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Ginny pigs prove the options are of limited quality - Dating thread 28

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lubeybooby · 11/11/2012 18:45

New one - chit chat all dating stuff here.

Off you go! :o

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MadameOvary · 13/11/2012 19:08

lulubella - I'd swiftly "lose" that post I think!
Moving Oh dear! It does seem like a sign that something has to change!

snapespeare · 13/11/2012 19:14

madame I will, but I can't find it.

Had a date once when lovely man I still remember fondly said he might need to leave early as he had some Belgians staying. That's as the best he could do for a get-out-clause. :-) aft a few beers he admitted it was a get-out & we stayed until after-last-orders and stumbled back to the bus stop. Sadly he had a girlfriend. Twat. Wink

Text from the ex ' I need your advice re online dating...' Trying to find out what site he is on so I can share his profile and we can laugh warn you all off... Transpires a woman drove to Scotland from Winchester to have sex stay with him, 'great sex, obviously nothing comparable to you and I and I mean that xxx'

Shock

Response: ha. Oh fuck off. I've had better

Cheeky fucker. Why didn't you keep your dick in your pants then? Tsk.

mercury7 · 13/11/2012 19:16

4 messages in a row from this bloke:
him-Hey sexy how are you today ? your so fit yummy hot hot well no no your not hot to be honest ,,, your hell it self I think anything come close to you it'll melt , wish I was Ice man to get the chance to come close without being scared of melting rawwwwwww what you up to gorgeous ? Xxx can we swap some pictures please, or we can meet now go for coffee or something . x

me-Hi thanks for your messages, I like your profile but you're probably a bit far away x

him-Hey princess thanks for the replay and no your not far darling your about 45 minute driving and for a lady like your self I don't mind driving there every day mmmmmm and by the way if you read my profile I do travel a lot for my business as I buy and sell cars , and buy used and stock clothing and ship them out side the country x and I would like to take you out at lease for coffee or dinner and see how it goes xxx am inviting you miss yummy x what you up to ? Tonight or tomorrow night ? X

him-Ive just check now where you live it's 30 minute driving with the way I drive :) cos it says 50 mile from here princess xxx so of you like we can have dinner tonight ;) xxx

him- please text me or missed call me and I'll call you back and if we click on the phone then we can meet if not I won't be bothering you ever again x if you can't trust me with your mobile number then you can call me withheld for 5 or 10 minute and if you felt comfortable then you give yours so I call you and you save your minutes xxx

manic..ever so slightly:o Confused

snapespeare · 13/11/2012 19:17

Oh! And something non dating related, but lovely happened today.., someone I was a bit kind to a few years ago messaged me on fb today, saying he'd heard of a job I should apply for, met him for a coffee, his wife works at my place and he was picking up some stuff for her and he talked me through the job and then set up a coffee with someone in the owning vacancy area...I could do the job standing on my head, so things might look a bit better financially if I get it. Love the job I'm doing just now, but desperately need the cash, it's mat leave cover and would sparkle on my CV.

What a lovely bloke, to think of me. :)

mercury7 · 13/11/2012 19:18

Transpires a woman drove to Scotland from Winchester to have sex stay with him
nah, I dont believe it, we all know how easy it is for women to get a shag, who would go all that way for sex??

snapespeare · 13/11/2012 19:20

I went to Chicago for a shag... well, several Mind you that wasn't my ex. I wouldn't cross the road for him.

mercury7 · 13/11/2012 19:21

c'mon, women dont have to travel to get sex!

MadameOvary · 13/11/2012 19:36

mercury and everyone else- is it just me who would run a mile from the first message, let alone the rest???!!
Snape Ok cryptic lady Grin Great news on the job front. I am a great believer that when you ditch freeloaders (including the emotional ones) then it frees up space for good stuff to come into your life

WarmFuzzyFun · 13/11/2012 19:37

I'll go back to lurking then Sad

As you were...

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lubeybooby · 13/11/2012 19:40

Oh ffs. BC is driving me quite mad at the moment. So quiet, but insists he is fine, just busy and frazzled. He had better pull his socks up because I adore his penis & can't be arsed to write a dating profile it would be a shame to throw away everything we've managed to work through.

Rant over - as you were.

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lubeybooby · 13/11/2012 19:42

Whats up WarmFuzzyFun? Confused

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Movingforward123 · 13/11/2012 19:46

mercury a small team might be the way to go Grin although I would rather not feel like I'm sleeping around so would limit myself to 3 Grin

I was actually thinking about it today and thinking about contacting fwb! I know if we went out to get dunk, we would go back to mine and spend a good few hours having sex! Then I might possibly calm down!

But he is a arse and since I told him I won't be sleeping with him he hasn't really spoke to me, even tho he claims our friendship comes before the benefits but HmmHmm lying toad!! Lol

Movingforward123 · 13/11/2012 19:46

lubey how long have you been with bc?

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lubeybooby · 13/11/2012 19:54

All fine moving and very good even up til about about the last week or so - trying to sort out meeting up etc and it's like talking to a brick wall. I know what it's like myself when it's a very busy time and things are up in the air and it's hard to nail down a definite date (distance not helping there either) but arrrgghh he's just so distracted and I'm starting to run out of patience. And half wondering if I'm about to get another dumping, although he has promised me he will talk if there's a problem or anything and has kept that promise beautifully after our last wobble...

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lubeybooby · 13/11/2012 19:55

Doh! I read your question wrong - errr... dating since march, 'together' since april

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mercury7 · 13/11/2012 20:12

yes clearly a nutter MadameO, not bad looking and 10 years younger than me, but still a nutter:o

Yogagirl17 · 13/11/2012 20:31

mercury holy shit, I would have blocked him after the first one!

snape Oh god, as much as I really want date 2 with the Engineer to go well, I'm just dying to have an excuse to use the phrase "Sorry but I have some Belgians staying"! Grin Cool about the job thing. Oh, and you definitely owe it to us Scottish MNers to identify and out your ex pls!

Wonder how Kirsty is getting on with Mr Checklist (aka the Auditor)

Yogagirl17 · 13/11/2012 20:31

WarmFuzzy what's happened?

FlorentinePogen · 13/11/2012 20:45

Mercury, pishing myself at your posts from mad mental car dealer .......Smile
He sounds like Harry Enfield's ex-alter ego Stavros.....Hmm

mercury7 · 13/11/2012 20:56

he's calmed down a little:
'What do you think princess !?? X'

I'll hafta block him!

bantamrooster · 13/11/2012 21:08

Mercury - so do you just block him without a word, or give him some feedback, then block him?

like 'sorry, you come across as really intense and a bit odd, try just chatting like a normal person next time, and get the message after the 4th time I didn't reply'

block..

might make him less of a tit to other people

Yogagirl17 · 13/11/2012 21:13

bant don't know about mercury, but I would have blocked without comment after "your so fit yummy hot hot" !!

bantamrooster · 13/11/2012 21:22

yeah I've been getting on my high horse a bit. As I'm waiting to see if things work out with Surrey Girl I'm not doing my usual thing of just jumping back on the OD site to mail people and be witty and charming again - kind of bored of it now.

Instead I saw someone with the most arrogant profile I'd seen, I think. I DON'T Like X, I HATE y, if you do z you're an arsehole

which may sound okayish, but x was bald people, y was short people, z was smokers. I've heard about short men considering suicide because everyone literally and figuratively looks down on them, so starting off an online profile, which is meant to be attractive, she's just doing it wrong while potentially upsetting lots of people.

Plus, I get that she may not want to meet a short bald smoker, but just starting off your profile with a rant puts anyone off, including tall hairy non smokers.

So I mailed her and told her she looked really attractive, and articulate, and lived near me, but her hate-filled profile was just offensive. I haven't heard back

WarmFuzzyFun · 13/11/2012 21:33

Sorry Yoga and Lubey,

I am fine, popped offline for awhile, kids etc. Didn't mean to post and run.

I feel I don't have as much going on as the rest of you guys, (I am to blame for not telling you all very much about me and my situation, so it makes it difficult to connect with me and my happenings I guess).

Perhaps lurking is the way to go. I have felt that I am 'in the way' as my posts tended to be overlooked.

WarmFuzzy is signing off to lurk...wish me luck on my date tomorrow. I sent him a text to check he would turn up, and he called me to reassure me that he wouldSmile. I think I like him...

questions2008 · 13/11/2012 21:35

bant sounds like you're on a mission!

mercury I cringed when I saw replay instead of reply, that just hurts my eyes.

I'm trying to let down a guy who can't speak english very well, but he's just spent half an hour seranading me in another language. I feel mean just saying no now. Help!