Ginny pigs prove the options are of limited quality - Dating thread 28

[lubeybooby]

New one - chit chat all dating stuff here.

Off you go! :o

[hatesponge]

Mac how was it?? Spill!

[snapespeare]

Slightly fucked off to be honest. From the point of view that no one I have ever liked has ever liked me. Didn't fancy DCs dad when we met, had ONS that got a bit...complicated (...) i grew to love him, but anyone I have ever thought 'oh! Wow!' at has never reciprocated that 'wow', which sucks a bit.

Good to know re Sirius before owt actually happened, but it sucks. It sucks to have that tiny wee new flame extinguished. Again. Hey ho. All will be well etc. at least I didn't hope too much.

[smoothieooo]

Yoga it's concise, dignified, to the point and reasonable. Although given his previous form, it might be too much to ask for a satisfactory response.

[lubeybooby]

Oh cross posted with loads!

Snape, ah well. Sounds like a nice day out was had though

Yoga, still think another thread would be a good idea - but I agree with the others saying don't engage on that kind of level with him, but I think a simple no will be interpreted as you being difficult

I would say "No, because going on your past form, I do not trust you to behave rationally and respectfully towards me for any length of time"

Then he knows it's him, but you haven't got emotional about it.

[lubeybooby]

Argh, cross posted again.

Snape - a definite hug!

[Scattylatte]

Hello MLM. So pleased you are ok.

Snape. I won't hear from my walking date. Not bothered. But part of me things, hang on how could you not like me. But that's my ego.

Mac and cheese. Spill

Sponge any LC developments?

[Scattylatte]

It sucks Snape. Definitely.

[MyLittleMiracles]

We are all gorgeous amazing intelligent women granted in my case none of those are true so any one who doesnt want a second date is obviously a stupid arse incompatible

[MacAndCheese]

Well, we had a few drinks. Was a bit as he was late but that's because I'm always early

He's nice. Not particularly chatty, but nice enough company - we have a few things in common. and he's bloody gorgeous

He just texted me to say it was nice chatting to me and that he hoped I enjoyed it.

[bantamrooster]

Snape - yes, a bit crap. But, at least you heard back and know where you stand. And you didn't seem that keen on him immediately afterwards - or it didn't come across that way. Onwards and upwards, eh?

Mac - I second Latte. Spill.

[MacAndCheese]

Oh Snape. Most definitely his loss. (Hug)

[snapespeare]

Meh. Deleted his number. Not quite sure why he felt the need to check my ok profile twice after saying goodbye (what, just to make sure there was no spark...?) but i'm clearly used to rejection. Honestly no biggie. :-)

[snapespeare]

MLM!!! Hello! :)

[bantamrooster]

Ah. You spilled. Want to do a second date with him? Sounds like he wants one.

MLM - I'll grant you I'm gorgeous amazing and intelligent (and I'm blushing here) but I call you on your last point. And your strikethroughs

[Yogagirl17]

Mac could be wrong but you don't sound overly enthused?

[hatesponge]

I like Lubeys suggestion :)

Snape :( about today but I'm not sure I've ever had the 'wow' moment really, maybe I did with the lovely Ex, but not other than that. My general thoughts about men who've liked me in the past have been 'he'll do' Not exactly the stuff dreams are made of...

I did once meet someone who literally made me weak at the knees the first time I saw him, but to say he was uninterested in me despite me spending hours on the phone with him and giving him a tonne of free legal advice would be an understatement.

Scatty I always do the 'how could you not like me' thing too. I just tell myself there are a lot of very stupid men out there :)

MLM good to see you back. Hope all is well with you!

[MacAndCheese]

No don't get me wrong, I'd like to see him again. But I couldn't read him, it was most perturbing for me. I'm used to being able to read people to a certain extent.

[MacAndCheese]

Do you think bantam? I mean he could just be downplaying it, he did find me funny what can I say, I'm hilarious after a few drinks but I'm the body language person.

[hatesponge]

Mac I hate not being able to read people. Happened to me with TheBarbour. Couldn't tell at all if he was interested during the date, or really from his texts after, not even when he asked to see me again (not that I ever did)

when a few weeks later he sent me a pic of his bath followed by a cock shot it became more clear where his interest lay .

[MacAndCheese]

Sounds like such a catch sponge

I mean I think he's interested, but you never can tell.

[Yogagirl17]

Mac hmm, don't know what to make of that.

Snape sorry that really is . I'm half expecting something similar tomorrow (is this a good time for the wet fish?)

And sorry for attempted thread hijack. Thanks for replies. Am going to go with a much more abbreviated response along the lines of what lubey said.

[mercury7]

MLM!!:)

[bantamrooster]

Mac - him saying 'hope you enjoyed it' is ambiguous, but it could mean he's not going to put himself out there and be vulnerable, say he loved it and ask for a second date only to get shot down - instead he's saying 'I enjoyed myself, please tell me you did too, then maybe I'll feel confident enough to ask you out again - or ideally you'll suggest it'

So, you have a few choices - what do you want - a second date with him but not risk getting turned down by asking him for one?

[MacAndCheese]

Bantam - if he didn't like me, do you think he'd text me 10 minutes after I left?

I need to think. I think I'm so used to men being overtly interested that I'm not sure how to handle someone who comes across as neutral anymore. That's the thing with OD - if you're in contact with someone, you know beforehand if they're interested.

[MacAndCheese]

^ I sound like such a teenage there

let's ignore the fact that I technically still am