chaotic thankyou for the welcome :)
I think 'easy' is based upon if you're trying to get something. I once read a comment that a guy will go on a date wondering if she's going to have sex tonight. The girl will know if she is. Men are simple creatures in that respect. Yes we can invent space exploration and write poetry and amazing songs and art, but our first instinct is to have sex or kill things, and layers of civilisation have put layers down over that to make sure we only have sex with the right things, and kill the right things, and also not to put our fingers in holes which may have a live electrical connection.
The point is that men and women may come to dating from different directions. I think a lot of us share the same end point - the settling down, exploring the world, giggling together over in-jokes, having children. A lot of us want that. But we have different paths to that end. Men will, if you'll pardon the expression, fuck as many women as they can until they find the one. Women generally won't. It's all down to biology really, we have lots of seed to spread, and will go off to new tribes and spread it there, women want to nurture more and will settle down and build a nest. That's not being sexist, that's just saying we're different. And if you appreciate that we're different, you'll not make the same assumptions.
I was driving a couple of weeks ago and was following some little car down a country lane, when there was a girl cycling towards us down the lane. The guy in the passenger seat of the car in front suddenly leaped halfway out of his window, waving his shirt in the air, whooping and yelling something at the girl on the bike, then laughing manically. Now he was in his early 20s, I'm in my late 30s, so my instinctive response when I meet him anyway is going to be 'tosser'.
And the girl looked upset at whatever he'd said. And I was wondering to myself - why did he do that. He obviously wasn't going to 'pull' her, as he was driving past her at 50mph. So he did it for the benefit of his mate who was driving, to get kudos. And again I think 'tosser'. He just upset a girl he'd never met, to impress a bloke who was driving the car a bit, and this is what men can be.
However, we also wrote shakespeare and dido and aneas, and lots of stuff like that, so we're not all bad.