Ive been seeing someone about 3 months. Great guy, ticks all the boxes, he's funny, respectful, kind, always thinking up things for us to do, texts me every day and we see each other a lot. We've had many in depth talks and have been very intimate - I'd even go as far as to say I'm falling in love with him. He's always making arrangements to see me and is very loving when we do see each other and recently has been hinting at a long future together so I have no doubt that he IS interested in me.
The ONE problem I have with this guy is that he talks about his ex wife a lot. They were together almost 20 years so I expect her to pop up in conversation when relavent - of course she is a huge part of his history but he often starts full conversations all about her. Why they broke up, why they didn't get on, why it all went wrong, holidays they had etc etc.
I have spoken to him about it and he reasured me that he didn't love her, had no intentions of ever getting back with her and was sorry he spoke about her so often. I let it go. He didn't mention her for a while and then it started again.
I was very frank with him and said if he DID want to give things another go with her, I'd happily stand aside and let them get on with it. He was mortified and said no way did he want that, he wanted me, he wouldn't have got divorced if he still wanted her etc.
So again I let it go.
Now, Monday night was the first time we'd seen each other in 2 weeks due to us both having holidays and later in the night he started on about her again. A full on conversation about her - in which he said he didn't love her, but he missed her. Missed the good times they had and the things they did. He then said it's natural to feel like that and I suppose it is but to tell your new partner that you miss your ex???
Now this is where it gets wierd. Last night he took me to his mother's house for a coffee (he's staying there whilst his house gets sold, I know this to be legite) and as we approach the house he says "oh I've just thought, my wedding pictures might still be up here!" he said it in a way that he was pretending to be mortified by this but secretely wanted me to see them. I could just tell his horror wasn't genuine.
When we got in the house he immediately started looking around the walls - blatently looking for the wedding picture but making out that he was just showing me his childhood pics. He then brought down a load of photo albums and I could just tell he had every intention of coming accross the wedding pics. When he did he said "oh no, my wedding pics are in here - do you want to see them? you can if you want" - he WANTED me to see them, it was obvious.
Why???
If he was like this and showed no real interest in me it would be obvious what was wrong but he's amazing to me and really seems to adore me.
What's going on??