Ginny pigs prove the options are of limited quality - Dating thread 28

[lubeybooby]

New one - chit chat all dating stuff here.

Off you go! :o

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Wow, pixwix, you are my new hero (sorry, Joyless)

Bantam i hate to say it but story with Surrey girl is sounding a lot like me & Mr60 (not exactly but a lot of similarities). We emailed and talked for ages before we actually met. When we did meet there was a huge amount of anticipation & build up and the face to face meeting lived up to that. There was great, great chemistry & real emotional connection as well. But right from the start there was a worry about the distance and only a couple of weeks in he ended it because even though the distance was 'doable' we couldn't just pop round for coffee or Coffee! ON the one hand I was really quite heartbroken because i'd fallen for him very quickly. On the other hand, I don't regret meeting him for a minute because it did give me hope that I can find that connection with someone.

Help! Not having a good morning. I'm finally coming to the end of sorting out property etc with ex, sale should go through on Monday. But I've found the process really difficult, has brought back a lot of memories. Have had to spend time this morning on phone sorting out a few last minute problems. Am now having a major wobble, have had to go and hide in loo cos crying and shaking, palpitations etc. feel shite. Help please.

OWW it's going to be ok hon and so are you

Oh Western, I can imagine how hard that must be. Just breathe, although the emotions may feel overpowering, remember it IS memories, it's not happening now. Right now you are ok and safe and have people who care about you. Am here to (virtually) hold your hand for a bit. xx

You Ok Western? You still breathing? (If anyone asks why you were crying just tell them you were watching a really sad cat video on youtube)

Thank you, sorry for being such a pain. Back at my desk now and looking (I hope) vaguely normal. Totally taken by surprise by the negative feelings today, thought I would be cock-a-hoop to have the completion date through and finally be able to sever all ties with him. I am, well, more relieved than anything, but thinking about the house has brought up all sorts of shitty memories, have to keep talking about him to estate agent/solicitor etc, keep explaining the situation why he can't be allowed to see any of my contact details when he comes in to sign contracts etc, really brought it all back. Thanks again, will get through it.

Supposed to be seeing Lovely Man tonight - sent a jokey text earlier this morning to ask what he fancies doing but no reply yet. Usually would be chilled about this but coupled with shakiness about ex, I'm not feeling too good. Not sure if I should see him tonight if I am feeling so wobbly.

OWW, I'll hold your hand too. My ex and I sold our house a few months ago. I was really looking forward to it all going through and finally being able to start a life without him.

So it really took me by surprise how bad I felt when the day came. Like you say, there were so many memories, plus the practical stuff to sort out, and I just couldn't cope with it. I ended up crying most of the day, huddled on the floor shaking, and even walking round the streets crying as I couldn't bear to be in the house. I had no one to help my through it, and it was awful.

I think this is the worst time, though - once this bit is over, things WILL improve. I hope you're starting to feel a little better now. Sit down with a cup of tea maybe? (A cliche, but I find it sometimes helps).

Don't apologise, glad you're feeling a bit better but go easy on yourself today. if what you need is time to yourself tonight then do that. Aside from all the memories, relief can also be an incredibly powerful emotion - sometimes you don't realise how much you've been holding onto until you're finally able to let go of it. Don't hesitate to PM if you want to chat more.

Thanks Libby - yes, yes, yes to everything you said in your post. Going to make a cup of coffee and take it easy this afternoon. Got to phone solicitor so might do that sooner rather than later just to get it over with. At least I'm not living in the house or anything, we are settled in a different part of the UK so at least there are no practical/moving issues to go with it. Roll on next week, though.

And thanks Yoga too, will take you up on that . . .

I'm back!

Oh OWW memories can ambush you can't they? I hope your LM gets in touch and says/does all the right things - here have a .

Well, my date....

I wore a dress, but not the one upthread, with thick tights and a long cardigan and boots.

He rang me twice before I got to coffee shop . He met me outside coffee shop and embraced me and kissed my cheek as a greeting.

I was too nervous to eat cake but had coffee. We chatted, all the taboo/wrong topics, that is just me, small talk is not my forte. We laughed, I did not have to explain my jokes. Very relaxed, nice.

Walked me to car, kisses and cuddles before arranging next date - drinks and meals, next Thursday.

Have sent him a 'thank you and I like you mail' (told you, rules mean nothing to me).

Let's hope he is on the same page and firms up (no pun intended!) the details for next Thursday.

Nice one wff. Sometimes the rules are just etiquette more than anything else. If it feels right to break them, do it.

Just had reply to my text 'yes, I fancy you, and I will sort out details for Thursday'

Yay!

Great stuff WFF!!!

Ooh fantastic Fuzzy!!
I got cake on my date on Monday but no kisses. I think you did better.

I wore a dress, Yoga, dresses have magical qualities

hmm fuzzy, i wore jeans on monday - maybe i'll have to go for a dress on Friday!

Yeah dresses, I am mounting a campaign, dresses rule!

Probably not on me though..

Oh I don't know Bant what state are your legs in?

I am partial to a man in touch with his female side

Fuzzy - how about long, tunic type top with black leggings and knee-high boots? Or does it have to be an actual dress?

Tunics are great, I don't own one myself being a hardcore dress mistress (too busty for tunic style) but that outfit sounds really nice Yoga.

Ha -well I don't have to worry about being too busty!

Excellent WFF :o