Hat wars and soup-er dates, let the sausage see the roll... The Online Dating Thread reaches 25!

[Yogagirl17]

Erm...hope nobody minds?

MadamO

I would probably say something along the lines of "Is there a specific reason you haven't tried to get into my knickers for us not having had sex yet, are you getting the condoms specially made to fit you religious or something?"

i think tonight might be it. he did say last night that we end up having such a good time and talking and enjoying each others company and then we dont get intimate till late ( and then we are both half asleep because its gone 1 )
and we need to talk less
:)

so this morning i called him, half asleep from bed, and asked if he wanted to do something today ( he said he was about to call to ask me the same) and i said that he should come over and we should do something other than talk.
he said that sounded like a very good plan indeed.

!!!!

Oooh errr! you might be seeing some action later today then!

Watch that sounds lovely! I'm pleased it went well and that his place isn't a revolting midden. Sounds like it really wasn't as bad as he thought. And it's lovely that you are in no doubt that you are valued for who you are but I do hope you get a shag reasonably soon

im just worried that we might not be sexually matched. The nice strokely, strokey stuff is nice, but sometimes you want a bit of knicker ripping passion, you know.

£150

Good grief!

watch. This has to be it, pull out all the stops.

Today I am angry and compiling a 10 point list as to why he's ...not right for me. I shall obviously read back over the sterling advice up thread.

Well, get your sheets changed and invite him round, lock the door and don't let him go until you have assessed his bedroom abilities.

Anger is good Snape.

Can you also find 10 points as to why you are too good for him, please. Thank you.

one step ahead of you time, one step ahead :)

it doesnt even need to be full sex, just something a bit more.....!!

snape - good plan. do it. lets see when you are done.
It does help, i did a similar thing with ywk, and anytime that i waiver, i have the list of things why i know it would NEVER work, so that always stops me in my tracks.

I thought you might be!

:)

do you think answering the door naked is a bit unsubtle?

For gods sake at least keep your shoes on! ;-)

goes without saying.....

:)

gah - you know we will just end up snogging for ages again.

see, thats what makes me think something must be wrong, because he must have either massive self restraint, or be shy or have lost his penis is an awful accident.

i sort of dont understand. I made the moves last night, put his hands on my boobs ( which he was happy for them to be there and they stayed there, ABOVE my top, with no effort to get under the top, all night)
WHY!!!!
and, i couldnt help it, but ended up groping his cock through his jeans, but he didnt recirprocate back... WHY!! so i stopped in case he wasnt wanting that. ended up there a few times, because i cant help it, i see it as natural, you are snogging and groping and feeling for a few hours, it happens, you know, its a natural progression. But he just isnt doing that.

I dont understand why.
and can only think its for bad reasons.

Oh Watch, you don't half pick em

I'm afraid I'm not understanding him either, and I'm not going to make excuses for him or try to reassure you that all will be well, because I made that mistake with puppy. If I were you I would be facing the issue head on today, I would ask him outright if he has a problem and why he hasn't jumped on you. Then you know.

it doesnt make sense, does it.
he did appolgise a few times for being ' shy'

i dont think im going to work with someone whos sexually shy. id eat him alive or end up being very frustrated.....

oh. i dont know what to do
:(

thing is, hes not even shy. not for a second. hes a front man in a band. hes in a job where hes out in front the whole time. hes head of the union too. hes not a shy type.

i dont understand.

I agree with time. Just ask him, this is doing your head in. You're a sexual goddess and he seems to be some sort of ecumenical hobbit.

What is this? 6th date? Let the sausage see the roll.

Having been married to a man who started out like that,and more recently realised that another who was exactly the same ,was not going to change....I am afraid I would have to agree with Time here,watchout.

You need to find out before your feelings grow. It may be that he is shy.....in both my cases,they were jut asexual....or just not into me....never again for me.....the challenge for me ,now,will be to hold out for a decent length of time a it has been so long that I may explode into flames at the touch of a hand

Madam O ...I agree....no more flaky time wasters needed here!

no, and he did say he really wanted to jump on me.
and that he would be kicking himself later.

im going to send him a few flirty texts... try and ramp it up abit, and then no talking....

if nothing happens later, then ill have to do something i think.
an emotional/personal connection is all good, but i cant do without a sexual one. its just not me, i need all 3 or i wont be happy.

yes, 6th date. time to fish or cut bait.

agreed.

and cross posted!!! glad you all agree.

oh - flirty texts have been well recived.
:)

Hope it's ok to sneak back in again. I've faffed about and faffed about with the idea of online dating; and then finally signed up for match affinity, fell for one of their cheap one month offers. Liked it because you don't have to show a photo straight away, and I had worried about that (because of the job I do; don't want a client finding me online).

watch I had a similar experience with xh, where he din't seem to want that side of things to go anywhere; and he continued to either be fairly disinterested or to only want sex on his terms; but then he wouldn't have ever done the gentle strokey thing. Maybe he just really, really likes you and wants it to be 'right', agree that talking about it can only be a good thing...

snape I think you sound like an amazing woman, have a lot of admiration for how you're handling things with pm given how he has dealt (or not dealt!) with it.

Bantam I really, really appreciate reading your posts, good to hear about things from a mans perspective.

So, yes. The whole online dating thing is bizarre. I posted ages back about the sort-of-work-colleague who asked me out for a drink then revealed he had a partner. Have somehow managed to maintain a good working relationship, not easy since we've both now been seconded from our respective jobs to work on a shared project in a small team of people. He has made contact a few more times, mainly friendly texts, but then last week came on to me again, told me he thought I was gorgeous, etc etc. [hhmm] All a bit awkward.
In the world of online dating...had a few messages from one man who seemed nice, he said his subscription was running out, so we moved to email (have set up an separate account for all online dating stuff), when he revealed he was an american serviceman posted overseas...deleted and blocked!! Am I just overly suspicious? Have had fewer dodgy messages than my profile on OKC, i only lasted for 3 days there, it felt like I kept being shown the same 3 men over and over and I just got the feeling that they were spoilt for choice.
Am now messaging two different men, arranged to meet one who will be known as Mr Coffee (am short on imagination today), for a coffee next week. Not sure there will be a spark, but decided on the basis that he hasn't as yet called me hun, babe or sexy, or sent me any dodgy pictures, and has written a message that refer to my profile or my previous messages, that it would be worth a quick meet up.
But then later on last night began messaging another man, and we have a lot in common, and I like the way he writes; am fully prepared for him to not reply to my last message, but if he does...am wondering if I should just go for it and ask him out for coffee too?

Well, if you don't get what you are seeking today Watch, speak out.

I made a POF profile yesterday but I hid it after about 10 minutes. I just can't face it, the messages, the men who send said messages, no, I can't do it. It's going to have to be real life stuff for me I think.

you could ask him if he fancies a skype call?
(i'm now using skype in my 'interview' process)