Gone with the condiments

[LouP19]

Evening all,... Thank you to whoever came up with this lovely shiney new thread title!!

As for Fedora, well I looked and it certainly wasn't her I saw in the picture!! He did go to Italy though, I saw pictures on his camera of the Bay of Naples, and also a few video clips of boat trips. And that's when I saw one single picture of a young blonde who he called 'Fedora'. 'I took a picture of her as she's very attractive and I wanted to remember what she looked like'. Jeez, I had a bit of a go, but I left that one because I couldn't be arsed to have an argument. This was about 4 days before he left.

Anyway, onto other things. Had one of these evenings where I can't stop my brain from whirling over details from the last few months. Times when I believed him because it meant an easier life. Believing him meant not being called 'paranoid' or insecure' or told to 'grow up'. Believing him meant some peaceful times on my own, not having to put up with him stomping about, resenting the fact that he was here. Believing him the time he claimed he got a 4 1/2 hour train back from London one evening in November when he smelt of aftershave.

Arrrggghhh! I know there's nothing I can do to stop this churning, but I am SO annoyed at myself. There were signs, but I just hoped things would get better. He always complained of being under pressure at work, so I had faith that he was trying his best.

Am so tempted to contact his boss and let him know what he's being doing under the 'guise' of work. Obviously, I wouldn't do it, but it is so tempting,......

Need to remember revenge is a life well lived blah blah!!

I agree, Im not sure how helpful it is to assume that the chunt is a narc without proper diagnosis. he may display some traits, but so do most people.

Yes, Suffolk, you're right.
Apologies Lou. I hope you are having a crumpetty evening.

Sunday is a good day for crumpets and muffins. My mum used to toast them in front of the fire while bro dad and I watched the muppet show.

feeling uncomfortable about those discussing Lou between themselves? It's like talking about someone whilst they are in the room.

Might just be me though.

not just you! my pet hate, as it happens.

I think it's very very mean to keep talking about crumpets though. Have a heart!

Um, I was replying directly to another poster. What grammatical phrasing would you prefer? Or is this more derailing the thread by having a go at ME?

Are you gluten intolerant, or just yearning for crumpets?
I have a sainsbugs TTD scotch egg, how about that?

I'd kill for some caramelised onion 'jam' to go with...

Of course, as Solar did that too, you could have been talking about her - sorry.

I am extremely uncomfortable about the "policing" and possessiveness of this thread, Lou specifically asked for lone parent experiences:

Lou: "I would really appreciate hearing from other single Mums out there - the ups and downs of doing it on your own,......"

I am not saying my life is her life, that is a ridiculous notion. However, me (and others) have responded to HER request, and shared our personal experiences. It is not for others to dictate that this is unwise and unuseful, Lou is an adult, she can decide for herself if she finds other's experiences helpful.

erm both gluten intolerant, and also yearning for crumpets

although not yearning any more, thanks to you cruel posters

won't be long before I've used up the stash and I'll be out of the woods

had a scotch egg with gluten coating, of course yesterday at Tyntesfield. arm and a leg, both the scotch egg and to get into Tyntesfield. Worth it though (both)

BUZZ - deviation

I'm not discussing her when she's out of the room, I said that I thought whether someone else had found singleprenthood hard or not would probably have no bearing on whether Lou wanted to have the baby. If she wants the baby she wants it, if not she doesn't. I said she needed to examine her feelings nd make a decision about this now, without thought to her Ex's possible involvement. I directed those comments to the OP. Other people seemed to think that was out of line and that I was imposing my thoughts on her.
So now it is wrong to talk about nything other than crumpets?

I wanted to ask this yesterday but didn't as u thought you were filly vegi. with the return of Dr Who to our screens, what are your feelings on fish fingers and custard?

Hope you had a good day Lou

Noone said it wasn't useful. Lagertija just said that Lou should not base her decision on the experiences of others.

For what its worth I think its reasonable of you Lou to ask about other people's experience of being a single parent. PersonallyI dont know any single parents in RL to draw on experience from. I would be curious too.

Lou you are definitely intelligent enough to hear others experiences, but make up your own mind based on you and your feelings. Your posts always indicate to me that you are handling all this so well.

I wish I could join in the food talk, but I am seriously condiment averse. Cannot see why you would want anything but butter on a crumpet.

Sorry I am not going to engage with this.

Lou, if there is anything you wanted to ask me, feel free to PM me.

lunar1 lots of folk have tried it apparently!

However my source of all things DW aka DD1 says that in filming it was a slab of sponge cake coated in breadcrumbs to make it realistic!!

Lou asked for other POV earlier and she has got a good range here, she will be able to pick over the different thoughts & wise words I'm sure & hopefully after seeing her lovely counsellor tomorrow might feel a little clearer on her intentions.

No crumpets here but a roast chicken in the oven & loads of veggies!

Crumpets and butter for me too. A purist!
Springy, i luffs just a minute. I like and NT tea room too...

Did anyone see Miranda? I'm Mylene Klass arf arf

They keep getting the full minute at the edinburgh festival! they're all hyped up - much prefer the sedate studio sessions.

There used to be a fab female regular on JAM, she died v young. Elaine Smith??

single parent - me - adored it. in fact, hugely grieving because them kids have gone now, flown the nest. can't even pretend an emoticon for the wrenching agony of my heart on that one tbh.

ah, it's hard not to wax lyrical about being a mum - tbh it's irrelevant that I was a single parent. yes it was hard sometimes but, as this was moreorless all I had following the blessed exit of horrific husband from our marriage, it was all I knew.

YOu have very supportive family and friends, which was (much) more than I had. but still it was the best possible thing. I adored it.

I had awful trouble with narc ex though - throughout - and I so wish I'd known then what I know now. Which would be to keep him as far away as possible, by any and every means. the kids had a relationship with him - facilitated by me to the hilt - but he only used them to torture me, if I'm being completely honest.

No not Elaine Smith - whats her name again? LInda Smith??