Honey traps and stunning women aplenty - dating thread 20!

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20!!!!!!

Bloody hell :)

Watch I think you need to do it either face to face or over the phone (I would probably go for latter). Text seems a bit impersonal. It will be horrible, but it will feel better once it's done I promise. Have some rum on standby.

:)

We hardly speak on the phone. He only texts. The only time we do is if I phone him.....

Face to face would be hard, we haveht spoken feelings at any point. He Doesnt seem to have any feelings other than things being ' not bad'

Snape, I will read back.

So, dare I brave okc again?

I think his comments to watch's daughter warrant impersonal and cold treatment, and keeping at arms length. I certainly wouldn't do it face to face.

I honestly don't think you can break up with him by text.

And yes to OKC, but have a bit of wound-licking first.

Yoga

Quite a few men I know, not most though, I suppose, are PhD/Professors types and they are not all that...
At least not the single ones...

Although, sometimes you have to see past the geekiness.

And slightly better than unemployed, although some might be...

And then you see what some put on FB and it's Oh, dear! (but I digress)

I'm surprised people are sayin no to the text thing!

His comment to watch's daughter has chilled my blood and I wouldn't want to see him, just get rid. He hasn't done anything to deserve the respect of face to face and I'd be a bit worried it could get ugly if he insisted on knowing exactly why and had to have his charachter shredded..

argh... saying*

Watch

Although it was somewhat apparent that he would have to go at some point. when the sex novelty wore off

Leuiji, how was it apparent he would have to go at somepoint?

lubey I take your point - I was stupidly thinking about it in terms of the longevity of the relationship, not the seriousness of the offence. In the circumstances maybe a text (or email?) would be more appropriate.

I think text. Since we dont do speaking on the phone.

Are you going to do the deed tonight? I think you're doing the right thing, fwiw - he was never going to be long term, was he...

And do you remember, right at the beginning, you couldn't understand why he still lived at home? Now you know...

Sorry though I know you liked him.

Yeah there would definitely be an element of 'cold contempt' from me for his offence. (actually having read back a few times just to take all that in, make that offences!)

Also as watch says they don't really speak on the phone. and in person would definitely worry me, wrt to the snapping. Also wasn't he the one with the random face slap out of nowhere once?

best kept at a distance I think.

Yep, that was him.

All fits with asperbers/ autuism.

I Think Because its been 4 days in.close contact It's made me see all the little things that you might not think too much about...

watch that comment to your dd alone is enough to dump his sorry arse.

I think this weekend has given you an insight into what life would be like if you had got to the living together stage. Luckily, it hasn't got to that point and it has given you a chance to break things off before it got to that stage.

Yes, go back to OKC. You may get lucky second time around :)

watch I wouldnt tolerate that either, no matter how much i cared about that person. Calling DD fatty was plain out of order and would have made me go mad, but maybe thats cos my ex used to call me fat and my sister did growing up and that resulted in me having an eating disorder.

Sorry this happened to you watch onwards and upwards and yep definetly try internet dating again!!

yoga well done, stay strong.
snape I would be tempted, if you dont want him give him to me!!! oops i am not single, drat!!

Llareggub HAPPY BIRTHDAY

Good luck to those who have dates tonight!!

As for me, well my ex apparently has a solicitors appointment for october

Text = but there again, I'm a coward. Seriously, if he does have Aspergers, then the written word may just be better than an emotional or angry verbal exit because he just won't get the nuances.

I'm sorry to hear its over watch. I find the potential of a relationship quite often out strips the reality of what's under your nose.

Ive managed to find myself as a tour guide on Okc. No less than 3 visiting Americans have asked me to show them around London when they are here on business. Of course I know this is a shroud for sex. Pity I can't show them all round in one go!

Scattylatte now there's an idea. Get them all to meet you at the same time, hand them tourist info/maps and tell them to enjoy themselves

Chaotic. I was thinking that but charging them for a walk with me. 20 quid or something. I'll do the history, landmarks etc. Then at the end breezily swish to my train 60 quid richer.
There is a guy from Istanbul who keeps visiting my profile so he could come too.

Coming out of Lurkdom to day so sorry to hear that Watch . I agree with you that sometimes it takes something like a weekend away, or spending more time in close quarters, to see what the person is really like. Then you get a chance to see the person in more different situations, and dealing with different challenges, than otherwise. Good luck with however you decide to end it.

I did a bit of internet dating last year, and toying with dipping my toe into the pool [aka cess pit] again in a few months.

Snape I hope things work out for you, but it looks like you might get a nice fling out of it anyway .

Actually, thinking about it, my ex-after-the-ex never spoke to me on the phone and I dumped him by text after 6 years, so stuff it. Text away. :-)

Thanks rosemary. Thanks everyone. Been overwhelmed by the love, support and advice on this thread. :-)

I forgot to say this is a handy search engine if you want to check if someone is using a false picture on a dating site (of course they could really be that famous hot model they claim to be!)

www.tineye.com

Yes, definatley the 4 days in a row has brought it to a head. You cant ignore behavior when It's in your face like that.

Ho hum, okc and pof here I come.

As a side issue. Ykw is moving 20 miles away.....which he has told me means we have a real chance. Have been texting daily for a little while.
( yes, am an idiot)

Unemployed and living at home. Ok if fresh out of college, with current crisis.
Issues with sleeping, sponging off you, not sorting his going home at night...

Consider it as a nice experience and move on.

As for moi, I have to say I'm enjoying my date with myself and Mr blackcat.