What's the age difference between you & your partner? & do you/ have ever been given grief for it?

[StrawberryTot]

This thread is more to satisfy my nosiness, oop i mean my thirst for knowledge then anything else, so basically what it says on the title :D

I was wondering what age differences posters have in relation to their partners and if any have ever had any grief/ comments/ etc, pretty much anything?

I should confess that I ask this as well partly due to the fact that after 10 years of being with my partner, 2 dc's later, a menagerie of pets people still feel the need to pass comment on the 12 year age difference. Now we may split next week (this would never happen by the way) but doesn't what we had together mean it was a success despite it not lasting and all those saying I told you so can f*ck off!! I'm sorry I'm rambling now!!

DH and I have an age gap of only six years, yet members of my family still found it hysterical to refer to me as Child Bride for ages. My mum even put it on letters.

13 years. There is a brief gap between my birthday and his when it is only 12 years. No one has ever commented though. Not to my face anyway.

He's 6 years older. But is young looking. We look about the sameish, I think.

Snigger - I laughed and grimaced at your comment as my dad used to say the same not so much anymore.
Exit - really? That's interesting of you to say, you must meet much nicer or mire reserved people than me

More bit mire!!

Argh not!!!! Damn you phone!!!!!

I'm 26 and dp is 37. Never had any issues because of it., been together nearly 6 years :) and stupidly happy

DH is 13 years older, he's 48 and I'm 35. I don't look a 'young' 35, but he does look a tad older than 48, maybe? However, as I married the first time round at 18, I have 2 DDs - one's 16 and one's 14, people always assume that I'm older than 35 . I'd be bemused if people commented on the age gap though...

DH and I have a 13 year age difference, his sons are only 5 and 6 years younger than me and call me Mum which gets more comments tbh. When we got married his mother said I must only be after him for his money because of the age gap and refused to talk to me, I didn't like to burst her bubble and tell her he was as skint as me. We do get the odd comment every now and then but it was worse at the beginning when I was 19 and he was 32 so it was more obvious, now I'm 32 and hes 45 its not so bad.

My DH is 19 years older than me.

At first we had a few comments but 4 years later (2 of which married) and one DS later no one ever says anything.

My DH is three years and 10 months older than me, but he likes to pretend that I'm older than him and he's my toy boy. I wish!

a 20 year old and a 31 year old- isn't that icky like whne Ross in tv friends dated his student

I'd flip if my 20yo DD dated someone that much older at that age

Same as myflabber 19 years between me and DP, Never had anyone raise an eyebrow (to my face) Wouldn't care if they did, its no-one elses business! Been together 8 years, living together 6 and getting married next year. :)

I'm 32. DH is 44. I'm botoxed very young looking.

He has occasionaly been mistaken for my dad

DH is 21 years older. You may think it "icky" margery but it works for us, and always has. I try not to judge relationships between consenting adults if it works for them.
Originally, people were a bit shocked. No-one bats an eyelid now. I am the mature one in the relationship! :o

Missy - I was 16 when I met my partner and he was 28 back then I looked older for my age now however I look younger, my partner on the other hand age a little less gracefully I'm trying to put that nicely but failing miserably, we used to get lots of remarks about it'll never last and other things. However that doesn't seem to have changed much, our friends and family are all accepting but others still feel the need to say something, occasionally I think they may not realise they are being rude, iykwim.

There are 13 years between my partner and I. I'm 30 and he's 43, been together since I was 18.

Got immense grief from my parents even though there are 10 years between them! Friends (who were all teens along with me) suggested it wouldn't last as he would see me as a kid and get bored.

In the meantime, we've had two children and stayed together (although had a few non-age related issues along the way like any couple), and some of these friends who married their own age or within 2 years of age have been divorced!

There is 3 years between me & my DH. Hardly groundbreaking!

My cousin and her DH have a 25 year age gap, people regularly mistake him for her father. They are both incredibly happy but some people are so judgmental. He's not wealthy, but doesn't exactly struggle (no mortgage, beautiful house etc) and she regularly gets assumptions that she is just in it for the money. Her current baby bump goes a fair way to disprove that!

13 years and no it's never been an issue.

Chinley - ohhh I'm with you 100% on the whole more mature thing.

But Margery, we don't live in friends. If two people are in love it's just plain rude to call their relationship icky.
And for the record, whilst there is only four years between me and my partner, my ex is nineteen years older than me. And we met when I was sixteen. So there. Judge that.

I'm 29 and DP is 40 (almost 41) so its a 12yr gap, we do occasionally get comments from people we've only just met but most of our friends and family have forgotten about thhe gap after 7yrs together.

We got lots of grief when we first met, my family thought he was a dirty old man because he was interested in a 22yr old 'girl' and his family thought I was a fortune hunter (which is hilarious since I've always been the main wage earner) and couldn't understand why I would want to be with a 34yr old man

Very large age gap between me and DH - larger than any previously mentioned here

I learnt to ignore any comments and am no longer self-conscious of it (married 7 years). Age gaps are not a particularly good indicator of whether a relationship will be successful IMO.