The weight thing kotinka if you want to lose I'll let you know what I did in case it's of any help.
Take your weight today and convert it into lbs. Then times it by thirteen.
That number is the number of calories you can eat in a day to maintain your weight.
So if you were 10 stone, that would 10 x 14(lbs) = 140lbs
140 x 13 = 1820
So if you want to maintain weight you should eat 1820 calories per day.
3,500 calories is equal to 1lb. So if you overeat by 3,500 calories you will gain a pound. If you undereat by 3,500 calories you will lose a pound.
My daily allowance is roughly 2,000 calories. When I diet I try to stick to 1,000 calories a day, thereby 'banking' 7,000 calories a week which is 2lb.
Over the last year or so I have lost 2 stone by calorie counting. A bottle of white wine is about 500-600 calories so there is no way I can drink and lose weight.
Dieting gave me another focus. I stopped drinking, started eating really low fat, healthy food and got a bit more exercise. It stopped being all about the drink and more about a whole lifestyle change
I am now able to have a few drinks occasionally but often I choose not to. The same way as I might have cake occasionally but often I choose not to.
At the start I had to cut out the drinking first. It was the only thing that worked for me.
Just thought I'd share that as an added incentive to kick the booze. It's so worth it. Even if you turn to food, ice cream, chocolate, whatever. Tackle one thing at a time, then move onto the next.
MIFLAW (there he is again) always used to say, deal with things in the order in which they are killing you. Sound advice.