Sofas and Slankets V Irregular choice shoes and Snogging - Dating Thread 23

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So so sorry to hear that, Sponge. What are the options for you?

The options are hope they find us other jobs within the company (however chances not good, so far the number of 'potential' jobs they have identified is less than half the no. of employees) or if they don't we get made redundant, with the statutory minimum payout. Not great really.

sponge.

oh sponge - fucking hell.
my goodness.

what about this other job you went for, does this fall under that banner too? ( have you heard yet)

Its a huge worry. I know... having lost a job unexpectatley this summer, and the very real worry of being homeless....... but its all worked out ok in the end, even though it was horriffic at the time.

Maybe, seeing as you hated it anyway - now is the time for a new chapter? are you going to start applying for other stuff and try to jump ship? or hang on till the end?

I haven't heard anything back re other job - it's an internal role so might fall under this banner. and possibly because I am in an at risk position I have more chance than the other applicants (none of them were from my office). will ask about it at my consultation meeting tomorrow.

Other than that if they cant find me anything else internal (there are 3 of us at my level, everyone else is more junior, jobs at our level harder to come by) then i have to look elsewhere. but the markets not great, and again the level i'm at jobs are scarce.

think i'm a bit in shock really.

Wow Sponge, what a shit situation to be in.

Sponge so sorry. Hope it works out okay.

Moving - I vote no to meeting him again. If you felt like he treated you like shit after sleeping with him don't give him another opportunity.

sponge -the meeting tomorrow sounds good, least you will get futher info quite quickly.... and you are right about the new position too...horrible for you. so sorry. If you want to vent off board pm me, i dont mind swapping numbers for a chat :)

Oh sponge I'm sorry - ((Hugs)) & sympathy - I know exactly how horrible a situation that is to be in.

So just as well I didn't send that email earlier. Turns out DD had "acquired" said toiletry bag for her own use and never bothered to tell me! Mind you he had returned it virtually empty bar 2 toothbrushes but still. At least it means I can maintain my radio silence.

Omg. Am in a bit of a flat spin. It looks like ex will take DD on Fri night
Fri night is fourth date.
Arsebiscuits.
Too soon.
We haven't even snogged yet.
Sorry. Thinking aloud.
Patience.
Not my strong point.
I'm gonna need a foof muzzle

Dust off the chastity belt Mme!

sponge I'm really sorry to hear about your job I really hope it works out ok in the end. I would feel very worried in your position, but hopefully something better will come up.

well that is a massive amount of votes for me not meeting up with him again.

I just think that because I have recently started to try not to play games etc and do what i want to do then maybe I should meet him again.

I do actually feel like i want to see him again, but do feel like he doesnt deserve to see me after his behaviour. Its so confusing.

at chastity belt.
Re MrWealthy, he is no good whatsoever as a relationship prospect (but you know that, right) so only meet him if you think you'll get some convenient hot sex out of it. If you feel it might render you vulnerable though, he's best avoided.

But what about the games hes been playing with you this week?

Madameo - what are fridays plans then?

Mme, foof muzzle is just brilliant! :o

the foof muzzle's given me a much needed laugh!

thanks all, am ok, not sure its quite sunk in. plus in every area of my life other than men I tend to be positive and optimistic, and always think everything will work out somehow, because it always does. So will wait and see what happens in the meeting tomorrow.

ScaredofPeas text me earlier! how weird is that...think he might ask me out again. though as our first date was in August, I'm not sure I could (assuming he does) claim it as a second date anyway! I might go anyway he is quite unintentionally amusing and I could do with some light relief at the moment :)

MadameO the foof muzzle is absolutely hilarious ... is this a MNet marketing opportunity?

sponge I'm so sorry that you've had such utterly shitty news. Lots of hugs & positive vibes being sent your way.

Morning, all!

Sponge, sorry about your news. Like you say, everything has a habit of working out ok, so maybe this is the new start you'e been after in your work life?

Madame, I just spluttered on my branflakes at your foof muzzle.

Moving, what exactly do you like about Mr Wealthy (it's a no from me, too, by the way)? This is an honest question, and I'm prepared to change my answer to yes if you persuade me. You really don't know him very well, yet, and he made you feel bad by his lack of contact after shagging. You might not be game-playing, but I think he is. It's a very simple game, whereby he has to be nice to you to get what he wants. No opportunity to see Moving this week for a shag? No point texting. Chance of a shag this weekend? Best start texting Moving again. It is lovely to be wanted, but please make sure that the reason you like him isn't 'because he wants me'. You're worth so much more than that.

sponge - good luck for the meeting later. VERY weird with scared of peas, im suspecting a dry patch and hes after a shag.... you still on each others FB's?

moving - second what fayster says really. Its all great that you arent game playing, but if he is ( and it looks like he is) then theres kind of no point. hasnt his shit behaviour undone what you liked about him? is it possible that he was just being nice to get into your pants? ( i would suspect this to be honest)

Sponge - hope things go well today. What's going on with ScaredofPeas? I wouldn't have any of it if I were you . . .

More texting from solicitor guy, he seems okay so far, nothing dodgy! In fact, got bogged down texting about performance bonds yesterday so need to nudge him off work-related stuff. Had a lovely long chat with a Buddhist guy off OKC - definitely not a prospect but it was so nice just to have a sane and normal conversation with someone with no prospect of smuttiness and nonsense. Also had a very bizarre 30 something bloke on PoF who looks like he could become a bit of a pest, keeps trying to IM me or get me to text him. No. Go away. Also have car salesman (I think), strange electrical engineer (another no), nice-so-far bloke but who didn't have photo up on profile so some dodginess is possible - he sent me a pic and looks nice but I am always suspicious why they won't put their photos up for everyone to see. Oh, and I forgot my favourite MrCake who I am having long interesting conversations with about politics, supermarkets and, erm, cake. Fingers crossed for that one - he's sort of asked me out but not properly so I didn't say anything back about it and will wait for him to come out and say it. So, that's the update for this morning.

TBH I am feeling a bit low about it. Fed up about the optician, he's a nice bloke in several ways and I was enjoying spending time with him, apart from all the ex shit. More convinced, having slept on it again, that it is a bad idea to continue with him, so it's not going to be a goer.

yeah western - it happens that its sometimes a bit crap and you feel down about it. Just seems like endless streams of shite. if you arent enthused by any you are talking to - just give it a break for a little while? or do you think its because you had been hoping the optician might have worked out so feel a bit sad about that?

I had a date with a buddist earlier this year. He was very nice, and although was in contact after the date and did ask me out again ( on the same night) it didnt actually happen. Bad karma for him.....!!!

Watch, yes, I think I'd hoped things might go a bit further with the optician. It started off so well and he really seemed to be a genuinely nice person (so far) and we had a lot in common. Did seem really promising and so I am a bit disappointed that all this ex nonsense has become more and more apparent.

Still, will see what happens with the others. I do quite like the solicitor and MrCake so you never know! I am not putting any faith really into the messaging/texting side of things as it can all be so very different when you meet, so we'll see what happens.

I am glad that I've been able to say "No" about the optician. It's a real step forward for me after the ex to realise that I am worth more and not to settle for second best.

:) thats a really good way to view it, and its true :)

to have noticed and acted on what you wanted, really quickly, thats massivley impressive and you should be really proud of yourself.

I think thats the thing, you think somones really nice, and then as you get to know them you learn more about them and the ' really nice' sheen from the first few dates kind of vanishes.

moving seems I was outvoted. Anyway, I've changed my vote to no because if you really wanted to see him you wouldn't have asked us.

sponge - good luck today. (scaredofpeas...? )

western - do you feel better having made a decision? sounds like you do.

snape - I know the notebook is almost done but saw THIS and thought of you & PM