Honey traps and stunning women aplenty - dating thread 20!

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20!!!!!!

Bloody hell :)

Too much filth from the prof, line crossed. Told him off, know this because I'm feeling poetical & I get filth. :(

Oh no! But it should only be fun for him if it is fun for you, snape.

Watch just be careful. I know you will be, but I also know that when you have lots of other RL stuff going on, it makes it easy to get swept away, esp by someone as charismatic as YKW. So long as you keep a minimum of one
foot on the ground metaphorically speaking at all times you will be fine :) but you know that already.

Snape PM has to know about the profile. His constant tinkering with his own is like an attempt to get you to look at him, I'm sure. The poem thing cant be mere coincidence.

I arranged 3 dates tonight. However they are all on POF, and I have my suspicions at least 2 see me as no more than a one off shag. So I may well cancel them all. It would be nice to be wanted for my mind just occasionally

Sponge. Well if 1 of those 3 comes good that Will be fab!

Snape, too much filth?. Sure your not just frustrated at him for not being pm?

Haveht dumped mrl Yet. Feel really bad about it, dont think he knows It's.coming, yestetday he kept trying to hold my hand. I.just feel mean. But, I.dont need another child to mother, thats not what I.want from a partner, then you add in.all the other stuff, and yeah. I need to.do it.

I'm not expecting/ even considering anything with ywk, It's just a meet to say hi as hes living so close..some things need to be said too, from both sides to end the impasse. Two feet firmly on ground :) he isn't moving till end of next month anyway.

Watch I am not convinced about any of them really. the one who doesnt seem to see me as a shag is not that attractive, the others are but i'm not sure about their intentions. So all a bit meh really. And Mr PFWB has disappeared so thats the end of that

Anyway, both feet on the ground with YKW is good :) and you do have to send the text to MrL you know. You will feel better once it's done I promise.

Sponge, pfwb was a chancer anyway.
When are the dates?

I know I need to text/ talk to him. I've laid awake being baffled that he Didnt want to fill his own water bottle, Because it was scary with hot water and he might scald himself. And needed to practice first.
Thats just insane. And is the behavior of an 8/9 year old, not a 29 yeah old.

Watch Just do it, you don't need an unhygienic, insensitive child to look after. If he really is autistic/aspergers then just be very clear - give him one or two good reasons he can understand - and leave it at that. Good luck, you know you'll feel better once it's done. x

Agree with yoga on that watch be clear and short about it. The sooner its done the easier, the weight off your shoulders will be lifted.

Snape I know I am a boring vanilla sod with my own ishooos about kink but IMHO kinksters (especially blokes) can be notorious for overstepping boundaries, which they feel they can do because you can then tell them off. If that works for you, fine but I prefer someone with firm boundaries who doesnt let their own enthusiasm creep into another person's space.

Feel free to tell me to piss off

I know.
And the mouse thing. It's been living in his bedroom for 6 weeks. He hasn't hoovered the mouse poo.... He said it Will disturb it and the mouse wont come out. He said he has blocked it in with piles of clothes.

I feel a bit sick thinking hes been in my bed.....

definately too much filth watch I'm happy to receive the occasional cock-shot if I'm fore-warned I dont particularly appreciate a barrage of them including videos without prior consent when i have a house full of drunk teenagers. he's reasonably contrite, I assume he is testing boundaries etc. point being, some of the additional things he has mentioned are the kind of things that if one were so inclined, one would lead up to gradually. I wouldn't mention them before I had actually slept with someone the first time.. he is filthy. slightly too filthy for me, I'll try anything once (twice for good measure, just to make sure...) But this is definately only a fling. time limit of a couple of months if that - great. handsome, accomplished, funny, thinks i'm beautiful, laughs at my jokes, mind like a sewer.

not sure if this is because i would rather be wafting around reading poetry (...) with PM or is because I havent had a good seeing to for a while or that I'm a bit scared about what is happenning. best thing to do is take a deep breath, be brave and jump in.

watch any news? have you texted him yet?

madameO we cross-posted about boundaries - nods we can both see what he's up to. thats good affirmation, ta love!

Snape my second date was a bit like your Prof. Very quick progression to filth, super-intelligent, charming...I got tired of it really quickly and got rid.

I know it looks like lots of fun and ok for a fling. My previous time with abusive ex had kind of set me up to see such behaviour as acceptable, but all the subsequent training and support kind of fast-tracked me so I saw the red-flags really quickly. People like the Prof are not nice, warm people and can start messing with your head really quickly. It's tempting when you DO have a nice warm element in the life (ie PM) to think that each is meeting your needs, but (again IMHO) the reverse is true. You are meeting their needs and depriving your own.

Hope this makes sense and doesn't sound patronising. X

If you are feeling apprehensive, trust your instincts. Sensible may not be exciting, but it is safe.

You dont have to have a fling if you don't want to...
Ive had the same sort of experience myself. And tend to find the kinkier They are the more Charming and intelligent they are. However, if you are feeling a bit off with it, to the point that you feel you just need to jump in, because hes said nice things, id give it a second thought. Is that really what you want to do?

Yes, he has Text if I want to do anything today, which means ill end up funding it all. So ive said we are too tired, and instead dd and I are off to tge zoo courtsey of Tesco clubcard :)

Yay Watch enjoy!

watch you are procrastinating

no, watch, what i really want to do is curl up naked under a blanket with PM and read poetry. then have lovely boring old vanilla sex (the richest, creamiest vanilla ever as opp to double chocolate with tons of e numbers) but as that doesn't seem to be on the cards at the moment, I think i'm going to go and get roughly spanked. Perfectly happy to use the prof to get off. no trepidation about who is doing the using here ta very much. I'm content that it's 'safe' I have no problem about putting my knickers firmly back on and heading home.

god I sound like an utter cow.

I think it's distance and text contact - prof when he's around is lovely and charming and not all-about-shagging. i think some of the difficulty is the prospect of shagging running away with us - it's not all filth - just a subtantial majority of it.

Anyway, PM tonight, he's talked me into auditioning for something, which is a miracle given (1) I don't act (unless it's mild disinterest when PM takes his shirt off in front of me..) (2) I would have the worst stage fright ever if i got this and would need considerable...soothing to actually ponce around in front of folk.

watch zoo! yay! watch out for the mice.

watch Yoga's right, you are procrastinating, the sooner the better with MrexL

snape I'm going off your prof a little bit. He doesn't seem to have much respect for boundaries which is a bit concerning.

will have this out with him, but will be in person, not by text.

In his slight defence, I have been leading him astray (my words, not his) and I haven't had sex in a VERY long time and I am as horny-as-fuck. he does rein it back in if I pull him up and doesn't chip away again until we're back to horn-square 1. I mentioned that there had been a bit of a 'filth-overload', that i was tired and that I appreciated that he had no way of knowing what way my mind was veering at any given point, or what I might think was appropriate at which point he did stop, so he might be respectful of boundaries, he might not. i guess we'll see. it's too early to call just now, so i'll have to suck it and see.

Snape I am very jealous! Not of the kinky stuff exactly but I love that build up of sexual tension. Mr60? 60Shades? (still don't have a name for the guy i just finished with - the one who claimed 60 miles was too much of a LDR) Anyway, we got quite carried away with it all in the build up to the actual thing and it was such a rush (and probably why he still thinks he can send me txts telling me how horny he is and what exactly he wants to do with me!). Actually, he was very aware of the whole 50Shades phenomenon and we'd talked about exploring some new stuff together...sadly never got around to it but maybe just as well now. Anyway, back to you - I am jealous. You sound like you're having a blast and like you know you're own boundaries pretty well so enjoy. (and please promise to share at least some of the details with those of us who are not getting any concerned about your well being. )

What's the audition? Is it a stage thing or telly? Break a leg.

yoga 'mr 60' is a fab name. :) i think it might be a little too filthy for the regular thread I'll have to name change and start an uber-friday thread nothing wrong with a little exploration, I obviously need to trust the person concerned and that grows over time, which is precisely why there should be a lead-up and i'm not going to go straight into the 50th shade of fuckery. meh. we'll see. ahvent heard from him yet today (he's busy with huge new contract apaprently) but i'm fucked if i'm texting him first after telling him off last night.

texting PM, (yes i know, see point whatever it was above - point 1? the most rudimentary point!) about audition and saying I'm a bit scared so we're currently having deep conversation about acting (his absolute true-love) & while he might miss the gym today (has job interview) he says he'll come to audition with me. it's an alan bennet talking head at our local theatre. I'd offered the artistic director to do some backstage/costume design - she has asked me to read for a role. I suspect PM to be somewhere in the background of this.

snape go for it! i of course would run away at thought of it

Anyone have that moment when the perfect song for your mood comes on?

As for dating well I sorta have a boyfriend and another couple who want to date me.....though they know I am with someone. The only thing is I feel completely numb, I won't let myself fall for anyone right now. They would have to be amazing for me to feel "attached" to anyone.

watch have fun at the zoo :)

apparently it's all my fault I can't get a second date ever wish sometimes people would keep their opinions to themselves?!

"ever wish sometimes people would keep their opinions to themselves?"

all the time sponge