Hello 
Thank for the replies last night.
Pix- I have done my fair share of rescuing er,unusual men - even marrying one,which didn't workout for reasons unrelated to his extreme quirkiness.
I seem to like quirky people....which leads me to my 1st date,which will move on to 2nd this Saturday. I deliberately kept emails and chat to a bare minimum this time,as with my last date we had chatted for hours on the phone twice and messaged loads,all appeared very promising,but I knew as I saw him cross the road on the way to meet ,me,that there would be no spark. As indeed tere was not - for me. He said he felt plenty and wanted to meet again,offerring to show me how chemistry could be found. ...I blocked him.
So,last Friday,I met music man (mm) for coffee,which became drinks,which became a meal and turned into wine and snogs at the station before the last train home...which I missed due to snogging,so I stayed at his house,which is in town. In the spare room,it was all very polite and sensible,although we snogged a bit...but just weren't ready to get intimate. Conversation was obviously excellent - we laughed loads and were interested in lots about each other,whilst keeping things on easy topics - music,books and stuff,as in,not exes or deep heavy intimate stuff...all good for me...I have jumped into connections far too quickly,and felt responsible ,then, for politely hanging on in there!
Chemistry...I don't think i know what this means for me any more,having learnt not to be drawn by initial powerful attraction (red flag). He is attractive and stylish and there was definitely something there over dinner and later,although wine was involved by then. I am impressed that we both stayed sensible and grown up,and will remain as grown up and objective as possible during date 2,which is due to be another meal...stopover optional.....