I'm not going to change my mind, I'm doing it with an open mind (clearly!) I will feel absolutely amazing once the filth is filthed....it's just right now.... 
we were in the sauna yesterday & he was stretching and complaining about his shoulder, he has a knot under his shoulder blade, i chided that he never stretches after he exercises and what does he expect, then ran my hand over his shoulder, found the knot, 'there it is! is it the same side as your jaw?' yes, 'oh it's stress related, you need a massage', 'oh i wish i had the money..' reader, dear, i bricked it, i offered the services of DS2. (who is a very good masseuse....)
why isnt there a 'sigh' emoticon. I'm scratching an itch, a physical itch. My emotional itch still needs slapped.
watch although he doesnt seem to be particularly (self) aware of developments - do you think he'll not connect? I think blaming it on yourself is kind though. blame it on ykw, then you get to look like a bitch and he'll feel much better!