Gone with the condiments

[LouP19]

Evening all,... Thank you to whoever came up with this lovely shiney new thread title!!

As for Fedora, well I looked and it certainly wasn't her I saw in the picture!! He did go to Italy though, I saw pictures on his camera of the Bay of Naples, and also a few video clips of boat trips. And that's when I saw one single picture of a young blonde who he called 'Fedora'. 'I took a picture of her as she's very attractive and I wanted to remember what she looked like'. Jeez, I had a bit of a go, but I left that one because I couldn't be arsed to have an argument. This was about 4 days before he left.

Anyway, onto other things. Had one of these evenings where I can't stop my brain from whirling over details from the last few months. Times when I believed him because it meant an easier life. Believing him meant not being called 'paranoid' or insecure' or told to 'grow up'. Believing him meant some peaceful times on my own, not having to put up with him stomping about, resenting the fact that he was here. Believing him the time he claimed he got a 4 1/2 hour train back from London one evening in November when he smelt of aftershave.

Arrrggghhh! I know there's nothing I can do to stop this churning, but I am SO annoyed at myself. There were signs, but I just hoped things would get better. He always complained of being under pressure at work, so I had faith that he was trying his best.

Am so tempted to contact his boss and let him know what he's being doing under the 'guise' of work. Obviously, I wouldn't do it, but it is so tempting,......

Need to remember revenge is a life well lived blah blah!!

Frankly I would rather sit here being taken in and talking to a trolling teenage boy than troll hunt someone who is genuinely going through something awful.

I deal with people all the time who panic that the contents of their statements are wrong, that since they made it they remembered they've remembered something else or that actually what they said happened on Monday happened on Thursday. Most of the time we don't go through life thinking "I will have to remember this moment in great accuracy for court/nit picking people trying to find holes in the story I am going to tell about this is 9 months time"

I was always wary of his temper and his temperament...when he went off on one it was exhausting. But he was one of those people that when he was nice he was very very nice, IYSWIM.

Indeed. It's a cliche, but it's like living with/knowing two people, and you never know which one you're going to get.

Detach and distance is the only way with this type of scenario.... but my goodness.... it takes practice.....(!)

Sleep tight, hope you dream of cheesy triangles, cats, linguistics scholars and whatever makes you happy! (heeyyy it's Wednesday tomorrow!)

Oldlady, holiday plans yes, being thrown out of the car, no.

NitGeoffVader

Monster Munch and Quavers with minstrels to follow

But that's not the same thing at all OldLady. If I have a row with DH yesterday, how can I tell my mum about the row last week?????

incidents before they happen?

look, i do not take kindly to being accused of trollhunting. i havent. and I have reported posts suggesting otherwise.

however, porto has raised a good point, whether you like kit or not. as i said, im sure there is an explanation. but, i would like to hear it, because it does look a bit odd imo.

i like lou, I have enjoyed being on this thread and chatting, and i think that the position she is in must be dreadful. I have offered advice from the POV of someone struggling with FTC and rmc, but at times it seems that anyone outside of the select few is hounded off.

stoopid iPhone and fat fingers......

NOTGeoffVader

Not

Nit

mysterioushamster, I am not trollhunting, I asked for clarification on a point. not the same at all.

I find the OP's tone is strangely flippant and incredibly self-absorbed

Maybe flippancy is her way of dealing with a very upsetting situation that she can only bear to talk about jokingly. This is certainly not unusual. And as for self-absorbed, well, her husbands just left her high and dry, pregnant and having impregnated someone else. I doubt there is a more appropriate time to be wrapped up in yourself

Babylon what flavour Monster munch? I have a pack of Pickled Onion ones in the cupboard that I'm saving for Friday night. I also have a bar of Green & Blacks hazelnut & currant chocolate taunting me.

butterscotch green and blacks is best

oh, fgs.

this is so bloody childish. my 7yo sticks his fingers in his ears and chants lalalalala too.

I absolutely hate onions but pickled onion monster munch is just about the best foodstuff ever!

Pickled onion or roast beef - but definitely not the flaming hot ones - they smell funny

I'm also very partial to doritos and salsa dip NotGeoff but I always buy a family bag and find it hard to stop once I've opened them

No self control here!!!

Well, I'm just going to hope that the poster is real and although this all sounds highly improbable and, as Marianne says there is a bizarrely flippancy about some issues that would send lesser people mad, that stranger things happen at sea, it's her way of dealing with it and she can discuss things with third parties before they actually occur.
Good luck OP.

I like pretending to be 7

Hope you get a good night's sleep Lou x

Just for clarification, we went to the farmer's market LAST SUMMER. This is where he dropped the bombshell about not wanting to conceive. He left me in the car whilst he went buying sausage rolls and cheese, I was later accused of ruining the day for not going round the market. I told my Mum about this incident, this is what I was referring to. This is the incident that my Mum and a friend were concerned about - his apparent detachment from me and the relationship. This is when I gave the marriage a 'good go', but I was very unhappy.

I was thrown out of the car in November. I never told anyone in RL about this event at the time, but I did post about it on here.

So I never discussed any event with anyone before it happened. Happy?!

I didn't actually see the questions porto posted, because it had been deleted for personal abuse before I saw it.

But it does sound like nit-picking, from what others have said.

I have some Skittles, the weird-flavoured ones. I'll share.

You don't have to justify or explain Lou

LouP19 Tue 04-Sep-12 20:27:39
I didn't mention ttc on the way to the farmer's market, that was why it shocked me so much when he turned round and said to me that he wanted to stop trying. Just as we pulled up for a sunny day out in Bakewell. Anyway, no point dwelling on that just now, but it came completely out of the blue. And this was often the case with him, I thought everything was 'ok' and then he'd hit me with something that felt like a completely punch to the stomach. I would have no idea it was coming,....

I must admit last summer I talked to a close friend and my mum about the 'farmer's market incident' .

Replace 'last' with 'this' ...... would that make more sense?

X-post with Lou.

I found a devillishly moreish snack recently, Babylon - it was Daal flavoured snacks - mini popadoms and other little bits. I had to fight the urge not to eat the whole bag.