Would you sleep with a married man?

[MightNeverHappen]

Just wondering. I haven't btw. The opportunity has arisen where I have the chance to. He is an old friend, I have never met his wife. They have no kids.

I'm probably not going to do it. It seems a lot to risk for just some sex. All I want is a friends with benefits situation, and I am not interested in a relationship with this man. Just happen to know we have great sex together.

Have you ever slept with a married man?

OP you have done the right thing by coming here to talk about it. Better than to come on here and say how let down you feel after it had happened, or how much of a mess you are in.

I would say don't do it, don't involve yourself with this man. If you mean that much to him, then he should be fair to his g/f and make his exit. I'd give it a good 6 month cooling down period (for him) before engaging in sexual activity with him.

You should expend your energy on unattached males, honing your sexual skills, ready for someone who really is worth the bother.

This might be complete bollocks but just wanted to add my bit.

It will affect your self esteem in a negative way and it will be very hard to regain, you could become addicted and intoxicated and it WILL. ALL END. IN. TEARS. GUARANTEED!

No way not now, not since I have children myself. I did when I was 25, to my shame. It felt exciting at the time. I didn't feel taht bad but I knew my mum would have been appalled. I'm not even married myself now, but I think the fact is now that I'm older (42) I understand that relationships are hard enough to keep on track without some younwan coming along stroking a man's paw. Geez, my sympathies are always with the woman now! before I might have believe that he was put upon/misunderstood blah blah blah.

Thanks for your replies. I don't know if I made it clear enough that I have no desire to be with this man, I purely want to have sex with him, nothing else. I would never want him to leave his wife for me and tbh I would never date him knowing how evil he is to his wife.

"TalHotBrunette Sun 19-Aug-12 15:36:16
You're tempted because it's just so easy. You already know and like him so no going out and looking for someone and texting and awkwardness and bad sex and to-ing and fro-ing and all that nonsense. You know it won't go further than a cosy fwb arrangement and you get to have sex and to be the exciting woman getting one over on the boring wife at home which makes you feel a bit special but without the guilt because he is always cheating anyway."
I think you hit the nail right on the head. I didn't look at it so clearly.

You'll all be glad to know I just told him I could not go through with it because he is married.

It's curious how personal knowledge of someone removes normal judgement.

Not many people presented with a description of this man would say 'Wow...sounds like a catch...must meet him'

Most would like to show their disgust or disapproval of someone who cheats on a person in the most damaging way. You and his other friends validate him just by sticking around

Yes............my OWN DH. HTH

OP I sincerely hope that one day you meet a man you love enough to marry, and then some little tart comes along and sleeps with him, just because she fancies some great sex.

Grow the fuck up and stop being a self centred selfish little cow.

HTH

Um, I didn't sleep with him. I think wishing that my future husband would cheat one me because once I considered sleeping with a married man is a little harsh.

Nobody ever got convicted of 'thinking about' killing somebody.

Good point, OP.

might I add, nobody ever made friends and influenced people on Relationships by asking whether it was alright to fuck another woman's husband.

Just saying...

I've just read the thread and saw you said no to him. That's a good thing.

Besides, would you REALLY want to have sex with someone who, in your own words, has cheated on his wife since day one?

He could have any number of STDs that he's passing around without a car, and that's without considering the moral implications of what he's doing to his wife.

You are far better off staying away from him as much as possible.

*without a care, not without a car. That would be gross, not to mention silly!

"nobody ever made friends and influenced people on Relationships by asking whether it was alright to fuck another woman's husband."

good point...

Im not gonna do it anyway. So you can all rest assured you have actually done some good :)

I did for several months...but he was separated from his wife and we've now been together for nearly 10 years.
But - I would not advocate getting into a relationship with someone married and still with their wife. That is the way to pain for at least one person in the equation. Find someone single and keep life simple(r).
Thing is these serial adulterers are often very good at attracting women and are great fun/exciting to be around. But it's good to see it for what it is. Well done OP for resisting the temptation!

I have by accident and I felt terrible. Never again!

Just make sure you make him where a condom when you sleep with him.

Astonishing. You're all very virtuous. Please, don't rely on other women; keep your own relationships honest and healthy

Have I ever slept with a married woman? (That I wasn't married to)
Yes, several times.

Has a woman slept with me despite knowing I was married?
Yes, several times.

The last woman who slept with me, despite knowing I was married is my current wife. I'd had an affair with her, broke it off, went back to her, then left my wife. I was in abject misery from before the birth of my first child for the next 7 years.

Would I sleep with another woman? No. Why? We're happy. We talk. We have sex. We have fun. We respect each other. That's not the way it was with my first wife.

Sounds like you deserve each other.

It's not you that has made a vow so if you want to go ahead and sleep with him. He doesn't sound that the type of man to be faithful so if it's not you then he'll find someone else. A man will/should be faithful if he wants to not because he doesn't have the opportunity to!

No. Never. Under no circumstances.

It's a black and white question. No.

I slept with an ex who had a girlfriend at the time.

1. i knew he slept around - he made passes at all of my friends
2. and more importantly: I did it because I loved him, wanted him back and thought he was my soulmate. (we then did have an affair for 2 months, then I read somewhere if the guy does't leave his wife/gf to be with the other woman after a few weeks, then he will never do it. So I gave the guy an ultimatum - the best thing i ever did - and said it is either me or her. Well, he just started rambling about how much pain he is in, not giving me a straight answer and i dropped him there and then.

In short: if i were just after casual sex I'd never EVER consider a married man.. (what about his wife? what if you fall in love with him... it's just too painful)

There are so many guys out there!

No

I wouldn't now, but as I admitted earlier, I have done it, .. I don't approve of ripping shreds off the OP. As one more chap says, if you have to rely on other women respecting YOUR husband's vows then marriage is going to be hard work.

@ getthecakeready, yeah, that's why it's not black and white, not ALWAYS. It might have been a decision which wasn't good for your well-being or self-respect but it wasn't 'nasty' or 'selfish' in my opinion.

just read the whole thread.. you have made the right decision to call this off!

@ Olympia - yes, it was tragic for all of us. I somehow think that he got off lightest though... i suffered a lot (heartbroken) and i am sure his then gf suffered very much too.