Honey traps and stunning women aplenty - dating thread 20!

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20!!!!!!

Bloody hell :)

The only worthwhile opinion is a solicited one. even then it might leave a little to be desired...

the prof is contritely texting. I am waiting for the filth to resurface a la times mr candles...

an hour of texting. no filth. I've broken him!

Who told you it's your fault sponge?

Hehehehhe. Anuvvamuvva is an evil genius.

I put that bloke who applied to go to china in a box and haven't contacted him for ages. We've been having a LDR of sorts (kind of FWB but we had a relationship in the dim and distant past) and he has been talking about needing me in his life and spending more time with me and my boys. Anyway. He rang me today to ask if he can visit in September and could he book tickets etc. I told him I'd check my diary.....

Snape, I have sent you a PM. Hope you don't mind.

Was that to me Snape? Honestly, tell me to piss off. I am always sticking my nose in and implying that every kinkster is potentially dodgy. Sorry. They really aren't, and I'll shut up now. x

No, no no madameO, to sponge!. These threads are open season for unsolicited advice and I take it all in the spirit it is meant on these threads, which is always with best interests at heart and well meant! :). (x!)

llareggub. :-). No problem at all! :-)

Meeting PM in ten minutes, dashing out in a cloud of perfume and sauce!

Oh good
Love that image of you dashing out in a saucy cloud of perfume

Who told you it's your fault sponge?

In another thread and actually today/yesterday (?) someone said that if they couldn't get a 2nd date in 2 years of OD, they would think it's them.

Madame o - I hear what you are saying about kink. I went out with a kinkster who would tell me in detail what he wanted to do to me on a daily basis. It as all about his enjoyment and there was no warmth. I'd crave the warmth and tried to bring it up with him but he would say it was me who wanted the kink and like you say Madame O, it started to addle my mind and I was always waiting for the warmth that never happened. At the same time I loved the excitement. I got rid as it was exhausting.
I realised then I am quite vanilla and that is ok!

Some bloke has just messaged me on pof asking where I got my bondage gear from and did I attend adult parties.
I replied saying I am not wearing any bondage gear and I don't attend adult parties and he must have contacted me by mistake.
He then asked where I got my basque from. Hmmmmm.
I replied that I wasn't wearing a basque in any photos!!
He then replied
O I am sorry, on closer inspection it's actually your handbag on the table in front of you.
Haha!!

Scatty
'who would tell me in detail what he wanted to do to me on a daily basis. It as all about his enjoyment and there was no warmth'
I know what you mean, if there's no affection you start to feel as if it's all about him acting out his fantasies and you're just a convenient woman rather than some he has any kind of connection with:(

Scatty tell him he should have gone to specsavers

Oh, and you're well rid of kinkster.

I know that now. At the time I was consumed though which says a lot about my own boundaries. After a night of it he would text me saying what he wanted to do to me the following night. None of it was that advant garde but he never asked me what I wanted or liked. In fact that was representative of the whole relationship.
In my case it wasn't the kink, it was the fact he never respected me.

Handbag man has asked me to attend the adult party with him now. Pof at its best!

Scatty, even the most hard headed woman can be blind-sided by that flood of oxytocin!

I suspect that, because they are so used to accessing porn online, some men feel as if the women that they encounter via online dating are an extension of porn.
It all merges together for them and they stay in a sort of bubble where women are just a means to an end :(

Scatty my last relationship was what made me decide once and for all that I was vanilla. My ex (not the abusive one) was on paper a decent guy (single parent to his son, worked hard, nice to his Mum, maintained his flat well, excellent personal hygiene)
BUT
apart from a fondness for S&M and water sports (which I somehow never got around to participating in ) could also be infuriatingly passive-aggressive and was too fond of cannabis and fags. He also lacked warmth and could spend most of the day in bed given half a chance. He never got up before midday and then just sort of sloped about before picking up the pace when he had to.

Ahhhhh sometimes being single is not so bad.

Lueji that was the one. It's nice to know that in some people's eyes I'm the author of my own misfortune!

Thank fuck for this thread is all I can say :)

I don't think I've ever dated anyone who wasn't as equally vanilla as me . I have led a sheltered life!

Oh wise ones what would you do, meet a man on line and had a date with him. Says I am beautiful, funny, amazing and just a lovely person. All of this after finishing an abusive relationship last year, if I continue to see him would be treated like a princess.Just a nice bloke. But but but just don't look at him and think wow. What would you do?

I'm back. Issue was avoided all night until I dropped him off home at which point he said 'good luck for mr anaesthetist tomorrow night' and ran indoors. He can't make Thursday, didn't ask why... :-(. He didn't mention clicking on my OKc profile and I didn't say anything...and to make matters worse, at the audition, the artistic director introduced me to two different people as PMs partner and I didn't correct her. :-(

Woe!!!

He ran indoors?

Ahhhh :(

This is so like a film.

In my version he ran cos angry tears were pricking his eyes at the thought of you out with the Prof.

Snape - it really sounds like you need to talk to PM. I"m not saying you have to immediately confess all, but something's up. Just ask him what's going on. Whatever he has to say might open the door to a proper conversation.

Hi grumpyone - that's a tough one. on the one hand, it's only one date, there's no harm in seeing him a couple of times, enjoy being treated nicely and see how you feel. On the other hand, wouldn't be fair to let things go too far if you really don't feel anything for him. But why not at least go for date no. 2 and see how it goes?

:(. I need to talk to PM. nods. Can it be after all the kinky fuckery with the prof?

Ha ha! I had a feeling you were putting it off until after your date! Yeah, I'm kind of thinking you'd better get that out of your system.

:-).

I'm going to Cardiff on Friday to get tattooed. Wont be back until around 11. Would it be awful to turn up late with whiskey to show him new tattoo. Given I'll be seeing him saturday and it could easily wait...

Tattoo is not on my arse. Honest. Is on leg.

sigh!. Can someone else just do a 'my mate fancies you' thing please? I miss being 14.

Snape, you need to show us PM profile so that we can message him.
Or give us his e-mail/phone number.

I hope all goes well tomorrow.

grumpy
He seems a bit too keen and full of promises to me. And would check said abusive relationship too.
I'd thread with care.
On the other hand, the wow factor may lead to explosive relationships, not necessarily good long term.

But that's probably me being too cautious. I expect Mr K to trip at every step and to act like ex at some point.
So far he's been the complete opposite. But tiny little things, innocent, really, put me on red alert.

Snape, go and do the kinky fuckery. Here's a blokes perspective on PM's behaviour: he's jealous. I said upthread he's known it's you on the OKC profile since he clicked on it. Get back Friday with whisky, or whiskey if you prefer Irish (which I do), and talk to him. But get The Prof out of your system first.

PM has to realise he's lucky to have you in his life, and he should do something to show how much he needs you.