Could you cope without sex?

[temptedmum]

DH shows no sign or interest in sex these days. he's a fantastic DAD and affectionate in every other way...love him to bits. But I just can't cope with a future of no sex/intimacy. He's always had a low sex drive and I've always initiated (or mostly) the pyhsical side of our relationship...but am now getting p*d off with the whole situation. Tried discussing it with him and now getting angry that he seems not able to either discuss or work it out with me or to do whatever needs to be done to resolve the problem...."the" conversation has been going on now for the past two years. I now feel unloved, unattractive and want to feel alive again so Victoria beckham if your old man is free send him around to mine and get him to take me over the kitchen table or something so that I can feel like a real women again . Any suggestions would be most welcomed (blush)

ive been readin all the posts and i feel like i could cry my b/f of just over a yr has little desire for me we rarely have sex cause of his meds but b4 his meds when he did have a libido we hardly had sex as it caused him pain in his chest, we speak about it freely and so i found it easy to sugest idea s from tryin herbal to just layin together without t shirts on at night bathin with only candle light once a wk sex lol and sensual massages but everything i sugest is to much preasure i cry most nighsts as i feel so unattractive and regected my health is sufferin and i know i dont mean to but my kids suffer as i lose my temper alot(shoutin at them when they dont deserve it)he never gives me commpliments and rarely says he loves me and i no he has viewed porn plus has saved pics of naked women and naked exs on his pc which i might add have been removed to disc not deleted !!i love him loads yet im startin to stuggle for the reasons why lol he is good with my kids and helps around the house but as he waitin on a opp he is out of work so he gives me little finacal help and as im a mother of 2 on benifits im findin all areas of our relationship hard now im stugglin to believe that he finds me attactive when he sees me cryin over it all he gets angry at me sayin i blame him for his illness and its not his fault and i should be happy he not in pain all the time I AM HAPPY he not in pain am i pushin to hard?? or bein unfair?? also i might add he has lied to me in the past about textin another woman !! so am i wrong in feelin like a friend not a lover ?? and feelin so unattactive?? any advice welcome plz

soalone my advice is to find a new boyfriend

no, i am sorry you are so sad.
pleasure yourself. talk to your dh.

thanx for advice we went to see his doctor just over a month ago and he didnt seen the least bit intrested he said that the meds he is on which are (citapram,better blockers,and acid reflux tablets)all play a part in a lost libido my doctor offered me councilin for it but also told me that i will be waitin months to see someone and ive tried plesurin myself but like i read on here somewhere it makes me feel worse as sex for me is more emotions,my b/f did say he would go to couple councilin about it all but i have no money to pay for it,does anyone know of somewhere we could go for free to seek some medical advice over then doctors or any herbal meds or even food lol that might help ???plz