Huffy, illiterate men, scared of peas, it's a weird, weird dating world (No22)

[ChaoticismyLife]

Oh, watch...you mentioned flowers

Tell us more...

Don't be silly WW, they're only having daytime coffee!

Irish/American finally seems to have gotten the hint (for now).

Frenchman sounds nice, we've exchanged a few emails.

Ah Watch I don't think I get that much RL interest, I think most of it is probably imagined on my part...

I am done with OD for a month at the absolute minimum, so will have to live vicariously through all of you :)

I've felt much better today, have really started to look forward to big work party next Friday (it will be an evening totally devoid of any decent men, but as lots of lovely colleagues from other offices are going, it will be great nonetheless, and I can get all dressed up!).

I'm also trying to remember that I have a lot going for me. I could sit and be negative and wonder where I went wrong on Saturday, try to work out what I could or should have done differently. Or I tell myself that he did like me, a lot, that we sat in my garden under the stars, and he lit loads of tealights. Was lovely. I know it and so does he. And him not wanting to see me again is his issue, whether it's his own feelings of inadequacy, or not actually wanting a relationship, or some other reason I know nothing about. But it's not me, and it's not my loss, because I can and will do better than a stupid man who would let me slip through his fingers!

So that's that. I shall take up my position on the sofa and await all your updates

Lovely Sponge that is exactly the attitude we expect. You're fantastic, he's an arse.

Tess, go for it. FWBs can be fun.

I wonder how Snape is getting on at the cinema. Fingers crossed that she finally gets her man.

Worley, have a great date tonight.

Nicholas I am, aren't I?! (well, aren't we all in fact :)). I got bombarded with texts and inevitably a bit befuddled by that, the constant declarations of affection and the fucking stupid pet name. But I'm better now :)

I hope all is well with Snape and PM...walking home from the cinema together might be the moment But if it isn't, there is definite inevitability about it all .

Cinema lovely. Lots of beers (yay!) fell asleep on his shoulder on the train back. He keeps wanging on about cinema being an 'ideal first date', so goodnight text was, 'if that were a first date, it would have been ideal god, I want to kiss you. Off to bed, full of love. Bah!

Yoga I am on GS if you would like me to act as go-between?
I have had a fucking awesome night out with the band. We went to see The Cult and it was juuuust so good.

Makes me wonder whether I want the hassle of a relationship

I have a date a week in Tuesday (I'm busy before then) with someone I've fancied at work for a while ... Eeek!!!

Morning all!

Snape your date sounds lovely.

Sponge - party sounds like so much fun. I'd love an excuse to get really dressed up!

Kirsty - ooh, a date with an actual RL person! Wow. Impressed.

MadameO - thanks but managing to email the Frenchman now, he sound lovely! There's a potato on GS though that wants to send me his email address if you feel like chatting to him though.

(Actually I feel bad calling him that, he's very smily and probably a really, really nice guy I just know i could never fancy him)

morning. my date went well.. I think. he texted me when he was home to say he enjoyed it and was great evening with lots of laughs and great company. I had a couple of drinks before I walked over and I that may have loosened my tongue a wee bit! but he walked me home.. and only got a goodnight kiss on cheek.. there were people walking down the road so was kind of waiting for them to pass my drive way. anyway.. I'm used to sometimes getting a snog at the end but I didn't and worried me a little. my friend said its because he was being respectfull.. hmmm.. but he said about going for a meal next time..

oh and I have the same first name as his ex wife (who left him) which is a bit unfortunate..

Hello can I join in? Been on and off OD for a while now and boy have I met some disturbing characters have been off the site I use for a while now but I'm thinking of rejoining.

Any suggestions for the blurb? I usually put something very short along the lines of..... I like reading, music and cycling anything else you want to know just ask.

Pathetic I know, I have four kids too so a way to work that in would be good too thanks ladies.

Oooeeee! Had a third date last night with Mr "I'm-not-sure"- and I'm a bit more sure now because we spent hours on my sofa snogging! First time in 2.5 years! Am surfing an oxytocin wave and bouncing off the walls.....

In other news, have to rush off to deal with the insistent little voice piping "Am doing a poo!"

Snape, your Non date, date,sounds good. One day surely, hes just going to kiss you?

Sponge, you sound more relaxed and relieved really. Good. Please dont stop posting though, ill miss you .

Stubborn. Hurrah for snogging. It's lovely isnt it :)

Worley, sounds like it went well. Do you have the second date arranged?

Madam, yep, I get that feeling all the time!

The pof one has asked me out, but neither of us are free for two weeks.... But, he seems nice. Really nice. All beardy, long Hair and is a teacher ( with a car, Hurrah)

oh I don't know. He's got an 'appointment' tonight and won't tell me what it is. I find this intriguing. I know it isn't a date or a medical emergency, on the train we were talking about secrets, I don't have any secrets from him except for banging the prof and the huge big annoying 'I'm in love with you' one apparently he has tons of secrets from me. Hmmm. I shall wear him down with persistence, today at the gym while wearing my swimming costume.

Hello burger' pull up a chair, love. :-)

watch sounds good for the pof teacher. :-)

watch you can't get rid of me, I shall be haunting this thread for as long as it takes me to get the fabled second date forever . POF man sounds good, at least you know you won't have to drive him places!

snape PM's secret appt is intriguing me now! and how dare he have screts from you? you need to use all your (considerable) womanly wiles to wear him down....

My plans for today are to blitz the housework, following which I have to schlep all the way up to the furthest reaches of North London to watch a friend's film, then back down to Essex to get excessively drunk and flirt with unsuitable men :)

Bugger - we all want to know PMs secret now....

Am very jealous of all the dates.

I too, am very jealous of the dates. Im still at the messaging stage. I have been asked out but then they have all disappeared! Two seeimngly abroad and the others have dropped off the radar.
Is anyone else not having dates?
Sponge, is this a film your friend has made?
Watch, hey car driving teacher sounds good
I really want to know PM's secrets....and where he's going tonight.

I'm not having dates.

But i have yet to put up a decent pic tho. I'm a bit scared if I'm honest.

Yes, can we not Tie him down and torture him till he spills??!!??

Sponge, that sounds like a good day, well bar the housework. I'm having a lazy, spend most of it on the sofa day. This weekend marks the end of a nightmarish two months, Monday I'm getting my arse back in gear :)

Scatty, not just you, terribly common. For everydate you go on, there will be about 10 that ask and then, for whatever reason, it just doesn't happen.

Haunted, just do it. It can be quite fun.

And, incidentally, no word from the prof yesterday, I texted him early, no response...suspect I am being binned. Which is actually fine. :)

Thanks watch. And I know that I just need to hold tight. Any plans beyond Monday? I'm into body rejuvenation and following a version of durkan..thanks Snape. I'm also going to appreciate the autumn.

Haunted, yes put a decent photo up. It won't feel like an invasion of your privacy as you can delete and block at your pleasure.

Oh bugger: I found putting something a bit off beat on one sentence increased my inbox. Whether that be a sport, band, etc. men seemed to grip onto it. Other than that I've no idea but keep it short and upbeat....as per advice from ladies here.

Scatty I've always had loads that drop off the face of the earth as well, I think actually men go on a lot fewer dates than we do, and some probably never go on any at all (because they're married, or fake/misleading photos, or just happy to chat etc). And it goes in cycles too - a few months ago I was in contact with 5 men, all offered dates, I swapped numbers and arranged actual days with 3 of them, and all of them cancelled one by one.

Film has been made through friend's church, just hoping there are not too many religious overtones...!

Haunted put up a pic. The worst that will happen is you'll go on dates with the sorts of inadequate losers I attract, but it's more likely you might actually get an enjoyable evening or two out of it :)

I do need to get my arse in gear, just 5 more mins...

Lots of plans past Monday. Ive got a month off, so I'm going to renovate some furniture. Clear out and set a room up for a different use, generally make the house spotless. Tie up a lot of paperwork. Enjoy being off for a short while ( have always worked).

Snape, are you sure you don't mind? U ok?

Watch. This sounds like the beginning of an amazing adventure for you. I know renovating furniture is a skill and a half.

sponge, a film in a church probably will be heavily infused with religion i suspect, but you never know. I went to a church thing the other week and thoroughly enjoyed it. It was coffee and cakes in a foyer and the building was lovely.

I was wondering too Snape. X