I get what you are saying about enabling him but what am I supposed to do?
In this instance there was a large amount of money at stake for us as a family
If this document hadn't have been on a certain desk there would have been massive financial implications, and we desperately need the money
He has never used the copier/scanner in our house so it was easier for me to do it
Yes, maybe there's an argument that he should know how to use it, but the way the division of labour is in our household, is these type of things are my job.
He works 80/90 hours a week, with international travel on top of that
Really all I do is make sure his shirts are dry cleaned and make his dinner.
Am I supposed to stop doing that stuff to teach him a lesson?
Or maybe I'm supposed to give him physical and emotional support
We have had relationship counselling, it was good simply because it made him realise how unreasonable he is
He has had personal counselling, most recently 5 sessions of cbt.
I don't think 5 sessions scratched the surface
He has been to the GP at my insistence(he knows it's necessary)
He has been given anti depressants, but again not scratching the surface, v low dose
He is going back next week to discuss increasing the dosage
I'm having counselling myself now
The suggestion that I am getting some sort of self esteem boost or payback is quite offensive, but I can see how it looks like that
I don't play games like that, consciously or otherwise
Yes, there's a certain satisfaction in saying "there, see how easy it is"
But it's not part of our relationship dynamic
It's really difficult to explain everything in detail on here
And please don't think that I am now defending him
I'm just addressing some questions
His behaviour is unacceptable, full stop.
There are some valid reasons for it, but a large part is down to his selfishness and generally being a cunt
The big question is where does support become enabling
How much is a wife supposed to do in the name of marriage?
I think I've done as much as can be expected, and this is the end of the line.
No more chances