Honey traps and stunning women aplenty - dating thread 20!

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20!!!!!!

Bloody hell :)

Llareggub - I can totally relate to everything you're saying. Never really "dated" as such in my 20s so finding I'm having to learn all the rules from scratch now in my 40s. Frankly I have little patience for playing games so find I'm being quite honest and upfront about my life, my other commitments, what I'm looking for.

I would give GS a chance - it can be a bit of a slow burn but have met a couple of genuinely nice, intelligent men through it. Only downside is that depending on where you are, you might find it's the same small selection of men over and over after a while. I treated myself to a 6 month subscription back in February but am about to let it expire because no one new.

I tried POF for a few days but don't think it's really for me - don't have the patience to weed out the time wasters.

Personally I've find it a bit of a roller coaster! Great fun at times and bit heartbreaking at others.

Good luck!

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Mrl may also be the right man! Besides you can have a few more days to think it over!

watch can I have a plus one for your wedding please? I know its in a field & theres the hog roast, but the prof & I would appreciate tables with some floor length table cloths....

We're playing rounders Fate...you're on our team and you have to wear wellies

snape why don't you go the whole errr...hog and get a tent

Yes, but I'm not camping next to snape. Tents and sex don't go.
I don't need to hear other peoples sex noises..

:)

( I'm camping with mrl and my entire family tomorrow, for 3 nights... I don't know quite what we are goibg to do, ive suggested late night walks wearing our head torches... )

You don't want me on any team, I am highly competitive and an equally bad winner as loser!

Fate, its girls v boys.
Am also stupidly competative... Obviously we Will win. And celebrate by pushing some boys in a pond.

Got to the end

sponge Mr O is a complete nutter and none of it was your fault in the slightest.

watch you are having a wedding. It will be brilliant

snape - yay for your 2nd/1st date - you have to have the 1st/2nd and have a great time :)

lueji I am for some reason reticent about introducing DC and Mr Nice although I have met his DS. And am v lucky in that XH is genuinely happy I have met someone. Think my mum and dad (well more my mum tbh want to meet him - she said they'd love to come up and see me in the autumn with subtle pretext of meeting Mr Nice . DC know about him but I dont want them to get puzzled or tbh it affect either my relationship with them or mine with Mr Nice.

yoga I see myself as a single parent even though XH now does a lot more parenting than he did when he and I were together . He lives nearby and has DC one weekday night a week and every other weekend although both of us are flexible (tbh he probably has them more other times than I do due to my going away for work sometimes although I have them overall more).

Can't remwmbwr all the other things....coming down to see my mum and dad means I have weighed myself - have put on half a stone since June . That is an OK weight but don't want it to increase....may take up running again I think. Told Mr N who said I have been eating nice food with him which is true .

I am in a bit of a perdicament at the moment. My dd is away so I am completely free fot the whole weekend. I have plans for sunday and monday, but no plans for friday and saturday.

Also since I made my date with sexy builder/next door neighbour I have been feeling really horny. So much that I'm finding it difficult to sleep and I'm dreaming about sex. And I dont think the penis shrinkage thing has helped and think that may have featured in my dream too

Anyway, I really dont want to sleep with the next door neighbour on the first date, as he knows my sister. And I'm thinking if I don't get any action before then it will defantly happen.

And I am very low on options right now:

option no 1 - fwb who last time was messing around and dangling sex like a weapon knowing full well that I was in serious need of action. So I havn't slept with him for about 6weeks. and dont feel like I want to due to his game playing.

option no 2 - guy from pof. had 2 dates, told him he was too intense and would rather be friends. Now he keeps asking me if I want to meet up. I dont think I fancy him alot, but hes ok. and offered to do my garden, so maybe he could do that while dd is away but i dont want to just sleep with him then say I'm not interested as its mean.

option no 3 - no sex. go to the gym to burn off excess energy, probably sleep with next door neighbour next weekend on first date because I am way too horny he is sexy

What would you do?

In that case count me in! I watched don't tell the bride a few months back and the groom organised a fun fair for the reception, totally brilliant!

sponge - I'm glad you found out now how crazy he is. This is why I am not online dating anymore, one date and you have cheated on him already just by logging online??? And he was on there too thats the only reason he knew you were online... God get a life!! I wish you hadn't of apologised because I wouldn't have!!!

I'm feeling a bit better about it now. I could - maybe should- have played it differently, in terms of logging on etc but you live and learn I guess. And it has shown even though he's an unreasonable arse he did like me a lot, which is something.

Oh well...

Ok, I've sent an email to (Mr Stax is it?) asking if he still wants to go for coffee!!!

Moving forward - what you should do is go to the gym, burn off lots of energy, um..entertain yourself a lot this week and then plan a very unromantic date and don't shave/wash so that you can't possibly have sex with next door neighbour. Not saying that's what I'd end up doing, just saying that sounds the most sensible!

I don't get how he knew you'd logged in unless he too had logged in?

Waiting for my date - very nervous really. I am wearing jeans, silk top, dangly necklace thing, navy stretchy blazer thing and wedges. I've done nails and make up and feeling like a glam 30 something rather than my usual knackered mum of under 5s.

I didn't tell you this but I had a mad night of passion with the last one - it did me the world of good in terms of moving on and was probably the best night of my life, which is sad in some ways but bloody hell has it raised my standards! I have no desire to see him again though. It was a huge fantasy and I think better staying there.

Good for you Llareggub! Sometimes that's just what you need.

yogagirl what would you do? I really am in need of some action! What would you choose from option 1&2?

llare I hope you have another grey night like that tonight but if you do I will be very jealous

Llaregub He sent me a msg last night about 10 mins after I logged off. He definitely wasn't logged in when I was online. Either it was a coincidence that he logged in shortly after or you can search (without being logged in) and see who's online. So he may have seen I was online from that.

Hope your date goes well :)

Too much filth. Filth overload. Told him it was getting a little too biological for my tastes and although this is 'just' a fucking fabulous fling, there's more than filth, so rewind a tiny bit, because, remember I'm not used to this.

And of course nothing since. Possible that's he's busy 'entertaining' himself, possible that he's annoyed that I've called him on it.

Pffffft.

moving. I'd go to the gym. :)

movingforward I'd probably end up with option 3 - telling myself I was going to be very well behaved and then end up sleeping with him!

No, seriously, you haven't made options 1 or 2 sound all that appealing no matter how horny you are. Wait a few days, it will pass. (Failing that, go shopping here)

snape - they can get a bit carried away! Give him a while, he'll be back. I'm sure of it.

I have occasionally never been known to sleep with someone on a first date especially when I first moved in cos I was a horny, sex starved 23 year old I was enjoying some fun.

I like the idea of watch's wedding I have to bring a plus one too!! Maybe when we kick arse as girls, we should all throw our plus ones in the pond? Mwahahaha.