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Honey traps and stunning women aplenty - dating thread 20!

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watchoutforthatsnail · 22/08/2012 10:38

20!!!!!!

Bloody hell :)

OP posts:
snapespeare · 24/08/2012 21:07

Nowt wrong with a bit of kink. ;-) very aware I've had a somewhat clustered sex life previously. This seems like a fine opportunity to explore. It's just a fling presuming I ever hear from him again...

MyLittleMiracles · 24/08/2012 21:14

Being adventurous in the bedroom is a good thing Wink not that i have ever been we understand Wink Grin

OhWesternWind · 24/08/2012 22:23

Urgent advice needed here please!

So, another possibility on the horizon! Has just sent me his number so we can say goodnight - should I call, text or do nothing?

MyLittleMiracles · 24/08/2012 22:27

Message him back, then he knows you have his number, just message saying that you got his number.

OhWesternWind · 24/08/2012 22:29

Do you mean on the site or should I text him from my phone? Oh I am rubbish at all this!!

Llareggub · 24/08/2012 22:40

Blimey, I have just had someone contact me on okcupid who seems to think he is Mr Grey. FFS.

snapespeare · 24/08/2012 22:43

No word from the prof though, so he's clearly a heartless bastard on the basis that it was a fabulously crafted email (wasn't it time?!) and anyone that can resist that is maybe a little self-interested (says the woman who has spent the afternoon browsing nipple-clamps) I kind of still think it might work out on the basis that he's hyper intelligent and I do give an amazing argument. He might want a clear head to newer, but a 'don't panic, I'm thinking' text would be lovely [hmm ]

PM a little off tonight (walked out of gym to meet him, he said, 'oh! You look radiant!' does he know? Has he seen profile? Argh! I've created a monster!) , still no luck on the work front for PM (or OKC - you're not clicking on the right profiles!!) so he's feeling a little down. 'it's OK, I'm getting used to rejection' oh ha-ha PM! Popped him off a text that I've always got his back, I'll see him tomorrow.. :-)

Was Running bizarre future conversations in my head while driving home from sainsburys,.... ,' yes, yes, Oxford uni then russel group lecturer, devastatingly handsome, extremely accomplished, actually a doctor! I can call him 'doctor'! That doe sit for me! verrrrry good in bed (he says) if a bit kinky, very rich, very funny. He is the very best kisser ever. He actually likes me! He says I'm beautiful & my arse has an incredible roll when I walk away. he laughs at my jokes and wants to bend me into slightly uncomfortable shapes when he lavishes attention on me. And I want you so don't talk to me about rejection!

[killersharkwetfish]

snapespeare · 24/08/2012 22:45

Hahaha. I think I saw him llareggub. Let me fish out the username.

ohwesternwind I don't think there's a right answer here. What do you want to do? Do that! :-)

mercury7 · 24/08/2012 22:47

what MLM said, message 'thanks for your number, I'll text you mine tomorrow' or something like that

mercury7 · 24/08/2012 22:51

I've just revisited my ok cupid profile after not logging on for several months, browsing people on there I notice a marked difference from POF.
it's like asda vs waitrose

(me..i'm a sainsburys girl)

Yogagirl17 · 24/08/2012 22:57

I'm still finding it bizarre that I managed to find the exact same man on POF and Guardian Soulmates! Figure that at least deserves a coffee even if I am still moping over someone else

Movingforward123 · 24/08/2012 22:58

snape he might just need some time to think things through! That must be terrible for you, have you had to tell any other new partners about this? And how have they taken it?

mercury7 · 24/08/2012 23:06

Yogagirl, I've seen the same profile on different sites, recently I saw a profile pic that I recognised from a dating site in about 2005...I kid you not he had the SAME profile pic from 7 years ago Shock

snapespeare · 24/08/2012 23:06

Ugh. Herpes was how my suspicions about kids dad were confirmed. I'm kinda ok about it now. I've had one LTR since the kids dad (6 years!) which was fine, we were very careful, he never contracted the virus. He was a friend before he was a lover and very in possession of the facts before we got it on. I had a ONS with a guy from OKC recently (what, 6 months ago?) and I didn't tell him Blush. I felt really bad about that, but less bad when I contextualised that he hasn't contacted me post shag ...and obv it was 'safe although I know HSV2 isn't necessarily completey protected by a condom.

So, yes, awkward conversation. On the plus side, you find out a lot about folk at an early stage that a vague, embarrassed conversation about... 'Umm... Do you have any johnnies?' doesn't quite cut.

OhWesternWind · 24/08/2012 23:13

Have texted him, he's texted back, I've texted again - we are on about text number twelve!

He's nice . . . Keep your fingers crossed he doesn't do/say anything twattish!

snapespeare · 24/08/2012 23:14

Whoop ohwestern!!

OhWesternWind · 24/08/2012 23:17

He's just said he really likes me . . . Just the thing for this time on a Friday night (well it would be better to hear it from someone actually in the same room but hey you can't have everything)

OhWesternWind · 24/08/2012 23:19

And he's funny (ha ha) and has a good cat and wilder hair than mine

Yogagirl17 · 24/08/2012 23:24

mercury - it wasn't so much that the same guy was on both sites but that I ended up making contact with him on both sites without realising it at first. Found that funny. Grin

Movingforward123 · 24/08/2012 23:26

Snape that's crap!! Well I hope he gets back to you! Does pm know about it?

mercury7 · 24/08/2012 23:50

ohwestern, have you met this guy?

TimeForMeAndDD · 25/08/2012 00:00

Yes Snape, it was a wonderful email and if he fails to contact you, even if it's just to say 'no thanks', then he is indeed a heartless twatting fuckmuppet who is not worthy of you. BUT, I am reserving judgement because he did tell you he was out this evening so we don't know that he has even read your email yet, and if he has he may not have had time to either digest it or reply. If he hasn't contacted you by this time tomorrow we can start calling him names.

As for PM, he may have noticed a change in you and this may be causing him some emotional conflict. You know, these things are so much easier if people actually put their feelings out there and communicated openly.Smile

snapespeare · 25/08/2012 10:21

western - 'and he's funny (ha ha ) and he has a good cat and wilder hair than mine'. That made me smile so much. And men worry about their income, the cars they drive and penis size. It's really all down to sense of humour, cat ownership and mad hair! ;-) and penis size

Well, got a very late lovely text from the prof, he's lovely, everything is lovely, even the olives. Hmm it's not a 'show stopper' he's going to read up (I insist he reads up, I replied that I'm wont play with someones sexual health or emotional well-being) & I'll send him a sensible email when I've woken up a bit.

Oh, PM time. Well, yes clearly everything would be just delightful if I could actually just say something, but I can't, hence elaborate honey-trap with it's hilarious consequences. Although having the prof as an interesting diversion is rather affirming, so that could possibly lead to not really giving a flying shit if PM rejects my advances at some future undefined point, because I can actually pull a filthy-hottie. That's a revelation in itself.

Lueji · 25/08/2012 10:38

That's great, Snape.
I'm sticking by my film script. :)

Meanwhile, I'm off for my Saturday morning training, mr K is in bed and so far so good.
He's volunteered to do the cleaning while I go out. So I had a quick run with the vacuum cleaner last night before he came, of course.
We may well be able to have a nice weekend together.

snapespeare · 25/08/2012 11:00

MLM just (((hug-thing))) really. I think you're very resilient and it's fascinating how you describe your really wonderful thought process and reaction to your triggers.

milk I know exactly where you're coming from (clearly.... Hmm). About liking someone and not quite knowing what to do about it. Sit on it by all means, but don't let it fester for too long. On the plus side, it's comforting that someone can develop feelings for someone they previously thought of as a friend

moving sorry. Pm doesn't know about it, unless flatmate has sung. Currently thinking that my sex life is none of his business. Feels funny though, purposefully keeping something from him whenwe're normally very open with each other...

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