The Brave Babes Battle Bus - Still On A Sober Holiday, Waiting For The Summer!

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Hello, tis me, Mouse

I'm one of the Brave Babes on the Battle Bus, it's HUGE and never gets full, the doors are always open, 24/7, every single day.

We're a mixture of people who have been drinking for most of our lives and in one way or another, abuse(d) alcohol.

Some of us have stopped drinking every day completely and are taking it One Day At A Time.

Some are trying to control their drinking with medication, willpower, AA, some of us aren't quite sure what we want or where we're trying to get, but we're here, we're all in the same boat Bus, and there's a seat for ANYONE who wants one.

You can find the previous threads HERE and where this Bus first started it's journey, thanks to a wonderful lady, who'd hit rock bottom face first (and she'd admit that to us herself), seeking help and advice from a bunch of 'strangers' on an internet forum........

Come have a peek, take a seat, we don't bite or judge. We listen and will try to help, best we can.

Checking in. Have decided to got for it with dd2 and accept the place at GAMTA. Don't have all the money yet but enough to get started. Even if we have to drop out later she will have got something out of it. Friend has given her use of an empty flat in Glasgow for the next month. She will be living completely on her own in a place she doesn't know at 18 years old.hope we are doing the right thing

ma - that is amazing news. If this is meant to be (and I am sure it is) something will work out if everyone pulls out all the stops. I am sure she will be fine in Glasgow as she will make friends on the course and if she is confident enough to do the course she is doing I am sure she will have enough stuffing to get herself sorted. What a fantastic opportunity. You will of course worry about her - but she will be too busy having fun to miss you I am sure

FWIW I went to Russia at the age of 17 for 2 months on my own on a course. In that time I had no way of contacting my parents at all. Letters weren't reliable as they were often intercepted in those days. They worried like mad about me. I was absolutely fine and had an amazing time!

Thank you Nono. She worked as an au pair in Spain last year but she was living with a family then. I am sure she will be fine. No-one gets anywhere in this life without a little discomfort and effort and if it will be it will be. The price of bloody dance gear though!
List includes:
Two black leotards
Ballet tights
Jazz pants
Split sole jazz shoes
Canvas ballet shoes
Pointe ballet shoes
Tap shoes
And so on and so on.
She better bloody make the big time!

faire that was a lovely 'welcome to any lurkers' post, and it obviously worked if betty has joined us!

kotinka sorry to hear you're feeling so down. Is it still your arthritis? Did you sleep okay last night?

saf well don't you sound chirpy! You've achieved so much, all the spare energy that comes with not drinking...

Just checking in.
Welcome Betty and well done
try to catch up and post later.xx

showed DDs rash to pharmacist. First she said chickenpox, but as she hadn't had a fever and some of the spots were more like fine pimples, she said it might be heat rash.

And then she said it might be both. Is there any point taking her to GP? what can they do if its a virus? Can it be washing-powder (its only on her body and arms, not legs) Sorry for the mundanity, as saf said its self-indulgent Saturday...

I didn't take the mirtazapine last night... it's probably still too early to tell, but I do actually feel better. Aches and pains have practically gone.

Hope my insomnia doesn't return - I had a nightmare last night. I have a recurring dream that there is an intruder in the room, and I start screaming my head off. It nearly gives DH a heart attack - god knows what the neighbours think!

No alcohol tonight. Salted caramel and toffee ice-cream..

Just checking in, wow it's busy on here!

Lovely day with family today, it was my birthday. I didn't drink (thank you antabuse) and feel wonderful. So glad after my wobble earlier in the week.
Have a safe evening everyone x

Happy birthday soma - so glad to hear things are improved

alias - has she had a temperature? If so she could well have heat rash. If she has the pox she may have had a temp and therefore also heat rash?

Will you also see the gp about your tablets if you have stopped the mirtazapine? Please...

rural - how did last night go?

if the pharmacist has seen it and didn't get alarm bells i'd be inclined to leave it till it's been at least ten days to see if it clears up tbh. betting the advice would be 'well it's obviously some kind of post viral reaction' and then the antihistamines, rest, treat temperatures and watch out for swollen joints advice. how is she in herself?

happy birthday soma glad to hear you a bit brighter.

i'm knackered but there's a very loud party going on a few doors away with young parents who were having babies when they should have been out travelling and partying and living. it could go one of two ways a) they're packing their missed youth in and will go all night b) they've all got to be back for teenage babysitters in an hour. we shall see. shame they have no taste in music though.

why is it so rare that people who play their music obnoxiously loud have any taste in music?

welcome betty btw

sorry i've forgotten everything i read to catch up.

All the best to you kotinka

kotinka - please don't go. Have you been drinking tonight?

Happy Birthday to soma
Happy Birthday to soma
Happy Birthday to SOBAsoma!
Happy Birthday to soma

and well done for staying away from the booze. I hope you had a wonderful day and you have made your DD proud

NoNo she's absolutely fine apart from its very itchy! No fever or anything. It definitely seems to get worse when she's hot, but some of the spots are more like widely-spaced poxes. (yet on her shoulder it does look more like a heatrash) And there are hundreds - some big, some small, some fine, some crusted... it does my head in trying to figure it out.

And I will go back to the GP about the mirtazapine, but I kind of want to figure it out myself first.

kotinka babe, wassup? Can you talk about it? Sending big hugs your way.

alias - I am not sure you can figure out your dd's rash or your drugs by yourself. You seem to be trying to take a lot of responsibility for working out what is wrong and how to make it better. In a way that is good but on the other hand, with your anxiety it is maybe not too helpful? Don't want to offend but that is sort of how it seems to me?

nono I did drink last night 4 small glasses of wine in total. Had a lovely evening and no regrets on having a drink. If I am totally honest planned to have no more than 3 but when someone said time for one last drink, the words in my head "an orange juice for me please" came out as " a white wine please" .
koti Hope you are OK. Sounds as if you are having a hard time at the moment. you have been a great support to me, wish I could help.

I'd like to thank all the babes who gave me, advice yesterday about trying controlled drinking and I know it was good advice.
It has especially helped me today as I was doubly prepared to find it hard not to pick up again today, it has been hard and I still so want a glass of wine.
I have my elderflower cordial with ice and a slice in my hand instead and very soon I will go to bed

NoNo I'm not offended at all! I think because I've had a lot of experiences with health and doctors and hospitals etc I'm very aware that they don't know everything - and I find it even more frustrating if I've had to take time off work etc and then there's nothing they can do anyway.

But you're right about taking responsibility... I did think about taking her over to see my mum, she's the one person whose experience is even greater than mine & I would trust her opinion (and she's very pragmatic and calm - unlike me!) I should learn to draw on other peoples wisdom instead of shouldering the burden...

How's your wee man doing?

soma forgot to say Happy Birthday and so glad you had a lovely alcohol free one.

glad you had a good evening rural

joey your dds rash does sound like chicken pox. Taking her to see your mum sounds a good idea. All 4 of my children have had it and I am pretty sure I would recognise it. Perhaps your mum will .

Kot take care of yourself, please don't disappear. I think we've all taken a break from time to time but come back when we're ready. Thanks for birthday wishes everybody, lovely to be up early this morning and hangover-free.

Daft question for all you animal lovers - I found a badly injured pigeon in the road last night and have taken it in. It's in a box and didn't die in the night but what should I do now? It doesn't seem to be eating but can move about a bit. I reckon its leg or foot is broken so there's nothing I can do for it. Should I take it to the vet or will they laugh at me? I hate to see anything suffer and just want to make sure it's not in too much pain.

Just went to check on it and it's dead :( At least it didn't suffer any longer. Will have to find a place in my miniscule garden to bury to bury it.

soma - poor birdie. i remember the first time i saw a bird drop dead out of the sky, it really shocked me. i felt sick for ages and cried too. there is something awful about animals suffering. i think it's because they can't talk and communicate their pain

btw, i would have tried to take it to the rspca

alias - with my anxiety, i know that i try to take responsibility for everything, feeling that i am the only one that can sort it all out and that no-one else can be trusted. this leads to me feeling like i have to control every single thing or it will all go horribly wrong. perhaps that is what i felt like i read in your post last night where you said about both health issues (yours and your DD's) that you needed to figure them out first. but if you feel like you can't trust the medical care givers, then i can see why you feel like that.

i took DS to the GP with a rash on his arm in a big long line. the GP said 'that's the problem with parents. they bring their children to us and expect us to tell them what is wrong with them'. errr, yes - that would be the point of the GP profession, surely? he had a HUGE rant about patients' expectations and sent me away with a flea in my ear. i was VERY unimpressed. i asked him if it was OK to send DS to school as i had no idea what the rash was and that set him off again... so i do know what you mean

been out for a 10 mile run this morning. was an absolutely gorgeous autumnal morning - mists in the valley and gorgeous orange sunshine. now for a day of chores before i get my gorgeous kids back at 5.30pm

oh and rural - well done on the control. hope you are staying strong!