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Relationship? Or just a pile of shit?

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saggyhairyarse · 28/07/2012 11:32

So, I have been with my partner for 2 years, he moved in a year ago. The last 6 months have been awful. He doesn't communicate anymore as he is always "too tired, about to go to work, just got in from work ya de ya de ya de".

He does nothing around the house at all, just leaves a trail of destruction in his wake; for example, he will use an ear bud, walk around whilst doing so and then just drop it when he has finished with it or leave it on the bed/desk/kitchen worktop/where ever he might be. He has even pooed on the loo seat and not cleaned it up. It is not just a case of leaving wet towels on the bed, it is proper skank. Another example would be that the front of my house looks like something out of shameless as I am having a new kitchen and the skip was late so I trimmed all the grass, swept the drive, weeded etc to make it look a bit better. That evening he comes back and washes his van, smoking fags and jsut flicks them all over the front that I have just cleared up.

Yesterday I had a bit of a trauma as I lost my purse containing a lot of personal info and documents that I needed. I was going to the bank to pick up the cash to pay the builder and I couldn't withdraw the money as I lost my ID and bank cards on the way Blush So I called him and asked him if he could lend me the money for 5 days, until my cards came through, and it was jsut an outright no.

I know he is entitled to not lend me the money but considering the circumstances I cannot understand his lack of support. I would do that for any good friend of mine, no questions.

What with that and him generally being an offensive, moody, skanky, unsupportive prick, I think our relationship is dead in the water. Thoughts?

OP posts:
lazarusb · 30/07/2012 16:45

There are some truly amazing men out there Grin

JennerOSity · 30/07/2012 16:51

Wow! Amazed you can be such a PITA and think it is OK.

I know so many men who would be 10,000,000 times nicer to live with than this. Stunned you have managed to put up with it for so long, he must have thought his ship had really come in.

Hope you enjoy life after this idiot. I have just finished a degree I started in mid 30's - loved it! Good luck.

JennerOSity · 30/07/2012 16:51

When I say you I mean one Obv. :0

Kernowgal · 30/07/2012 20:54

Kernowgal - I'm wondering if you are local to me and I know you... My DH is a farmer and he has a dairy farmer friend in the next village who has dreadful trouble keeping a girlfriend...

Apparently, his way of "getting them in the mood" is to make calf noises in their ears and offer to milk them!

HA! Brilliant! It's not him as he's no longer in dairy but you never know... Although your DH's friend sounds like he could be the fella in this piece (warning NSFW and really quite grim)

When we first got together I was won over by his alternative take on life and plans for the future. He showed his true colours soon enough, but it took me nearly two years to get out of there. He was also quite gorgeous and I am quite shallow Grin

thecook · 30/07/2012 22:00

Kernowgal This rogues gallery sounds like an excellent idea. Ladies could post a first name followed by the town or city. Then a brief description of their behavior etc. Then if a lady thinks she has met someone that is on the site, they could PM the lady for clarification. Would this be legal?

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