On the verge of throwing the meal in the bin and ringing DH's mum to tell her why.

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It is his birthday. He was working from home today but had to go into the office for 'an hour' earlier. I haven't heard from him since. Not answering phone, no reply to text.

His mother is on the way, I've cooked a nice meal and have a cake.

I can't believe it has happened again. It's not the first time although never on a special occasion or with someone coming.

I am almost in tears. Two little dc don't know anything is up. I feel like running away.

Where is he actually?

What usually happens? When does he come back? What does he say?

Where has he gone?

He might be in a meeting? You are overreacting - sorry.

Just go and have the meal without him.
As it is his birthday, I probably wouldn't throw his in the bin, but leave it for him to re-heat.
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I don't think she is over-reacting - it's his birthday and he was going into work "for an hour". Unless if your work was seriously urgent , e.g. senior cardiologist or something, you could say "my wife's arranged something for my birthday so I've got to go now, can we catch up on this tomorrow?" Not sure I'd cry over it, but it's certainly bad manners on his part.

OP do the mummy thing, you look after your DC and get them fed, let his mum deal with him and explain how disappointed she is.....

Dinner. At 4.30? His mum ?
How old is he?

So when did he leave for work?
Did he know his mum was coming?

If ANY. Adult wormed Out of a business meeting using his birthday as an excuse I would laugh and think them highly unprofessional.

That's exactly what I thought Alaska.

You need to be more accommodating.
Have the cake later fgs.

You sound a bit lacking in understanding.

Corny. We rock.

But if he was only supposed to be

Alaska

Sorry about premature posting

If he was only supposed to be there for an hour and is in a meeting which has over run by several hours,
he should have phoned the OP.

I assume he told her he would be available and now isnt.

And I think shes more hurt about the fact he cant even tell her where he is. He knows his mum is coming.

And hes got form. She isnt overreacting. Or lacking in understanding.

FFS Alaska, let the poor lady explain why she thinks he is generally unreliable. He might be.

OP - is there more to this then him missing his bday dinner?

Total over reaction, sorry!

If my dh went to work for 'an hour' on his bday and then went off radar I would think that his boss had taken him for a pint. But then I'm too lazy too cook so we'd be having takeaway anyway.

I don't think you are overreacting OP, he's obviously got form...

Where do you think he is - getting pissed somewhere?

Lack of communication is FUCKING annoying when you have made specific plans...

We are presuming he's deliberately missing this.
Does the op think that ?

This man presumably knew that his wife was cooking and that his mum was coming over.

If so, he should let her know when he is home and what is happening, if the agreement they had was that he was just popping out for an hour, and that was some time ago.

His kids seem to be expecting daddy back for a birthday tea, too.

What has it got to do with being too lazy to cook? Do your kids have takeaway every day then?

Can you imagine "I have to ring my wife" in the middle of a meeting?

Fgs

And "but it's my burfday"

The ones I feel most sorry for are the DCs.

In our house even the dogs birthdays are celebrated with a cake with candles for DD. Silly maybe. But it will be the children who are most disappointed. Very selfish of him to not think of them.