Hat wars and soup-er dates, let the sausage see the roll... The Online Dating Thread reaches 25!

[Yogagirl17]

Erm...hope nobody minds?

Sorry, I know I am multi-posting now and that's not the done thing, but I've just managed to summon the courage to have a look at the nteb*k link on photofuckit and it's had 350 views. That made me stop breathing for a minute. Thank you all, so very much, regulars, de-lurker and official lurkers.

And thank you especially tonight madameo for such a lovely phone call. :). I am swamped in the collective bosom of mumsnet and it smells of naice ham with a hint of Anna Sui.

You're welcome. I'm happy for my bosom to be part of the collective

you are - indeed - a very lovely lot [hblush]

snape the fact that you are functioning at all shows your complete & utter fabulousness.

I've just had the best ever turn-down ... and it was on POF:
Many thanks for your message and your compliments. I love your name on here and you are clearly an interesting and intelligent woman. I don't think I've read such a deep and revealing profile. So many women leave me knowing nothing at all about themselves. However, I don't think you're right for me and we are too far apart to meet 'casually'. So I'll wish you the best of luck finding someone suitable; they will be rare but then so are you I think. Howard x

My garster is well & truly flabbered ...

Joyless, he sounds lovely! I'd be prepared to move house for someone like that

Well my bosom won't add much to the collective but I give good hugs

well, ScienceGirl told me she felt no spark, so no 2nd date there. And I hadn't felt too much of a spark with her to be honest, but she was attractive apart from the crutches (yes I know I'm shallow).

On the other hand I've got a date with Nurse tomorrow night. We got on chatting for several hours, she seems nice. Let's see how we work out in person.

On the Other other hand, I'd got mailing some girl in Surrey who was really lovely but seems to see the distance and her free time, due to 3 kids and an evil ex as being a showstopper. She's miles away but lovely..

Ach. I should just concentrate the on 4 2 dates I have in the next few days.

In the meantime, I'm having a big glass of red and listening to Of Monsters and Men. That'll cheer me up I'm sure.

feels worried about his lack of bosom but sends positive thoughts in general

oh and I'd maybe date a vegetarian, but I like to cook for the woman I'm seeing, and my best meals involve steak or chicken or, if you'll pardon the reference, a good sausage.

I think that being able to cook together and eat together is important. For me, anyway. And I fecking hate quorn.

you'd not get on with me..I'm an obsessive health freak..brown rice & lentils all the way:o

Good god.

I now have about 8 numbers from Match, and several dates arranged/to be arranged.

I really like one of them

And I've been sent a cock pic (not from the one I really like I hasten to add). Even on paying sites I still attract the same sort of men!

go sponge. Looks like people on here could run a little side business writing profiles for OD sites.

Right. Spill about the one you really like :)

I just can't find any profiles I like...anywhere within a 60 mile radius..what's my problem?

I'm 44 and look younger..get loads of views and one liner messages...had online chats that are a bit..boring...someone upthread was talking about this age group..I agree,lots of old men types....and the younger ones wanting dc one day.
I think my profile is fine and I get tons of compliments,but lots of messages descend into "wow,you're gorgeous" type thing with no conversation...or just "so how are you?"....

Joyless, how fab. I know I'm not a big fan of POF but I agree there are some nice men on there, I just didn't have the patience to wade through the filth to find them.

Bantam, hope all goes well with the nurse and she likes sausages

is there any one who doesnt think they look younger than they actually are?

Me!! Well, to be honest, I can't tell but I am sure I look my age +/- a couple of years depending on how stressed/tired I am and how good the lighting is. And what's more, I don't care. I am 41 and don't mind if I look it.

Bantam - I'd never ever thought of being vegetarian as an ishoo. I'd not worry about dating a meat-eater and thought that generally what people put in their mouths isn't that big a deal . . . in the food sense.

Sponge - oooh, how exciting. Tell us more - who do you really like?

Me! I show up every single one of my 32 years, and possibly a few more. Meh.

I think I look like a woman my age who's lived the life I've lived

Signs of ageing in the face really start, I think, in the mid 40's onwards (perhaps earlier if you smoke) and after that I suspect the only way to truly look significantly younger is via surgery...or botox and fillers at least.

Which is kinda expensive!!

western - I never thought so either until I married a veggie, and as I said I like to cook up a storm in the kitchen sometimes. It's not that I'm a feeder exactly, just that if I do a fantastic duck a l'orange, or a chicken tikka from scratch, or a gorgeous fillet steak with shallots etc, I like to show off share it with someone. Just one of my personal hangups.

oh and I think I look older than I really am. It's the grey hairs in the beard that does it. I've been told if I get rid of my goatee I'd look younger. But fatter. So I'll go with older but slimmer if I have the choice. What do you reckon sponge and pixie - you've seen my profile photos - do I look 38?

Bantam - three words - Just For Men

I suspect that it's not until over 40 that people on dating sites start to shave off a few years?
perhaps they start small, just a couple years, then think, what the heck, lets go the whole nine yards and wind it back a decade:o

I think I look younger than my age - apart from the wrinkles

Maybe I just need to find someone short sighted!

bantam I get what you mean,although i've never really thought about it before. Xh was veggie and I missed sharing my enjoyment of roast dinners with him....not sure if I'd choose not to date a veggie though.