Would you sleep with a married man?

[MightNeverHappen]

Just wondering. I haven't btw. The opportunity has arisen where I have the chance to. He is an old friend, I have never met his wife. They have no kids.

I'm probably not going to do it. It seems a lot to risk for just some sex. All I want is a friends with benefits situation, and I am not interested in a relationship with this man. Just happen to know we have great sex together.

Have you ever slept with a married man?

is only his infidelities that have enabled the relationship to continue for as long as it has.

So she is disabled in some way, namechange? Hmmmm, I still wouldn't want to get caught up in someone else's drama. The composer Vaughan Williams did this. He loved both of them and Ursula ADORED him. But when his disabled wife died? He was absolutely devastated and mourned her deeply.

You are a bigger person than I if you can deal with all that namechange! Infidelities or not, at some level this marriage works for them.

OP, haven't read the whole thread, but if you are still contemplating it, lostmyidentity made a very good analogy. There is alot of good sex to be had with men unencumbered by wives and DC - you deserve better than a 'zipless f*'

One more chap I saw you on another thread an tought you were very brave to post, and it was a helpful insight into the other side of the story. Your situation was unusual in the MN context, so you have had a rough ride...

Am meeting up tomorrow with a friend who told me she has had an encounter with a MM. She has not dared to tell other wives, and as I am a wife, she assumed I would immediately cut her off when she told me. I am surprised, disappointed, shaken - but not shocked, and will be telling her when I see her that statistically she is heading for a rejection, when he decides to stay with his wife and DC...

No.

And if I had the time or inclination I'd explain in detail the pain, heartbreak and utter desperation of finding out your husband has betrayed you and your family.

I'd explain the looks on my kids face when they wake up on boxing day and daddy's gone because he was too stupid to delete text msgs. I'd explain the embarrassment of having to visit the GUM clinic. I'd explain how it tears whole families apart not just the husband and wife.

But you seem like you want validation. So I won't bother. Other than to say, have enough respect for yourself and another woman to tell him to fuck off.

Exactly Pantone!

The ripples of infidelity spread far and wide!

As the child of a serial philanderer I can tell you that the hurt suffered by the wife is enormous (suicide attempt) and the damage done to the children goes deep and lasts a lifetime. Yes most of the blame lies with the man but a woman who risks causing another woman pain and breaking up a family is not up to much either. Never mind your libido and go and find your empathy for others - it seems to have gone missing.

I have no problem resisting married men funnily enough.

I don't think you should comment unless you have read the while thread.

Pantone, OP has said she didnt want or expect validation. And I dont think anyone is stupid enough to post here if that is what they were after.

it will eventually wear you down and you will be left with no self esteem.

She may say she doesn't want validation. But really isn't that what she is after?

The question was would you ever sleep with a married man? If there were lots of agreement wouldn't that validate her thinking about it?

She is looking for validation. If she had made her mind up not to do it, there would be no OP.

Or the op would say, I feel terrible about sleeping with him once already and he's asking me to again. How do I let him know I'm not interested and he's a wanker.

Abitwobblynow She is not disabled.

Infidelities or not, at some level this marriage works for them.
Yes. I completely agree in general and specifically. That is true of nearly all situations we get ourselves and stay in - good situations and massively dysfunctional ones equally.

So name, why are you getting involved in somebody else's train smash then?

Why?

So pantone, you would rather she slept with a married man and then questioned it, than not doing it and seeking the guidance and advice of others?

But of a messed up view to take. Surely once she has done it, its done. At least she questioned it first!

No.

Yes i would sleep with a married man. I actually prefer it. I dont have no energy or time for a serious relationship. Im emotionally unavaliable and i just want some mind blowing sex that usually single men cant deliver. Plus single men tend to be selfish bitter or dry, and not as fun and chivalrous as married men. But i dont want too much pressure to spend time or talk to them all the time and i like a cool dude thats a good conversationalist and awesome sex

Why activate a Zombie thread to boast about sleeping with married men?

No. Never. Even if they don't value the sanctity of marriage, I do. It's a hard line I'd never cross.

Wow. The poor wife.
I honestly don't know what's wrong with women in this day and age. Is it the thrill of having something or someone you can't really have! Why why why and then women want to be respected by men??!

Sassy - did you join Mumsnet to make that post?

His marriage is his problem in my opinion. I never understand people blaming the other man/woman in this kind of situation.
I took a vow to my husband. It doesn't matter if the most gorgeous man on the earth walked in and offered it on a plate, the decision to cheat/not would be MINE and mine alone.

I think you're desperate for sex and rather than have a few mediocre encounters you know you can sleep with him, it'll be good and then you go back to being friends having scratched the itch so to speak. You get all of the fun and none of the hard work that comes with a relationship (and you wouldn't want a relationship with him!!)

I still don't think you should do it though.

Shit
Zombie thread.

Zombie thread. Sassy. Wtf?

No and you shouldn't respect ur self not to do it

ZOMBIE

Why aren't these locked?!

Fuck zombie thread