Kinky sex embarrassment. Help!

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God this is embarrassing, but I can't really talk it through with anyone in rl so you lot will have to put up with me for now!

Basically I'm happily married and DH and I have regular (good) sex.
I even manage to orgasm durin penetration. I used to only manage the big O through for play so it's fair to say that my DH is good in the sack.

The thing is, I have a kinky fantasy that I always think about in order to orgasm.
I've tried not to and just concentrate on my (gorgeous) DH but I just can't 'get there' without it.

I feel too embarrassed to tell DH how much I think about it (I have let on a bit but always back-track and make a joke).

I feel like I'm wrong to be thinking about my fantasy whils being intimate with DH and worried he will think I'm a weirdo if I confess about it.

I would really like to try out my fantasy and I do feel a bit unfulfilled sexually.

Anyone had any experience or advise?

DEBKA !!!! and does best Les Dawson face.

Exactly, Malificence. And therein is the contradiction of powerplay. In that moment of (consensual) submission lies freedom.

To tell the truth, Number, I do not have a clue who Louis Walsh is

I believe you, frida , he's your fantasy too, isn't he?

50shades submissive? Oh not at all kinky then!! I'm sure your dh will be fine with something as low key as that.

Most men I've met have been reluctant to say their crazy fantasies at first and will come up with the "only you darling" line, but once you get into this area, it's amazing the surprises they will come up with

Have fun.

No, I'm quite sure my fantasies are far more perverse

more perverse than wanting to DTD with Louis Walsh!

In a past life my partner totally baulked at my fantasies initially....but ending up loving them more than me. I'm pretty sure most men are up for a bit of adventure.

And, OP, it's not that kinky. I'm sure everyone likes to experiment at some point along the submissive < -> dominant scale.

Ooh you wanna be spanked ;-)

actually, I'm planning to have a similar conversation with my DB toniight (over a -bottle or two- glass or two of wine.

Go for it mid-coitus. When the defences are down (and a can lower the inhibitions) that's the time to say 'you know what would really do it for me right now...?' Then ask him to beat you on the bottom with a Woman's Weekly or whatever it is you had in mind. Fantasies always sound daft in the cold light of day.

Or Vogue. It's thicker.

(... but not in the Victoria Wood song :) )

Right.
Tonight's the night.
Poor, unsuspecting DH

Seems silly to get so worried about it now.
He's seen me give birth, held my hair back whilst drunk sick and loads of other stuff and still wants to get jiggy with me so I doubt he will want to run for the hills.

I love MN.
Always makes me feel more normal

Just googled those lyrics

Actual LOL at Women's Weekly.

"Let's Do It". (Sorry to hijack) It's right up there with 'bend me over backwards on my Hostess Trolley'... and 'smear an avocado on my lower portions'. :)

redadmiralsinthegarden

"actually, I'm planning to have a similar conversation with my DB toniight (over a -bottle or two- glass or two of wine."

I do hope you ment DP not DB

See.
I feel lots more normal now!

Hang on a minute - redadmiral you're planning on having a similar conversation with your DB tonight?? As in Dear Brother??

OP, everything pales into comparison to that...

OOOOPs
meant darling boyfriend!
so pleased you pointed that out to me, ladies!!!

DB = dear boyfriend, n'est-ce pas?

As for this type of fantasy, I love it when a man takes control during sex - I have to be the 'boss' in every other aspect of my life so it's great when they take over.

Isn't that usually BF?

Although I always think of breastfeeding, and then there's best friend too - Oh, the chances for misunderstandings!

Totally unrelated, but anyone remember the brother and sister on Brookside?

Oh not read the book but get it that would be fine OP not that out there just sort of bring it up during the session do not worry about the feminist issue it is you who wants it is it is in your power !

'come and melt the buttons on me flameproof nightie' a classic line