Gone with the condiments

[LouP19]

Evening all,... Thank you to whoever came up with this lovely shiney new thread title!!

As for Fedora, well I looked and it certainly wasn't her I saw in the picture!! He did go to Italy though, I saw pictures on his camera of the Bay of Naples, and also a few video clips of boat trips. And that's when I saw one single picture of a young blonde who he called 'Fedora'. 'I took a picture of her as she's very attractive and I wanted to remember what she looked like'. Jeez, I had a bit of a go, but I left that one because I couldn't be arsed to have an argument. This was about 4 days before he left.

Anyway, onto other things. Had one of these evenings where I can't stop my brain from whirling over details from the last few months. Times when I believed him because it meant an easier life. Believing him meant not being called 'paranoid' or insecure' or told to 'grow up'. Believing him meant some peaceful times on my own, not having to put up with him stomping about, resenting the fact that he was here. Believing him the time he claimed he got a 4 1/2 hour train back from London one evening in November when he smelt of aftershave.

Arrrggghhh! I know there's nothing I can do to stop this churning, but I am SO annoyed at myself. There were signs, but I just hoped things would get better. He always complained of being under pressure at work, so I had faith that he was trying his best.

Am so tempted to contact his boss and let him know what he's being doing under the 'guise' of work. Obviously, I wouldn't do it, but it is so tempting,......

Need to remember revenge is a life well lived blah blah!!

I hope this is one of the nights where you get a good nights sleep Lou! Xx

Porto please, the damage has been done now.

Just go away anyway huh? Please?

Babylon - to fair, most of my comments have been about the advice and behaviour of the SUPPORTERS on this thread. Not Lou. And I think I adequately explained why above.

Porto - Lou doesn't need to explain or clarify anything for you. Perhaps you should just go away.

i thought you weren't coming back on this thread ?

I expect, like the rest of us, that Lou is not blessed with a foolproof memory. I am sure that we have all thought something happened at one point in time and then remembered a couple of weeks later that actually it was another time.

Duh Porto ,

Why ask ? It's quite obvious to people that have real life conversations ...the wonderfull thing being you can chat about anything , in any tense ( past present or future ) .

People do it quite a lot , I find .

Lou, the way you have dealt with everything that has been thrown at you IS inspiring.

You've kept your dignity, your sanity - and yes though your diet may be questionable and not very varied right now, at least you ARE eating - which is very important.

I personally find you very inspirational as I know I would have lost all self-control by now and tried every which way I could to get revenge. Rightly or wrongly, I would have lost my marbles by now and he would seriously know about it - probably with very unpleasant consequences

Either that or I would have gone into self-destruct mode (I've been there before) or hibernation

You inspire me to be a better person and to think through my actions and reactions before I actually commit to them.

My dad still uses an old saying for me, and that is "that I put my mouth into motion, before my grain is in gear"

It's true, I do, but hopefully a little less every day now

Sleep tight lovely Lou (hug) x

but how can you discuss something before it happened?

Babylon has the right idea!

ignores blatant troll hunters

*inconsistencies that most likely aren't there

asking someone to clarify is NOT trollhunting.

ignores

My memory of when important and distressing things happened is quite clear - as is that of most people I find.

ummm, I said she was out of order.

jeez.

Fanny, people often discuss things before they happen. Holiday plans, weddings, babies, you know?

Really, does it matter? God, I can't remember what I did yesterday so I'd have no idea recollecting when a particular conversation took place.

Honestly, the OP is going through an extremely difficult time and she's being pulled up on the date of something?

Do we have to resort to killing off this thread with posts naming our favourite snacks again, or are we going to just move on and be adult?