another thing you could do Angel, whilst you are waiting, is start reading.
eg that book on boundaries or the Frank Pittman book on infidelity and types of men.
Whether he is or not, I wish that when I had been in your situation that I had spent time on this sort of thing, as it would have helped me to see what I needed to see alot earlier. And I dont just mean any infidelity, which is only a symptom anyway, of stuff you already 'know', but dont have in any kind of context.
From there you can look at reading to help see who you are more clearly.
That's the pattern I followed anyway, but only after the infidelity was revealed and which, as you know, took years to reveal.
I dont know why I felt I needed to do it in the order I did- ie uncover the infidelity, look for reasons in him, then reasons in me for toleration. On the face of it, it doesnt make sense, and I spent far too much time on step 1.
On the other hand, it is a well trodden path, and I think there must be a reason for that. I suspect that what it is , is that unless we can confirm that suspicion, we cant get away from the secret feeling that perhaps we are half or more than half of the problem, as they may well tell us. And maybe we are too worn down. I dont know.
Interesting though. Of course, my own thread included comments from heaps of people that knowing wasnt the issue, but I can see the power of it.