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Gone with the condiments

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LouP19 · 30/08/2012 21:12

Evening all,... Thank you to whoever came up with this lovely shiney new thread title!! Grin

As for Fedora, well I looked and it certainly wasn't her I saw in the picture!! He did go to Italy though, I saw pictures on his camera of the Bay of Naples, and also a few video clips of boat trips. And that's when I saw one single picture of a young blonde who he called 'Fedora'. 'I took a picture of her as she's very attractive and I wanted to remember what she looked like'. Jeez, I had a bit of a go, but I left that one because I couldn't be arsed to have an argument. This was about 4 days before he left.

Anyway, onto other things. Had one of these evenings where I can't stop my brain from whirling over details from the last few months. Times when I believed him because it meant an easier life. Believing him meant not being called 'paranoid' or insecure' or told to 'grow up'. Believing him meant some peaceful times on my own, not having to put up with him stomping about, resenting the fact that he was here. Believing him the time he claimed he got a 4 1/2 hour train back from London one evening in November when he smelt of aftershave.

Arrrggghhh! I know there's nothing I can do to stop this churning, but I am SO annoyed at myself. There were signs, but I just hoped things would get better. He always complained of being under pressure at work, so I had faith that he was trying his best.

Am so tempted to contact his boss and let him know what he's being doing under the 'guise' of work. Obviously, I wouldn't do it, but it is so tempting,......

Need to remember revenge is a life well lived blah blah!! Confused

OP posts:
LurkingAndLearningLovesCats · 04/09/2012 22:18

go away, we don't want you here" attitude that is so common among women.
Can of worms all over the floor...Grin

Tries to be light hearted

biggestregret · 04/09/2012 22:18

Jaysus - MarianneM are you for real?

Lou please try to ignore these horrid people. I believe you. As do the majority of the posters on here. If that makes me one of the quiche then I am very proud to be a member.

I hope you get a good nights sleep and enjoy catching up with GBB-Off.

Portofino · 04/09/2012 22:19

RichTea I am most interested to know how you "KNOW" what I have discussed on FB. Do you mean you have made an assumption that I have discussed this on FB? I admit to "knowing" Sweet to the degree she lives not far from my dsis and we have discussed the 2 of them meeting up. I live in Belgium, know about 30 Belgian MNetters but don't know any in the UK.

BabylonPI · 04/09/2012 22:19

Wasabi?? Is that the hot sauce stuff that looks like guacamole but definitely isn't guacamole???

I definitely did not make that mistake in an all you can eat Chinese buffet place; and then make a total cock of myself choking all over the place and gasping for water No siree, not I BlushBlush

Hawklore · 04/09/2012 22:20

MarianneM - "moaning in a chat forum will not resolve anything" - Yep, absolutely true. But maybe, just maybe it's a way for Lou to find some virtual support/virtual hand holding/light relief in the quiet moments in between the efforts she is making in real life to take control of the situation in what sounds to me at least to be a mature and dignified way?

Am I wrong to be amazed at people seemingly seeing fit to judge Lou for not dealing with the shitty hand she's been dealt in precisely the same way they think they'd deal with it if they were in her shoes??

MNHQ
OlympiaLMumsnet · 04/09/2012 22:20

Come along people!

MadBusLady · 04/09/2012 22:20

"moaning in a chat forum will not resolve anything"

Shock You're right!

CLOSE MUMSNET! Wink

OhDearNigel · 04/09/2012 22:21

you can mix it up with soy sauce to make a nice sush dip, Babs. It's a type of horseradish

RichTeaAreCrap · 04/09/2012 22:21

wheredidiputit strange that isn't it but she thinks she has a right to ask Lou for answers.

Lou told her several threads ago that she found her posts upsetting and asked her nicely to stop posting. She proclaims she wants to 'help' Lou. If this was genuine she would help by leaving the thread and stop upsetting Lou.

SweetFannyCraddock · 04/09/2012 22:21

because, why should i? i have every right to defend myself when posters like you are throwing wild accusations about. porto and I havent discussed tis on FB. we have been discussing other, far more personal things. you are making yourself look silly.

Rowanhart · 04/09/2012 22:22

Wow. Some deeply unpleasant behaviour on here tonight. Shocked by it.

Fwiw there are no rules about how someone should behave in a distressing emotional situation. It's wrong that sone people state LouPis not behaving as they think she should. I don't think any of us have any idea how we'd behave in these circumstances.

And some posters on here smack of needing some support themselves so shouting loudly at the world. Porto became abusive because few -including no post from OP - commented after her 'my husband would be DEAD' post. Porto, there's nothing wrong with wanting some emotional support from time to time. But being aggresuve and shouting for it is not the right way to go about it. Why not start your own thread to discuss what's going on with you?

saffronwblue · 04/09/2012 22:22

I just want to share a beautiful dessert I had in a v expensive restaurant last night- peanut butter parfait with salted caramel popcorn sprinkle...

RichTeaAreCrap · 04/09/2012 22:22

No Porto I haven't made any assumption. I KNOW.

Now can you answer my question please?

OldLadyKnowsNothing · 04/09/2012 22:22

Babylin, I don't know what wasabi looks like but I do know it's hot. Very hot.

BabylonPI · 04/09/2012 22:23

Ooh Beckamaw would be proud of me - it rhymesGrin

MarianneM · 04/09/2012 22:23

Hawklore what struck me from the first was the OP calling her husband cunt and other similar names, and allowing other posters do the same (all this "chutney" idiocy). Not mature or dignified in my opinion.

SweetFannyCraddock · 04/09/2012 22:24

how do you know? come on. if you are going to come out with bullshit accusations, you should be able to back it up.

RichTeaAreCrap · 04/09/2012 22:24

Sweet.....'why should I' ? Because you keep telling us that you are. Why do you keep saying it if you don't mean it?

TBH, it's you that is making yourself look rather silly with your tantrums.

I don't care if you leave or stay, but don't understand the posts where you repeatedly say you are leaving and then come back. All a bit hysterical really.

OhDearNigel · 04/09/2012 22:24

Am I wrong to be amazed at people seemingly seeing fit to judge Lou for not dealing with the shitty hand she's been dealt in precisely the same way they think they'd deal with it if they were in her shoes??

YABU. The world is full of people who criticise others for not doing the same as they would have done in the circumstances

I'm interested to know, MarianneM, how you dealt with the situation of your DH leaving you pregnant for a pregnant OW in a daytime flit, taking half of your belongings with him. As clearly this must have happened to you otherwise how could you possibly know how someone would react to that ?

Lagartijadoesthecrazyshake · 04/09/2012 22:25

Rich How on earth do you know what porto's been talking about on FB? Are you a FB friend of hers? I am baffled.

BabylonPI · 04/09/2012 22:26

'twas so very embarrassing Blush

OldLadyKnowsNothing · 04/09/2012 22:26

Marianne, why should Lou be dignified on here? Being a bit daft and swearing about him here may help her maintain dignity in real life.

NotGeoffVader · 04/09/2012 22:26

Thankyou Madbuslady - I am overtired and indigestion-ridden so I hope I wasn't sounding as though I was being too childish.

Babylon and Oldlady I made the wasabi mistake too! Got a veggie sushi thing from boots, didn't know what the green stuff was and smeared it all over everything.
Saffron - that sounds delicious!

RichTeaAreCrap · 04/09/2012 22:26

I can back it up Sweet yes. However, I don't need to explain myself to you or to Porto.

CockBollocks · 04/09/2012 22:27

Yep babylon looks like guacomole & pistachio ice cream Wink (too much Cars2)

Wasabi peas are a snack a little like peanuts iyswim - but best to only eat one at a time and not snuffle down a handful a mistake also absolutely not made by me