Gone with the condiments

[LouP19]

Evening all,... Thank you to whoever came up with this lovely shiney new thread title!!

As for Fedora, well I looked and it certainly wasn't her I saw in the picture!! He did go to Italy though, I saw pictures on his camera of the Bay of Naples, and also a few video clips of boat trips. And that's when I saw one single picture of a young blonde who he called 'Fedora'. 'I took a picture of her as she's very attractive and I wanted to remember what she looked like'. Jeez, I had a bit of a go, but I left that one because I couldn't be arsed to have an argument. This was about 4 days before he left.

Anyway, onto other things. Had one of these evenings where I can't stop my brain from whirling over details from the last few months. Times when I believed him because it meant an easier life. Believing him meant not being called 'paranoid' or insecure' or told to 'grow up'. Believing him meant some peaceful times on my own, not having to put up with him stomping about, resenting the fact that he was here. Believing him the time he claimed he got a 4 1/2 hour train back from London one evening in November when he smelt of aftershave.

Arrrggghhh! I know there's nothing I can do to stop this churning, but I am SO annoyed at myself. There were signs, but I just hoped things would get better. He always complained of being under pressure at work, so I had faith that he was trying his best.

Am so tempted to contact his boss and let him know what he's being doing under the 'guise' of work. Obviously, I wouldn't do it, but it is so tempting,......

Need to remember revenge is a life well lived blah blah!!

Oh Lou, another sad story - you must have been walking on eggshells your entire marriage, just waiting for the next incident.

They do say that hindsight is the most exact science on earth. You're looking back on your marriage with different eyes

Yeah, I was always wary of his temper and his temperament. Always. And when he went off on one it was exhausting. But he was one of those people that when he was nice he was very very nice, IYSWIM. And I fell for it and ignored the bits I didn't like. Because according to him the bits I didn't like were mostly my fault anyway.

I see this all quite clearly now. And I knew it was the case even in the relationship, but I tried to 'work on him' a bit. After we first got married I asked him if he'd go to anger management. For a while he agreed, but then that of course faded into the background when it came to actually doing something about it. Latterly in the relationship I hoped the 'Kind, Calm, Empathy Fairy' might come along. What an idiot I was. That's why along with all the other emotions going through my head at the moment, I can't help but feel a bit relieved. That whatever path my life takes I don't have to worry about someone exploding over something I rarely felt I had any control about.

Anyway, I'm off to bed now. Am recording Bake Off to watch when I get back from work tomorrow. Looking forward to freshly ironed cotton sheets and duvet.

Porto - I was just about to say that I can now understand where you are coming from snd wish you had d planned it earlier, but then I read your most recent post which is a personal attack on Lou and accuses her of lying and making all this up which is what you have alleged all along.

I had literally just decided that you were just misunderstood and then you posted that. I have had no choice but to report it. I'm sorry.

You should be so ashamed if that disgusting and cruel post Porto.

For the record, if your husband had committed suicide, it would not have been MN's fault and it most certainly wouldn't have been yours for leaving.

I have reported Porto's post

Jesus, someone has hit the bottle this evening. How dare you? I've never read so much self important shit in life,...... If you have such a massive problem then piss off.

D planned = explained

I see it's been removed in the minutes it took me to write and report.!

Sleep well Lou.

Thread one, Porto accuses Lou of being a troll. Threads 2-3, Porto goads and goads. Thread 4, Porto accuses Lou of being a troll in the nastiest way she can think of, throwing in new and more vicious insults to Lou's supporters.

Can we from now on just not get sucked in? It's clear what she believes. So as annoying as she is, let's not give her what she wants.

Lou I'm up at 5:30 here for school (life is cruel)

What snack on the go should I have for breakfast?

Porto - I find what you said in your last post very upsetting and unnecessary. In recent postings you have offered some very useful advice, and have explained a difficult situation you have been in.

You have reiterated bad advice being posted here, but have said yourself that you chose to ignore advice given - I am sure Lou is more than capable of determining rational from irrational advice, and chosing her own course of action.

Please do not bring this thread down to a mud-slinging, back-biting playground war. If you don't believe what Lou says, fine. But please do not insult her. If you do not like the thread, you do not have to stay on it.

Hope you are ok Lou. Don't let one person upset you.

Jeeez what a shocking post :-(

Ignore it Lou.

You think they are fair? questions

Lou doesn't have to justify anything from that filthy post that called her 'fucking disgusting' and a troll! Bloody hell.

Lou please just ignore nitpickers. You have a great deal of support here.

I am upset, but thanks skye. What gets me is she turns up on here everynow and again and pretends to be all pally pally talking about low carbing and I kind of feel 'she's not so bad' and then just when it's getting too much for her or someone's said something that she doesn't quite agree with she's in there with a knife. And it's usually abusing a supporter, but tonight 'I'm a fucking liar' who is doing nothing but getting all my neighbours and Mum and Dad to do everything whilst I sit around,.....

What the FUCK?!!!!! These are all HER issues, not mine. I have asked her politely to refrain from posting, she hasn't, so I've politely ignored her. And then the insults get personal. It says far more about her than it does about me or anyone else posting on here.

I hope MN will actually do something about her now Lou.

Please don't lose faith in MN. She has a massive axe to grind and comes off bloody crazy.

You're rght..They are HER issues, please don't take them on board. Hug

What Skye and Lurking said, up there ^

Hope you can move past that, Lou - The support here far outweighs the uncalled-for.

what would you like mnhq to do? really? a banning? for a rant?

I agree that the post was uncalled for, but she is entitled to her opinion. the post has gone. job done. concentrate on giving and receiving support without porto on this thread.

Lou you are marvelous, I've said so since the beginning! There are lots of people here wishing you nothing but the very best, I hope you can focus on those posts :)

Wow, I have never seen a post like that before. what on earth happened? Hope you are ok Lou (I was an earlier target of hers on one of your earlier threads and just stopped posting but it did upset me).

I have agreed with some of her earlier posts, but that was just awful.

Oh Lou

Just ignore ignore ignore

MNHQ have already verified your posts are genuine as far as they are concerned.

Porto has had a bee in her bonnet about your situation from the very first thread.
Tonight, though I didn't see her post (and nor do I wish to) i get the gist of it and really hope MNHQ have words with her.

I've had replies to some of portos comments deleted, as have many others - but as far as I recall, no one has actually got personal until tonight.

I feel she has shown her true colours now and urge every supporter of Lou to ignore, ignore and ignore some more.

Chin up Lou, you've already proved you're made of stronger stuff

I missed it! I knew she still thought you were lying. I think she thought that if she hung around long enough you would trip yourself up.

I really don't understand how my post broke talk guidelines.

Thank you, am properly going to bed now. And I've never claimed to be an inspiration to anyone (that was another insult I got btw, I am no inspiration, all I do is eat crumpets). I am NOT an inspiration, my life is shit!! Flipping eck!!

Night night xx

It didn't crazy