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How long were you together before you had children?

125 replies

emkana · 31/03/2006 20:01

Friend of mine has just announced she is pregnant and they have been together 18 months, of which the first six months they weren't together "properly" because she was still married and with her dh. Sad

I feel this is very soon and I worry if she is doing the right thing, but of course it's her choice.

Dh had been together over five years when I got pregnant, and I'm glad we had some childfree years together.

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Oblomov · 01/04/2006 19:06

Sometimes it depends on age.
Many people here met as teenagers.
I met dh when nearly 30, he nearly 40.
We knew we were right for eachother.
But also, when you get to that age, you can't hang around.

sallystrawberry · 01/04/2006 19:07

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Tommy · 01/04/2006 19:12

got married 2 years after meeting and had DS1 7 months later!

Littlefish · 01/04/2006 19:15

Together for nearly 10 years. Married for nearly 5. Tried for 2.5 years to conceive. DD born after we'd been together for 8.5 years.

I loved our childfree pre-marriage years, but the childless married years were very, very hard.

JanH · 01/04/2006 19:17

6½ years.

JanH · 01/04/2006 19:18

TINKER!!!! ShockGrin

kid · 01/04/2006 19:36

Together for 6 years before falling pregnant and got married when 8 weeks into the pregnancy. Our wedding was already booked when we found out we were expecting, alot of people assumed we were only getting married because of the baby.

jessicaandrebeccasmummy · 01/04/2006 19:36

5 months

Hausfrau · 01/04/2006 19:57

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edam · 01/04/2006 20:01

Hausfrau's nearly as bad as me. Met 1988, moved in together 1989, married 1997, ds 2003 - blimey, have never actually worked that out before but 15 whole years after we met!

JanH · 01/04/2006 20:01

Specifically:

Met summer 1974
Got together autumn 1975
Married September 1976 (30th anniversary this September Shock)
DD1 born April 1982

edam · 01/04/2006 20:02

We were practically childhood sweethearts though, if we'd had babies as soon as we'd met I'd almost have been a teenage mum (not that that's a bad thing, just not something I was keen to experience).

threebob · 01/04/2006 20:03

We celebrated our 6 wedding anniversary a month after ds was born. We got married 18 months after meeting.

Hausfrau · 01/04/2006 20:03

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JanH · 01/04/2006 20:04

And - here's a sign of the times - when we were looking for our first flat together after getting married (had shared before), one woman refused to accept my wedding ring as evidence and insisted on seeing marriage cert before agreeing to even consider us (naturally we didn't want to live near the evil old bat and looked elsewhere Grin)

Tell that to the kids today...

sunandmoon · 01/04/2006 20:14

Moved together 2 months after 1st date. Got engaged 6 months later. Then went three times for 6 months travel together, got married 5 years after getting engaged, then DD was born 10 years after getting engagedSmile. Loved the time with DH before DD was born and love the time now even moreWink...

DumbledoresGirl · 01/04/2006 20:18

Dh and I were "together" so to speak 4 years before marriage, but we only lived together at the weekends during that time.

Were then married a year before trying for a baby which happened straightaway, so our first child was born just under 2 years after our marriage.

So sort of 6 years together without children.

lucykate · 01/04/2006 20:23

got together in 1987, although we went to the same high school so had known each other since the age of 11

moved in together in 1995, got married in 1997, dd born 2002, ds born 2005.

tortoiseshell · 01/04/2006 20:28

From first going out to first child born was 5 years.

threelittlebabies · 01/04/2006 20:36

Got engaged 10 months after getting together, got pg with ds1 after 2.5 yrs, now have ds2 and dd and been together for 7yrs, married for 4yrs in June Smile

SomethingAboutMary · 01/04/2006 20:36

Moved in together after 5 weeks of dating

Fell pregnant after 4 months

Engaged after 1 year

Still together 5 years on with 2 children now.

Smile

Want to get married in 2008 !!

KBear · 01/04/2006 20:44

Met in infant school (bless), started dating in 1990, two days after starting dating he moved in with me Shock, married after two years, first child after nine years together.

tegan · 01/04/2006 21:10

Met in oct 1996, moved in together feb 1997, bought house aug 1997 found out I was pg 2 weeks later. now married with another dd.

KathH · 01/04/2006 21:47

Less than a year but have now been together 15 years and have 2dds and 2 ds's

Georgiesmum · 01/04/2006 22:14

Have been together 5 yrs and have dd aged 1. Lived next door to one another for 10yrs then starting seeing each , moved in together after 2 months and never looked back.

I think the time was right for us to have a baby, i think you need some time alone first to discover each other but depends on each person

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