Honey traps and stunning women aplenty - dating thread 20!

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20!!!!!!

Bloody hell :)

BTW, loving the Overheard in NY link!! Thank the prof for me.

Sponge. You haven't blown it. He set you an invisible test and be now says you have blown it. The test was set against his criteria that you knew nothing of. This kind of behaviour will continue, mark my words. You could try and explain but i reckon he will not take into account anything you say.
Dont answer and thank your stars

sponge i agree with yogagirl I know it's very difficult when things now make you remember how you felt then - but i think it's really valuable that you recognise that that is happening - that's incredibly self aware! :) (((hug-thing))) thats something really positive for you to take form this. :) come on, let's hunt down the positives!

I've just told a male colleague about Mr O.

His considered opinion is that he is a nutter.

I am inclined to agree.

So much for going for a different type of man!

PS - Snape {grin] all sounds good. Am so pleased :)

Snape. I want him to ask you out again!!!

yogagirl yes, shall tell the prof that my supportive online vipers nest, which is helping to dissect his every move, approves of his link!

The other thing is I am used to talking myself out of difficult situations, I do it at work every day. I am the most persuasive person I know. Hence it irks me that I can't change his mind!

scatty me too! me too!!!

sponge why would you want to change his mind! he is a buffoon!

I think you've had a lucky escape there sponge he showed his true colours nice and quickly... NEXT!! :)

Totally agree KW. Buffon he is. Snape. I am impatient in all parts of my life and Id want a second date, even if it a date weeks away in my diary. But I'm funny like that, i hate communicating with men if there is no outcome pending. Maybe that's what I'm doing so badly.

Sponge your male colleague is right. You've dodged a bullet there. Whilst I'm here, I remember reading your thread about your profile. I didn't post on it, I had the uncertainty of a newcomer. My comment would now say: "It's definitely not you, it's them. You're a stylish, intelligent and beautiful young woman. If I was on OKC rather than MN I would send a message."

But I am a potato. :o

Snape I'm chuffed you are getting on well with the Prof. Hopefully he will help you get over PM.

This has all messed with my head, I feel a bit shell-shocked. I think I might hide my profile for a bit. Or maybe delete it entirely.

Right now I think I just really need a hug.

Sponge, he is frankly nuts. Up the duff within weeks... Bloody foolish. Hes just insane. In.a weird way its good to Have found out so early on.....

Snape!!! Hurrah. So, whens the first date then? Pin him down!!! Literally and figerativley.

Sponge, no!!! Don't let this wastrel make you feel like that, he's clearly nuts.

Everytime someone is.a tit you Take it personally, get far too upset, feel wretched, vow to never date and blame yourself.

That's so wrong, his actions are one of someone loopy!! Why on earth should you feel bad just because you happened to encounter him?

I don't think I've done anything wrong, but I do honestly feel a bit shocked by it, I'm not reproaching myself or anything, I can entirely see he has issues BUT I feel I need a little time to regroup.

I was going to delete after Mr Not ready for a commitment to give myself a break but just hid it for a week or so instead. Maybe this is the universe's way of telling me I should have stayed hidden?!

Being called names and told you are a bullshitter and player (I got called negative and other things) is hurtful. Regrouping is good.
Snape. I second watch and say edge him on a bit.

of course you havent dont anything wrong Sponge, the bloke is a total pratt, I mean really he's made a complete fool of himself..he showed his needy pathetic insecure colours.
If a woman did that the bloke would think she was a batshit crazy psycho bunny boiler

Nicholas thank you, you're far too kind. I'd be made up to get a message on POF from anyone who thought I was beautiful and stylish :) normally the best I can hope for is gorgeous (usually spelt wrong) or sexy .

Nicholas, you seem a great bloke
and PM Sponge, will you?

Wait...who's Nicholas?

By the way - a bit random I know, but one thing I'm loving about dating men in their 40s - they know how to cook!

I've been propositioned. He fancies the tits off of me. Wary of scuppering any long term plans with PM, which my hormones don't give a shit about just now.

Snape why don't you have a chat with PM - lay your cards on the table and ask if it is ever going to be a possibility .. if not you know wehere you stand and you can shag skip off into the sunset with the Prof knowing you have done what you can?

Snape, you should go for it, here's why:

• you just should
• hes hot and funny and clever and fancies you.
• you fancy him
• you don't have to tell pm anything
• pm ( and I don't want to be harsh) isnt your boyfriend, It's not cheating
• pm, again, sorry if mean, doesn't stop talking aboyt other women in front of you, so, why shouldn't it be the same for you.
• how rare is it online dating to find this?

Do it :)

Go for it! PM has had his opportunities.