Ginny pigs prove the options are of limited quality - Dating thread 28

[lubeybooby]

New one - chit chat all dating stuff here.

Off you go! :o

Moving I had an ex I felt like that about in that umm... department. Then I met BC

Definitely have a talk. I think this is a dealbreaker for you. It is for me too!

Lubey - I know I should, but I really can't be bothered with all the creams and jazz, I barely bother with makeup most of the time. Every so often I go through phases of beauty stuff but it never lasts. I will just be old and wrinkly and alone.

So that's an intersting one. What's the worst mid-date get out excuse you've heard? Or used?

Bantam - are you referring to Dog's post or did you just have someone ditch you halfway through coffee??

Dogs post, and the traffic meter thing earlier, which probably wasn't invented if he turned out keen but is still a bit crap. I was in the middle of a date I thought was okay ish and we'd joked about bad excuses people made before 'oh my child is sick' being one. Then she got a call that her child was sick and she had to go. And never replied to my texts afterwards, so I got the feeling it was an excuse.

Anyone ever had 'my house is on fire' or something?

Luckily I have never been excused mid date. Although I dont even get a date so thats not suprising.
So, one more addition to the "im on a dating site yet dont want to meet" gang. This one messaged me first. No immediate issues, not edging towards filth. He only lives in the next town so not far either.
So talking about POF in general he then says "I do a lot of messaging but I rarely meet people. Maybe I shouldnt chat to women that I will probably never meet - but then Im only trying to be polite/nice"
So, there we go...another non meeter. FFS
A vanisher reappeared saying his mother is very ill and his sister is very ill. Yeah..
Snape/Sponge. How are you today?
Watch - when do you move in?

closest I came to bailing was, after about an hour chatting in a pub I stood up, said, I'm going to catch my train now, and left

The parking meter one was mine I might've been more offended had I actually liked him!

Not one that happened to me but the guy I mentioned upthread who 'dumped' me first date for being online late at night (and called me a player ) told me he had once gone to a pub to meet a date. He didn't spot her as she looked nothing like her photo, and she had to come over and introduce herself to him. At which point he said 'I'm sorry you look much older than expected, I'm not interested' and left . Given his subsequent behaviour to me I strongly suspect he actually was that rude.

Scatty I cannot understand all the men who just want to chat, tis v v weird. I suspect actually a lot are married/in relationships. Or possibly just scared of women. I'm very good thanks, calmness and serenity (well ok maybe not the latter!) all restored...for the time being anyway :)

Sponge I remember that bloke and from what you said he was a bit psycho, but this:
'I'm sorry you look much older than expected, I'm not interested'
is a line that I'd feel justified in using if someone had mislead me with their photo's

No bail mid date, I just know now that "I'll call you tomorrow" means I'm never going to hear from them again.

Also had the you look nothing like your photo (I do). The last one said I just wasn't photogenic I'm sure it was to put me off balance as he turned out to have a history of control issues. Yes, I got all this on the first date.

DP actually looks 10 years younger in RL, and his photos do too. Just sayin'.
Moving You may not have what you had with the ex, but you can have something new and better with someone else which is completely different. Give someone else a chance to get to know you, and you may be surprised.

Ex was the love of my life at the time, which made sex awesome, but coming to terms with what he was - controlling abusive and emotionally immature - really extinguished that spark [shudder] I had a wee snoop on FB as he friended someone I know and he's still surrounded by grinning pretty young things. It mystifies me that they can't see through his mask. But then again, neither could I once when I was deluded and mentally ill and it's no longer my problem.

maybe alot of these guys are just looking for the ego boost, to see if they can still pull?

Evening all Sponge your parking meter tosser date sounds delightful why didn't you snap him up?!

Hmm mercury that's a point actually.

if I'm honest thats what I use if for alot of the time, bit of an ego boost, actually meeting someone seems like a bit too much hard work, especially if I have to go anywhere thats over 15 minutes walk away

So, get this. The Engineer briefly (and many years ago obviously!) went to the same school my children used to go to. His sisters went to the same school my children go to now. As many of my own friends went to one or both of these schools we may well know some of the same people.

So far the only downside is he works weird shifts. We have another daytime date planned for Friday but I was hoping for an evening. Much harder to initiate any kissing in the cold light of day!

Oh, the other problem is, he keeps suggesting places to meet that my ex-MIL and all her friends are likely to frequent. I don't want him to think I'm hiding him or embarrassed to be seen or anything...but it would be awkward, especially at this stage when we don't know each other very well yet. I already changed the venue for our first date for this reason. Help.

This happened a little while ago, and is my worse date ever...

Went on a date with a guy who looked lovely in his photos, very Bohemian, long hair , olive skin, great smile.
Went to a lot of trouble getting to venue where we decided to meet up ? wine bar on the wrong side of Oxford.

Anyway he turns up about 2 stone heavier than his photo and his trousers were too short, displaying white socks. He sits down and in his ?outside? voice proceeds to ask me ?So what sort of things do you like in bed?? The place went quiet, I took a swallow of wine, and said ? So, difficult journey?? He had a very loud voice and keep asking the wrong kind of questions even though I tried to steer the conversation onto more neutral topics. After 20 mins I said ? Sorry but I need to go?

He rang me later to ask if I would meet him again as he thought I didn?t give him sufficient opportuntiy!

I was glad that I would never visit that wine bar ever again

I have a date tomorrow...just coffee with Action Man, you know the type lots of photos enjoying sports etc on profile.

Although I have had to explain a couple of my jokes so don't know how well things will go. (Subtext, he might be a bit thick)

Hello my dating comrades, we will fight on!

(Voice, I look very young for my age, I got ID'd a short while back...)

hmmm when you are trying to move on with life and have your new man, his sisters and his mother as your new FB friends, it isn't terribly helpful when a well meaning friend posts her "I'm trying to get over my failed marriage" blog on your wall, with the message, "I posted this today and thought of you, hope you find this relevant and interesting" and the title linked to a post entitled "Runaway husbands and the wives they leave behind".

Makes me look sooo together and over everything ......

lulubella sometimes you don't need friends like that eh? WTF..

lubey I think it could be a deal breaker! I now need more action then ever before!

Today I was at work and was told to go to the bank, and drop something off at the post office on the way! So I got on the bus, went to the post office waited in the que! I then went to sainsburys and bought myself a drink and waited at the bus stop to go back to work!

Three hours later I looked in my bag and saw the money for the bank

I then realised I didn't even go to the bank, and I think the reason is because I can't concentrate because I am f**king frustrate!!!!

madame the problem is mr workaholic isn't a new man! We started seeing each other two years ago and have been very on and off since then! Alot off this year, but finally we seem to both be making an effort right now!

He knows I have a massively high sex drive! And since we have been together this time we spent two whole nights together as in sleeping in the same bed and not me sending him home because dd was home as usual!

And on both occasions we had sex only once! That's including the evening we spent together and the next morning!

Both times I tried to kiss him and initiate sex, but it didn't happen! But he was very cuddly and affectionate! But not SEX!!!!! Twice

moving I think you should get a small team of men, they can have a rota:o