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Bizarroville!! PoshBoys, Muppets, Surgeons, nurses, coffee addicts and RL - dating thread 27!

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lubeybooby · 05/11/2012 21:40

Roll up roll up get yer dating chat here... all kinds of dating...

Online, RL, established, new, join in and blether away!

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bantamrooster · 09/11/2012 21:00

I. Have a date. With SurreyGirl. In London. On Sunday.

oh fuckmuppets. I have nothing to wear.

Lueji · 09/11/2012 21:01

Wear nothing?

going now

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lubeybooby · 09/11/2012 21:04

bantam :o

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snapespeare · 09/11/2012 21:10

Baaaaaaaaaantaaaaaaaaaam!!!

bantamrooster · 09/11/2012 21:11

sponge - yes, it's frustrating, isn't it? I had exactly the same situation with the Amazing Disappearing Historian about 5 or 6 weeks ago. First date went fantastically, second date also, she was really looking forward to date #3 then she just disappeared. So I sent a couple of texts, then an email to her on Match saying - 'well I thought everything was going okay, and thought you did too, obviously not. Good luck and all that.' I did see she'd been online again the following week so presume she saw the email.

I think I should have called her a fuckmuppet. I just discovered that word and now I really like it.

So, yes - frustrating but really nothing can be done. Some people disappear with no explanation. Their loss.

snapespeare · 09/11/2012 21:12

sponge god, no. No more texting. Get him to stuff.

And silence on his part confirms he's an emotionally stunted arse. that's all you need to know my love.

hatesponge · 09/11/2012 21:21

Yes of course I know some people disappear without explanation. Some people are stupid, rude or ignorant.

But there's nothing in the way LC behaved to suggest he was that sort of person. I honestly don't believe he was. Hence why its so baffling and why I've been/will continue to be so upset by it.

watchoutforthatsnail · 09/11/2012 21:34

some people are also awfully good at appearing one way when they are also the other....

ParsleyTheLioness · 09/11/2012 21:47

sponge if he gave you some sort of response, that you did not believe, would you actually feel better? Or worse, cos you didn't believe it...?

Yogagirl17 · 09/11/2012 21:50

sponge I think some people also find it easier to do a runner than to have to offer an explanation. We've all seen it from this side haven't we - the anxiety we feel when we have to tell someone, 'sorry but it's just not working'. We don't want to hurt someone. It's still shit though.

So just spoke with the Engineer for about half an hour. Sadly he sounds a lot less swoony than he looks. I almost had trouble getting a word in - the man likes to talk. Still looking forward to monday.

hatesponge · 09/11/2012 22:05

yes people can be not as they appear, but those sort of people usually also overegg it in terms of texts, gestures etc. He didn't. I can tell when people are bullshitting, I have to deal with it all the time at work, and he really wasn't.

And it wasn't not working either. It was fine on date 2, much more than fine in fact. You don't spend 6 hours holding hands otherwise. He wouldn't have text me the next day several times if it wasn't, just like my work friend said.

Honestly, I'd feel better for a response of some kind. Bullshit or whatever it might be. I just want to hear something from him. However bad. Because that would kill off the teeny tiny remaining glimmer of hope I have of there being a 'good' explanation which otherwise I cant get rid of.

KirstyWirsty · 09/11/2012 22:08

Well the surgeon texted me wanting to call after 8 .. I told him to make it 9 as I was watching a DVD with my DD .. While I was putting her to bed he's called twice and left me a POF message saying 'you did say to call after 9'

Time to bin methinks .. I've not even met him yet and it's hard work!!!

bantamrooster · 09/11/2012 22:15

oh crap. Now SurreyGirl and I are texting and she's really really funny. I can't cope with funny. Funny makes me get all emotionally involved when I should just do this cool calm and collected thing.

She's attractive and intelligent and attractive and a tiny bit neurotic and her texts are making me laugh out loud so much I woke my eldest DD. And she mailed the scam email address I set up for Erica the scamster pretending to be a gymnastic dentist (as I sent the translatified stuff to her)

Sunday is going to go horribly badly. There will be no chemistry. I kind of want there to be no chemistry cos if there is I'm going to fall hard.

Pixiebelle123 · 09/11/2012 22:24

Awww Bantam, you and Surrey Girl are so damn cute there just has to be chemistry!

Sponge, I'm gutted for you about LC. I wish men weren't such nobheads (bantam excluded of course!)

I had a boyfriend who who was 6'7" once (I'm 5'2") it made things a bit challenging sexually speaking...

I've arranged a second date with history teacher tomorrow - tea and cake, so terribly British! In person he did nothing for me but his texts are lovely. I think he's terribly shy but hoping I can bring him out of his shell a bit more tomorrow, we'll see.

hatesponge · 09/11/2012 23:07

Pixie, not half as gutted as I am.

Just switched TV over, and the Killers were on...they're LC's fave group. Bugger :(

Maybe tomorrow will be a better day. Or at least not a worse one.

mercury7 · 09/11/2012 23:21

Bantam get a grip now and stop being such a girl! :o

Pixiebelle123 · 09/11/2012 23:22

Sponge, I've never liked the killers :) in fact there's a creepy man on match with killer in his username that keeps winking at me. If tomorrow is even one millescule better than today then it's progress, or at least that's what I tell myself x

KirstyWirsty · 09/11/2012 23:43

Well the surgeon texted me wanting to call after 8 .. I told him to make it 9 as I was watching a DVD with my DD .. While I was putting her to bed at half past 9 he's called twice and left me a POF message saying 'you did say to call after 9'

Time to bin methinks .. I've not even met him yet and it's hard work!!! So I texted and told him that and he wants to call to discuss .. Eh no!!

bantamrooster · 09/11/2012 23:50

Kirsty - if he sounds like he's going to be an arsehole in real life, then you're probably hitting the nail on the head. It's unlikely that someone can piss you off that much and then you'll get on incredibly well in person and laugh and tell your grandkids about it.

I presume you've told him to get bent?

KirstyWirsty · 10/11/2012 00:13

bant I told him by text that it was too much like hard work and I hadn't met him yet!!

He also alluded on the phone the other day about needing to be able to talk to the other person coz you can only have sex for an hour a day (!!) and even if i was sure about him he can't do a Tuesday or Thursday which are usually the days I don't have DD but suggested that it would be fine as DD would be in bed by 8 (so obviously planning on coming over then .. Eh no!

OneMoreGo · 10/11/2012 00:15

bantam I'm so excited for you, I'm thrilled you're metting SurreyGirl I really am :) There will be LOADS of chemistry. Woot!

hatesponge · 10/11/2012 00:19

I can't sleep. Again. Haven't had more than 4 hours sleep a night since Tuesday.

Was thinking I'd like to go to sleep and wake up on the day at some point in the future that LC texts me and explains this. Or else wake up back on Monday and be able to do the whole date again. Either way its all a bit :(

KirstyWirsty · 10/11/2012 00:23

bant sounds like you and SurreyGirl feel the same about each other .. Can't wait to hear all about it xx

MadameOvary · 10/11/2012 00:27

Kirsty - run far and fast! Massive red flags. How kind of him to alert you to his nobbishness so early on!

Bantam oooooohhhh! That sounds super-promising! Grin

Sponge am officially stumped. Hope you get some closure on this.

snapespeare · 10/11/2012 08:12

sponge nice cup of tea & we're here hand-holding.

bant I'm very excited about surrey-girl. Sense of humour very important. :)

Stand-up comedian coffee is after work on Thursday. I shan't give him a 'proper' name until I've met him.... & managed to think of something suitable. 'mr stand up' is a bit lame, am sure I can think of a harry-potter name for him (& dear god, I hope it's 'sirius black')

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