way to write a "testimonial"? Problem is by the time you have something negative to say about someone they've probably blocked you! Not sure how to get around that.

[FateLovesTheFearless]

You crazy dating people can sure talk!

Watch - congratulations on the house. Course the rent will stay discounted what with your loveliness and good tenantness. (can hear my communications teacher groaning now )

Bant - glad the date with surreygirl went well! I wouldn't stress over the nice though nice is not one of my favourite words she wants to see you again, win win.

I am like watch with texting, can't be bothered over analysing stuff and just work on the theory of 'hey, this is me. This is how I am. If you don't like it, ah well'

Snape - never mind Sirius Michelin, you know half of mumsnet have a crush on you after the notebook, his loss.

Moving - mismatched sex drives would be a deal breaker for me. Been there in my marriage and wouldn't do it again in the future. Look at the bloke and think to yourself, would I be happy in a years time with him falling asleep on the couch? As long as realistically you aren't expecting too much, like rampant sex after he has worked a twelve hour shift or something, then I wouldn't waste my time to be honest.

Hello to everyone else

I have had a nice weekend, unexpected childfree one as my mother wanted the kids so wasted it reading books and pretending Christmas is still months and months away NL stayed the last two nights, all good. Putting my wee wobble thing down to excess female hormones.

[hatesponge]

I think the black mark thing might end up like negative feedback on Ebay, with potential to be unfairly used by the unscrupulous to destroy someone's otherwise 100% positive rating

Might require more work....

watch - any more house news?? still keeping fingers crossed all works out!

[bantamrooster]

This is all just ideas floating around my head - all input welcome. Not sure if anything will come of it, although by now one of the lurkers may have gone off and started the business already (hint hint)

I think 'smiling' instead of winking - or even liking. It's nice when someone smiles at you in a bar, at a party, whatever. Makes you feel weird when they wink, and you can't really like someone till you've met them can you?

Voice - yes I did think you were serious - that's the problem with chat forums, the dripping sarcasm doesn't quite come across when you just read words on a screen..

Oh and people don't give each other black marks, they are just able to choose from a list of 'offences' - didn't show up, did a disappearing act etc all of which are appealable, - and those who report the faux pas can get a history of being overly critical of other users. If you complain a lot about other users, that shows up on your profile too - not just once or twice though

All this, as I said, is just musings. Would be nice though.

[snapespeare]

I've just woken up really sad. Sirius, bless him was very kind but said there was a lack of 'chemistry' and he saw me as a 'cool friend' rather than anything romantic. So woke up thinking about that, how I always seem to be relegated to 'cool-hot-friend' with anyone I might be remotely interested in a romantic relationship with? which of course leads straight to thinking about Voldie. Then remembered I'd dreamed about Voldie - and it was sad and lovely.

Having a terrible time with DS2, he's still not back at school after being attacked last monday. I am at my wits end. Under usual circumstances I could have told my best friend about this and had some soothing. Unfortuantely, he turned out to be a selfish cunt.

Deleting profiles later, back to the sofa, budge up! I need to use the reamining amount of strength I have on fighting the stupid work decision and on my wonderful darling DCs, not fannying around on OKC.