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Don't shout

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atosilis · 28/07/2012 18:10

every now and then I come on here and complain. Today we had an anniversary and he went mental because I wouldn't have sex. We had a friend staying - won't even go down that path - but I am so sad, I have lost the friend and went to the funeral of my best friend who killed herself. I have cut my leg and it won't stop bleeding and I just wa ted a nice weekend

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tribpot · 28/07/2012 18:17

I think if your cut won't stop bleeding you might need to go to Minor Injuries, do you know where your nearest one is?

I'm confused about your friend, the one who was staying. Is that the one you have lost? Does it have to do with him going mental earlier?

I'm very sorry to hear about the loss of your best friend. It sounds like an incredibly stressful time.

I've assumed from your post that you cut your leg yourself, is that what happened? Do you have anyone to help you manage the impulse to cut if you did self-harm?

TheHappyHissy · 28/07/2012 18:22

There is a lot going on here. Are YOU ok? Are you on your own atm?

Firstly, the leg, can you please get a pad on it and hold it firmly to stop the bleeding, if it genuinely won't stop, please call someone for help to get you to see a doctor. Could you get yourself to A&E?

We need to stop it from bleeding as it could do you serious harm if it doesn't. It doesn't matter how it got cut, we need to treat that first, so that we might be able to help you sort the rest out.

ScarletSmellyFeet · 28/07/2012 18:25

On,y use a pad and firm pressure if you are sure there isn't anything like glass in the cut.

your post is all over the place, canyou tell us how you cut your leg?

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atosilis · 28/07/2012 18:26

Thank you, the friend who stayed was a visit that went wrong. A friend since I was 8 was buried on Monday. I have called my counsellor and will see her on Monday but I should not have stuck the knife in my leg. All plastered now. My husband woke me up for sex but I am so sad. Next week I am taking my sister for a cancer operation. I am writhing like a worm in pain.

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atosilis · 28/07/2012 18:34

Sound unbalanced up there, apologies. I asked my oh to take me out on our anniversary to celebrate and to cheer me up. He won't because I wouldn't have sex.

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atosilis · 28/07/2012 18:35

And my lovely, beautiful, witty friend is dead

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izzyizin · 28/07/2012 18:37

How many times have you posted on this board about your odious h and the joylessness of your life with him, atosilis?

A few months' back you claimed that you had everything in hand to leave him.

Your dc are grown and flown. There's nothing to keep you in the marital home so why are you still with him?

As for your leg; providing you haven't severed an artery (in which case dial 999 and get the paramedics out) clean the cut, put the sides together and apply pressure with a sterile pad for at least 10 minutes - resist the temptation to keep checking to see if the bleeding has stopped.

If the bleeding doesn't slow down considerably or stop altogether, take yourself off to your nearest A&E for stitches/steri-strips.

Houseofplain · 28/07/2012 18:41

Did you stick the knife in your leg on purpose op? How are you feeling?

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atosilis · 28/07/2012 18:43

I know izzy, that's why I said don't shout. My leg is covered. I have just come on here to scream....

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Houseofplain · 28/07/2012 18:44

If your leg is covered in blood, you really should go to hospital....how deep is it?

izzyizin · 28/07/2012 18:50

I'm not shouting, atosilis.

I'm asking why you have chosen to remain living with him at such great cost to yourself when it would take so little for you to leave?

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atosilis · 28/07/2012 18:50

I've now got steristrips on it and ice. It's better. I like looking at the physical repair and waiting for the emotional to catch up.

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atosilis · 28/07/2012 18:55

I know izzy, I will get the strength soon

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izzyizin · 28/07/2012 18:57

Are you saying that you enjoy looking at the physical damage you do to yourself because it's the only way you can release your emotions?

Dprince · 28/07/2012 19:00

OP are you saying you stabbed yourself on purpose?

Olympia2012 · 28/07/2012 19:01

So are you still planning to leave him? Is the self harm a new thing... Sorry, not read any of your threads

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atosilis · 28/07/2012 19:14

Yes, physical pain is visible and repaired.

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atosilis · 28/07/2012 19:18

The friend who came last night says that he is lovely, he is kind but I obv don't like him so she won't come again as she is not comfortable.

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atosilis · 28/07/2012 19:20

Please stay with me for a few minutes

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Olympia2012 · 28/07/2012 19:21

So she picked up on an atmosphere?

izzyizin · 28/07/2012 19:21

This is all so unnecessary, isn't it?

I'm not saying that leaving him will bring about an immediate change for the better, but if you don't act soon you may go the same way as your friend and the world can't afford to lose 'lovely, beautiful, witty' people before their time.

Do your dc have any idea that you self-harm?

Olympia2012 · 28/07/2012 19:21

So what now?

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atosilis · 28/07/2012 19:23

Yes. I won't ever see her again

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Dprince · 28/07/2012 19:27

OP as you haven't answered the question I am going to assume you have done this on purpose?
Talk to us, what is going on?

Dprince · 28/07/2012 19:29

So you will never visit her?

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