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Ok, you asked for it...a thread just for the crap men come out with!

128 replies

Yogagirl17 · 29/08/2012 22:41

I'll start:

"Of course I want to try to save our marriage. I'll end the affair immediately...but I can still be friends with her, right?"

"I'm not jealous that you've moved on and are dating other men...I'm just concerned for your safety because they are clearly all mad, stalker, paedophiles"

"I'm drunk and horny....sorry I was just sharing my feelings"

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mercury7 · 30/08/2012 23:56

i love that song too yogagirl infact i'm rather alarmed at how much it appeals to me :o

Lueji · 31/08/2012 02:11

I never threatened you. (...) If we don't go back together I'll kill you.

On the same e-mail.
Other gems have found their way to the police/state prosecutor, child custody and divorce processes.
He was never very bright.

Suzietastic · 31/08/2012 03:52

"last night was great, we've definitely got a future together. Thing is, I've got a girlfriend and we've got a three week holiday to Thailand booked which I can't really cancel. Yeah so anyway, I'm going to go on holiday with her then dump her when I get back is that ok?"

"it wouldn't have been fair on me to leave it any longer" (after dumping me on Christmas eve & ruining Christmas)

Slumberparty · 31/08/2012 07:52

Grin lol at the bad BJ grammar!

Offred · 31/08/2012 08:05

Mercury - no because in my experience it is more acceptable for women to say sexist things!

Yoga - saying something is a "male thing" is a bit man hating!

Offred · 31/08/2012 08:05

In society I think not to me.

akaemmafrost · 31/08/2012 08:42

"I am not sympathetic when you're ill because you are a hypochondriac, look at the fuss you were making when you were in labour!"

43 hours, ds wedged in pelvis, EMCS....

"I don't compliment you because it would make you arrogant".

"you breastfeeding made our kids fussy, my sisters bottle fed and their kids are much better behaved than ours"

Scattylatte · 31/08/2012 09:01

'im dumping you because you dont suit my lifestyle'.
We had been going out a year. mild by comparison but i felt like i was a pet!

Snorbs · 31/08/2012 09:07

Yogagirl, you may well feel "entitled" to your rant. Just as I am entitled to point out when you're being unnecessarily offensive and sexist.

Try recasting your comments to denigrate a different group:

LOL, the irish are such fuckwits!
I actually started this thread as a bit of a joke/homosexuals are idiots kind of thing!
LOL, blind people are such fuckwits!

Would you still regard these as "a bit of a joke"?

Offred, thank you for your apology. Oh, wait, you didn't...

wooga · 31/08/2012 09:17

In hospital after c.s. following complications:
"oh....I thought your stomach would have gone down now ds is out."

"I didn't say that- you're imagining things."

"I can't do the hoovering while you're at work- I told you I'm on strike!" Yes,on strike at work but not out on picket line- at home playing computer games while dcs at school/ childminder and I was at work!

That event made me finally come to my senses - now my ex!

Offred · 31/08/2012 09:28

Snorbs - sorry for not saying no-one said men were fuckwits quick enough for you tbh I was more concerned with pointing out why I thought it was a shit thing to say. Still don't think it makes it ok to say women are fuckwits. Hmm thanks for apologising for that Hmm

Offred · 31/08/2012 09:29

*someone!! Ha ha!

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Yogagirl17 · 31/08/2012 09:30

Snorbs Are you really offended by this thread? Would it help if I said "Some men are fuckwits" or "men can be such fuckwits sometimes"? Wink

Seriously, if you're genuinely offended I'm sorry - as I already said, most of the men I know are lovely, decent people most of the time. And if you knew me at all you would know I am not sexist (or racist or homophobic for that matter). This isn't real life, this is just an anonymous online forum where I'm taking the opportunity to get some shit off my chest. That's all.

Offred actually, I don't think saying certain things seem particularly 'male' is a man-hating thing. I genuinely think men and women often have a tendency to think differently.

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mercury7 · 31/08/2012 09:46

snorbs..why pick on this thread when the whole relationship section is a misandrist jamboree :o

lighten up dude, 's just a bit of harmless banter :)

Offred · 31/08/2012 09:51

I think that's exactly what is sexist! If men might say different things to women it wouldn't be because they were men but a product of how men and women are socialised and what is considered acceptable by society. It doesn't mean it is a "male" thing to say!

skyebluesapphire · 31/08/2012 10:02

To his "friend" on seeing me after he walked out

"she could look happier to see me, she always looks so miserable " Hmm

"no I don't text my "friend" (OW) very often, hardly ever". Shortly before being presented with a ream of paper showing over 100 texts a day..

"I've had enough of your sulking, you need to cheer up" this was two days after I had watched my gran die in hospital.

Abitwobblynow · 31/08/2012 10:02

Snorbs, really not saying that all men are bastards. The one I am with is completely cut off from his emotions, and so what he is battening down squirts out sideways in white hot steam at me.

I am not a saint either, but when you are not dealing with what appears, it's not a great negotiating platform, you know? 'You cannot change what you do not acknowledge/you can only be as honest as you are with yourself'.

I would love to be around a man who tells me who he is. That is more important than looks and ££££ in my book.

Snorbs · 31/08/2012 10:33

Yogagirl, I'm not offended by this thread. I'm offended by your sweeping generalisations about men. If you meant "some men" then you could have written "some men". But you didn't.

What value is there in claiming that you're not sexist when you say sexist things? It reminds me of the old MN poster Daftpunk who used to claim not to be racist but then happily spouted BNP slogans.

ike1 · 31/08/2012 10:36

misandrist's jamboree. Love that phrase!!! Gonna make sure i use it as often as poss today!

Abitwobblynow · 31/08/2012 10:43

Snorbs, I really didn't mean to imply that all men are bastards. The one I am concerned with is the one I [stupidly] chose, who is cut off from his emotions for reasons that have nothing to do with me.

And the emotions that he has battened down, come escaping out in white hot blasts at me. And because he is not honest, that makes the negotiating platform impossible. 'You cannot change what you do not acknowledge/you can only be as honest with others as you are with yourself'.

I am not a drama queen, and I would love to be on his team. But I can't. What I know now, and what I will tell my D's, is that a man who can tell you who is is and what he thinks and feels, is much more important than looks and £££££. By far. I wish I had a man like that. Just an ordinary bloke.

What we women need to do, is learn to spot the 'complicated' ones, and not find them so compelling!

MigratingCoconuts · 31/08/2012 10:51

progessively over many months of a breakup:

'I love her and I can't live without her in my life'

'don't worry, you don't have an std or anything'

'I didn't cheat because I told you about it before I slept with her'

'I never slept with her, she's a lesbian'

'You'll have to take a long hard look at yourself before I take you back' (I wasn't planning to take him back!!!)

'There was no affair, I told you that so that you would hate me as much as I hate myself' (it worked!!!)

'You need to take me back because I know you and I know what's best for you'

'You need to take me back because I am ill and having you back would make me better'

I ran for the hills and didn't look back Grin

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Yogagirl17 · 31/08/2012 12:04

Thank you mercury! GrinGrin

(am now off to look up the word misandrist..)

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Mrsgorgeous · 31/08/2012 13:04

"I can't believe you've accused me of seeing someone else, it's cut me in half" (her email proved that he had been in bed with her all that day)

After telling me that he wasn't seeing her anymore "well, I wasn't then".....(what that hour?)

Things he told her:

She said she would kill the children if I went sailing.

I had to marry her because she had cancer ( cancer bit was true but not the reason we married 2 years later)

I have tried to leave her 2 or 3 times ( really,when?)

It's as if I never knew him...what a betrayal, what a liar!

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Yogagirl17 · 31/08/2012 13:27

Mrsg - it's amazing, isn't it, the things men will say to justify their desire to fuck another woman some people will say to justify their own morally bereft behaviour

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Kaluki · 31/08/2012 16:02

I've got some crackers from my ex
"I'm not an alcoholic, I just like a drink!" (at 10 in the morning???? Hmm)
"You drive me to drink".
"if you gave me more blow jobs I would stay in more often"
"I hit you because you push me too far - you need to learn when to back off!"
"I only shagged her because she reminded me of how you used to be when we first met!"
"you'll never find anyone else to put up with you" (I did!!!)
"the next bloke you meet had better be a big bastard because I will kill him!" (he tried and failed and got charged with assault! Shock)

And my all time favourite:
A week after my dad had died
"I'm going to the pub - I can't listen you you crying anymore!"
And "how do you think I feel when you go on about your dad. It's getting boring!!"

So glad he's an ex but very sad that he is doing all this to some other poor woman now!

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