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Onwards and upwards we go, still sniggering at the sausage seeing the roll Dating thread 26

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lubeybooby · 29/10/2012 21:41

New one!

All dating related gumph here.

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WhatDoesTheDogSay · 02/11/2012 22:57

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shuckleberryfinn · 02/11/2012 23:15

what I think on some sites you can make your profile private so people can only see it if you've already expressed an interest in them. I did that on POF I think. It does mean you do a lot of the first messaging.

Although I drunkenly set up an okcupid profile the other day, my photo was a pair of feet. About 15 first messages and only 1 was an obvious weirdo.

Movingforward123 · 02/11/2012 23:30

libby I remember you mentioning mr coffee. if you are still thinking about him meet with him to see how you feel now. but how about if you shake things up abit and go to the pub instead?? Smile

Well update from me, it is still going well with mr workaholic Shock i met his friends and introduced him to dd as a friend. and he has been quite sweet and said loves of lovely dovey things to me. the sex is good and I want much much more Smile

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Yogagirl17 · 03/11/2012 08:01

Morning all, wondering if sponge ever got an apology from dickheadCuthbert?

I've got an entire childfree weekend (well, after 10am this morning) and no dates. Seems such a waste! Nevermind, I will resign myself to a weekend with my dog, he's old and smells a bit but at least I know he loves me unconditionally! Grin

WarmFuzzyFun · 03/11/2012 08:41

Yoga, your dog sounds like an old boyfriend of mine Confused

This thread has more twists and turns than an Agatha Christie novel, I am hoping the 'woo' will turn things around by post 1000!

Sponge and Snape, how are you women doing? Remember you are good people who deserve to be treated well. The best way to get over disappointment, in my case a big walk, a bottle of wine, and then peruse the OD sites and set up some more dates.

Yogagirl17 · 03/11/2012 09:07

Lol WFF!

shuckleberryfinn · 03/11/2012 09:11

what I'm having some pleasant chats with a couple of them.

I'm trying to get the guts up to ask out a greek god of a regular customer at the takeaway tonight.

snapespeare · 03/11/2012 09:28

Absolutely NO chance of me dating at the moment. Far too much going on stress-wise, I have no inclination to add to that!

Hangover head this morning. Absolutely will not be contacting voldemort, but musing as to how he is.

EuphemiaTwatslapper · 03/11/2012 09:49

Hope no one minds me de-lurking for a little while. Have just relaunched myself onto POF - and had a cock pic within 8 mins :(

BUT - have fallen in love (in a virtual way) with this guy:

www.pof.com/member40350887.htm

Nice?

mercury7 · 03/11/2012 10:03

i would :o

OhWesternWind · 03/11/2012 10:20

Dog if you ever want to pm me to talk about any of it with someone who's been there, then please feel free

MadameOvary · 03/11/2012 10:40

Euphemia Message him! He has a brain! Quick! Grin

gettingitrightnow · 03/11/2012 10:43

dear god,a seemingly decent man i was messaging with last night in okc suddenly told me ha had fallen in love with me....then when I politely responded that I felt this was impossible since we hadn't met,he followed up with a long porno paragraph......deleted..

I did have a date for next Friday,but he also started asking about 'what I would like him to do to me.." in a message in which he also informed me that his ex wife loved outdoor sex,did I......

where am I going wrong here?

bantamrooster · 03/11/2012 10:44

ah. now I understand. I occasionally get the random bloke looking at my profile on Match, and when I look at they're profile they say they're straight, looking for women in liverpool or whatever, so I wonder how the hell they ended up looking at me.

So, there's another chat forum out there somewhere, or maybe a parallel universe Mumsnet, where some woman has said 'I like the look of this guy' or 'what a tit! look at this bloke' and put my profile link in there, and one of their male friends, from liverpool, has looked and agreed that I do indeed look like a fool.

That explains it.

Long online chat with Nurse last night, we're going to go peoplewatching on Thursday afternoon. It's been over a week since we met and we both think it seems a lot longer as we've chatted/texted every day since then, but I'm starting to forget what she looks like.

SurreyGirl just replied to my email of a few days ago, and she was bloody cute and charming and funny again. Must. Not. Go. There.

And I have to work out the best phrasing to break things off with Safrican.

Dog I run a free advisory service :) on peoples online profiles to see if I can see any obvious problems with them. All I can do is give my point of view as a bloke and point out things which might attract cockpix or nutters, although to be honest I think you'll end up with those anyway. PM me if you want me to take a look.

All I expect in return is a slice of wedding cake..

MadameOvary · 03/11/2012 10:50

Gettingit Knowing your situation as I do, this is completely normal. You are making such huge strides in your life, but relationships are going to take a little while because you need to decide who and what is right for you. IME the ability to weed out the unsuitables gets sharper and sharper till you can actually spot them from the photos before you even get to the profiles.
I was messaged by a man on OKC who showered me with compliments. Wasn't impressed. Looked at his profile and it was full of defensive "Don't judge me before you know me" type stuff. I wrote back saying thank you for the message but I don't think we'd be compatible"
His reply? "Jeez how vain does that make you look?"
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KirstyWirsty · 03/11/2012 10:53

euphemia Nice!!! You should contact him :)

gettingitrightnow · 03/11/2012 11:00

Thanks, MadamO Smile

MadameOvary · 03/11/2012 11:08

Gettingit and anyone else, if you want any profiles vetted let me know - only my opinion obvs but happy to help if I can.

Yogagirl17 · 03/11/2012 11:14

euphemia - I second (or rather third) what Madame & Kirsty said!

bantam sounds like things with the nurse are going in the right direction.

Still don't know whether to be insulted or relieved I have never received a single cock pic! Also can't decide whether to ask you lot to tweak my profiles or whether there just aren't any decent men around. When I search on GS & OKC, it's not as if I find hundreds of guys I'd like to talk to and none of them want to know... Hmm

I didn't realise you can search on POF without a profile.

gettingitrightnow · 03/11/2012 11:19

Ooh yes,please vet my profile MadamO..I just tried to pm you but couldn't for some reason?

Scattylatte · 03/11/2012 11:24

I get the same. Seemingly normal man messaging about general stuff starts saying in pornographic detail what he wants to do to me.

How are you sponge?

Yogagirl17 · 03/11/2012 11:27

Eek, ok, seeing as i have the whole weekend ahead am thinking putting up a new POF profile might be a good distraction or might scar me for life.

Clearly I will need to say that I am "genuine and comfortable in my own skin" since that's what 98% of men say they are looking for! Off to walk the dog and ponder how to write a cliche-free profile.

bantamrooster · 03/11/2012 11:32

Yeah I'd like to be able to explain the 'launching into porn' thing from a mans perspective, but I can't. Sorry. They seem like morons to me.

Scattylatte · 03/11/2012 11:39

Thing is it starts ok. This man, engineering manager starts asking if I liked cooking...then he said he loved looking at my profile.....then says he is a bit naughty....then it starts.
So I messaged him and asked why does the Internet give seemingly normal men carte Blanche to detail their sexual preferences to a stranger when clearly they wouldn't do this in a cafe or at work. It's crass.
I've not heard a thing back.
I'd like a date but I can't be arsed weeding the dross.
Watch, have you decided to date any of your dudes?