Ginny pigs prove the options are of limited quality - Dating thread 28

[lubeybooby]

New one - chit chat all dating stuff here.

Off you go! :o

thanks , i dont think ill get the house now. I had an old ccj which i couldnt remember if i had or not.... from 4 years ago for 140. checked my experian report and it wasnt on there, done some googling on the reliability of such, then realised it was registered at an old address, updated it, and paid for an additional search with another company - and yep, there it is :(
it this doesnt immediatley cut of out of renting ANY house, as it seems from most to do...
i do have a guarantor, but the private landlord has also requested a ' affordibility' check, meaning my guarantors wages have to be 60% more than the rent. which they arent. I didnt realise this at the time... ive now got to call my agent and hope i can add my dad as a guarantor too, i would have put him first had i of known they were checking that as he earns more than mum.

in any case its pretty much shite.

Sorry to hear that watch

Well 2nd date of the week tonight .. This time with TheLecturer .. He seems very nice .. He Has been winding me up that he'll be wearing velvet flares, a fedora and a bright coloured cape (well I hope he is kidding) but feel quite bad as I really like TheAuditor and am going on a 2nd date with him next week .. This is really my first time of going out with different people at the same time and it feels a bit dishonest

Any views?

Ps TheAuditor texted me last night to tell me what he had for his dinner so it must be catching!! :)

My god Watch these landlords are all powerful, bloody hell! Wow...can't believe all the hoops and criteria required. Hopefully it will be worth it, I hope you do get this house.

Hi everyone!

meh. ive spoken to her and she said it will all be fine, the most important thingis my ref from current agent that says ive paid on time for the last 4 years.
and it will work out
shes going to sort it out so i can resubmit it with my dad as the guarantor, and says i shouldnt have to pay again. so, hopefully that will be tomorrow morning.

watch I so hope you get the house! keeping things xxx'd for you

Kirsty I know what you mean, I don't think I've ever gone on dates with different people at the same time but it's not really dishonest. You've only been on one date, just enjoy and see how you feel.

Meanwhile, I swear if one more bloody person tells me not to worry, I will get a job soon, I am going to punch them in the face. Or cry. Or both. Probably just cry actually. Advisor told me to dumb down my CV. :<

(Spaghetti, salad & garlic bread by the way)

Urgh yoga, thats shit.
I got told that once. Because apparently men will be intimidated and its men who do the hiring.

Dont do it. Hold your head high, be proud of what you have done and wait it out. ( exactly what you dont want to hear)

No dinner for me. Far too stressed/ worried to eat a thing :(

Actually watch her point was that people will see that the jobs I've had before have been much higher level/higher earning and assume I won't stick around for very long. I would never 'dumb down' in person but if stripping some stuff off my CV is going to at least get me through the door it might be worth it. You should eat something. Chocolate is something. x

Oh. See mine was re men. It was in army germany though and would have been working under officers who had less business accumin than a slug. A more ' meek type of woman' was favoured.
Reason number 2001 why im glad im not married to forces any more.
:)

You could tinker with ypur cv depending on who you are sending it to?

I have no chocolate/ cake / nice things in the house, they would have been eaten ages ago if i haf!

watch Dont make me moan at you...YOU NEED TO EAT, just something I know its hard when you are stressed, but its only the same advice you would give anyone else. And i really hope you get the house.

yoga i do hope you find work soon.

As for me, need help with my excuses, someone asked for my number today and the only thing that came out was i cant, i'm married , but i felt a little guilty cos i'm not really married anymore, but it was the only thing that came to mind, any excuses gratefully accepted.

Missing a close mate at the moment too cos i dont get to see them as much now i am back at mum's.

Hope everyone is ok

mlm i think a white lie in those circs is easier - no need to explain yourself to people, if the quickest and simplest thing to say is sorry I'm married/not single' then say it. theres no reason to feel bad for not being in the right place for dating or to have other things going on in your life which are a greater priority :)

watch that's good news re the house, I agree that 4 years of prompt payment of rent says a lot more about you as a tenant than a very old CCJ for a small amount of money. I dont think anyone's credit history is perfect. fingers crossed you get the confirmation its all ok v soon.

joy thank you :) I'm not sure what if anything will happen but I think I've done what felt right for me, even if it isnt actually the right thing to do.

Re the opening up, it's a funny thing, I am in some ways a very open person, will tell most people any old stuff about myself. In other ways though I'm v closed off - ie almost everyone I know is well aware my Ex and I don't get on at all, that I think he's a complete plank and have as little to do with him as possible. However theres only 2 people (other than me and Ex, and on here) who know about all the awful DV stuff that went on, I've never told anyone else, not sure if I ever would now.

Chat with job person went well... She doesn't work on the same team as the job I'm going for, but explained the structure and it sounds like a really good opportunity.

Waited ages at the GP. Poor DS. Got an urgent referral to CAHMS, in the meantime we're just left to get on with it. GP very disparaging about schools attempts to tackle bullying. I'm in a guns blazing mood.

MLM good to 'see' you. :)

Question for everyone - who has dark hair, a red jumper and quite a large face? It's from a profile comment and I'm stumped...

snape Any ideas how fast an urgent referral happens?

watch keeping fingers crossed for the house.

Kirsty I hope you enjoy your date tonight. I understand how you feel. Not really dishonest as only one date, but personally I only like to date one person at a time! Maybe a couple of dates and see how it goes?

bantam google shows it's from a show called 'nighty night' about a girl called Jill signing up to a dating agency.....

strictly. Urgent?! Probably 6 months meanwhile I have daily battles to get him to school, mealy mouthed 'we don't tolerate bullying' lines from the school and having to draw on everything I have to get through each day. Trying to explain to a 14 year old, in tears, that giving up lets them win, that he is SO talented and special and people see that and hate it and that we have to keep on, because he could make such a difference in the world...oh I'm exhausted.

though.

bantam - mother Christmas ?

Evening all. Have been lurking for the past 5 or so threads and finally decided to bite the bullet and pipe up. Single since April after LT disaster of a relationship, resulting in anything-but disastrous 2.4yo DS. Signed up to GSM on Monday as am within striking distance of decent-sized party city on the south coast. What is the 'form' when it comes to this OD malarkey? Should I be 'liking' willy-nilly, or wait for the prey to approach? Also, best friend (male) has offered to edit my profile, as he is an old hand at the OD stuff, but I am quite happy with it - though fear it may be slightly too caustically offputting - shall I accept?

I'm already completely invested in all your escapades and logging on to these threads of an evening has become somewhat of a compulsion.

Hmm, just been on the phone with the Engineer for 40 minutes or so....and I'm bored. That's not good. His voice really is a bit grating. And after I had a bit of a rant about the whole job thing we ended up talking about loft insulation and boilers. I think I preferred it when we were talking about food. Anyway, we're meeting tomorrow for a walk (weather permitting) followed by something to eat. ARe some people just not phone people? Cause he's funny & witty in his emails, and was not bad in person, but the phone thing is making me feel a bit

TheLecturer had no vavavoom :-( made my excuses and left

Going to my BFF's to drink wine and eat crisps instead .. Sounds like a much better plan :)

Hey Bomber, welcome to the thread. As you know I run a small sideline business reviewing profiles :) I'm happy to take a look from a bloke-who-doesn't-know-you-perspective, although I think any outside opinion helps.

The general rule is that you will be winked at, liked etc by a lot of men you really don't like the look of, although GSM may be better than most (sponge, didn't you use GSM?) - better quality profiles at least, although not as many.

I'm sure other people on here can give good advice on what's worked for them. Personally I love to be winked at/mailed - although it's rare that they're from someone I want to meet..

Snape- it should be a lot quicker than that ( have worked in that field) if ypu havent heard anything in a week, chase it.
Call a meeting with the head. Go in hard. Tell them abput the referal. Cpuld he go in half days for a while? Tell them ypu want dailu feedback in email form.
Sorry you have to keep fighting. Its the hardest thing.

Hi, bantam, thanks for the coaching. I'm sure GSM is mega-limiting in terms of volume, but I'm a fussy cow... Have had messages from several poh-tay-toes so far, but there are 2 chaps whose cut-of-jib appeals in the local area. So I shall do as you advise and message.

I hope you hear something, anything, from SG in response to your text. As a former cam-dweller, with several friends still in the town, I can imagine how small your pool is and you seem über-lovely, so I hope things work out for you.

bantam yes and no, I was on there but not a paid member, I don't really appeal to the GSM demographic MadameO was on GSM though and met her DP on there, so it can be done! :) (welcome Bomber by the way)

Kirsty don't worry about thelecturer, at least now you know - and have date with theauditor to look forward to.

Yoga some people aren't phone people, but if it's his voice thats irritating not just the conversation topics, isnt it still irritating in person, or does he have a 'phone voice'? to be fair I can chat for England, but I cant spend 40 mins on the phone to anyone even my best mate, I get bored

and hi peruna :)
and hi to other newbies i might have missed. bit distracted at the mo.

bant - did surrey girl respond yet?