Would you sleep with a married man?

[MightNeverHappen]

Just wondering. I haven't btw. The opportunity has arisen where I have the chance to. He is an old friend, I have never met his wife. They have no kids.

I'm probably not going to do it. It seems a lot to risk for just some sex. All I want is a friends with benefits situation, and I am not interested in a relationship with this man. Just happen to know we have great sex together.

Have you ever slept with a married man?

@ soupy good question.

I think the op damn well knows what she should do but is revelling in the wrongness of it. She's just as bad as he is. People like that disgust me

God no! Could you really intentionally do something like that, that could cause such heart break and devastation for another person? No way. Even if you don't know the person - it is another persons life you are demolishing, and for what a few minutes of sex/passion?!!

No, I would not do that. I never have but even more so now I know how it feels to be the wife - wouldn't want to put another woman through that. Also, I don't like sharing.

I had my entire life wrecked and DCs hearts torn to shreds by a woman like you. You are a totally selfish individual to even consider it. I also do not understand how one woman could do this to another. Totally vile.

OP have you ever looked at somebody else's car / laptop / watch... Whatever, and thought 'oooh, I like that'... and reached out and taken it.

No. Thought not. It's called theft.

Take your head out of your self-serving, self-obsessed little arse and find your moral obligation. Are you genuinely so fucking stupid as to come on here and post such a comment, bearing in mind the LIVING HELL some posters are going through, their partners having commited adultery with some obliging silly little cow such as yourself?

Christ on a crutch. WTAF?

If the OP was looking for validation of her actions I doubt she'll be back. It just makes me so sad - every other thread on this forum is started by upset and distressed women, some who have found explicit proof of their husband's cheating, and some who just "know" something's not right.

What kind of person would post something like this, knowing the likely readers?

People like you are a dream to a single man. Most men would gladly have a shag without the hassle of the relationship. Shouldn't be too hard to find one or is it the thrill of knowing he is married that is the attraction.

fermez you ask what sort of woman?

I used three phrases ^ to try and describe her. Do any of them work for you?

I agree. What sort of woman? I also consider its not yet the end if the summer holidays, iyswim?

I also consider its not yet the end if the summer holidays, iyswim?
Hmm, possibly. Ugh.

Get yourself over to the relationships board and ask them in there.

Of course

But only if I was married to him

No, never have, never would. My mates husband came on to me once, I made a sharp exit and told her the next day. Unfortunately we didn't remain friends but I still felt I did the right thing.

Op, If youve been married before,you wouldnt even think about that.

You did do the right thing, IMO, though it's a hard one to call.
Years ago it emerged all my friends knew my vile P at the time was shagging everything that moved but they didn't tell me "because they knew how upset I'd be." :(

No.
But I've slept with a fair few married women.
(Married to men)

A woman seeking advice about this has made me feel sick. gd what a world we live in? Is this for real?

I didn't come on here for validation. I knew people would not be supportive of the sleeping with married men thing. I guess I just wanted to be told not to do it. I know I shouldn't.

And now I definitely won't. Yeah, I probably am a really bad person for even considering it, but I'm not going to do it. Your reactions have done exactly what I hoped they would do, and confirmed to me that it is a very very very bad idea.

It was just about knowing he and I have good sex, and that if I picked up some random guy we wouldn't remain mates after and it might not be very good.

So, thanks for being brutally honest. I fear it might have been easy to convince myself if was ok to do because I had not met his wife. That's why I posted. I needed to be reminded that it is not ok.

I can't actually believe you're attracted to him knowing what you do! He sounds a right tosser!

It was just about knowing he and I have good sex, and that if I picked up some random guy we wouldn't remain mates after and it might not be very good.

I don't get this.

You want no-strings sex but you also want to remain mates?
You'd rather go for the tried and tested even though he is married?
You are worried it ( the sex??) might not be very good?

Welcome to the real world- meeting men, working out whether it might last after sex, and if they will be any " good".

Have you ever thought about it the other way round? Are you any good?

Sorry but I think you need to have a long talk with yourself over what you want out of life, relationships and what you have to offer, not just take.

This man is a relationship fuckup and you deserve great sex with someone with integrity, involving yourself with him delays that and casts you in a role that will strip you of your self-respect. Avoid, avoid, avoid.

You're tempted because it's just so easy. You already know and like him so no going out and looking for someone and texting and awkwardness and bad sex and to-ing and fro-ing and all that nonsense. You know it won't go further than a cosy fwb arrangement and you get to have sex and to be the exciting woman getting one over on the boring wife at home which makes you feel a bit special but without the guilt because he is always cheating anyway. Reject easy, look for a challenge, which this guy isn't. He will drag you down to his level.

No - for two reasons. One, it's totally wrong, and two, a man that is prepared to cheat on his wife will be quite capable of doing the same to you at some point, even if he does leave his wife for you in the interim.