Success, standards and still holding out for Johnny Depp...dating thread 18

[ChaoticismyLife]

Forget the olympics...we're aiming for dating gold.

Only the best is good enough.

As you were....:)

Hello all - back from a single parent family holiday (it was great - Small Families - recommend them!) Dr Elephant says he's concerned that a 45 minute drive is too long distance as we can't just pop in for coffee. Aren't I worth it? Clearly not!!

I just got a message from a bloke on POF saying "Hi shame we can't see a whole pic of you"

We? How many of him are there? And that's basically him saying "I want to see how big your tits are", isn't it?

Also he has a pic of him in his bedroom and he has HIDEOUS bedlinen. Ugh.

midwife my date drives half hour to see me and back,,regardless of what time it might be. Grrr men. You are worth it!!! And if he cant see that he us an idiotic arsehole its his loss.

Some men like bums rather than boobs. Apparently I kept my bum well I was hardly gonna sell it or give it away was i not even sure what that means.

snape It seems weird that you and pm are just friends and nothing else has happen, I've been on he thread for ages but previously under a different name so remember you talking about him. Seem like you spend a lot of time together, an it seems like a relationship without the sex etc! Do you cuddle each other and stuff?? Just being nosey!! Are you sure he's not gay?

I've never managed to have a close make friend as there is usually an attraction between us or they are attracted to me and I'm not so it ruins the friendship!

sigh yeah, generally end up in a heap on the sofa towards end of evening, hold hands when we walk around drunk. We hug and kiss on meeting & departing. He's not gay. He very helpfully points out women he finds attractive to me.

By way of illustration, we were in the gym on Friday, as we were leaving, he realised he'd misplaced his phone. He was really upset/angry with himself, he's a bit scatty and can't afford to replace it (he'd recently dropped its predecessor down the toilet). My phone was out of battery, so we left my number with the gym and I drove us home. (he lives 2 streets away from me). When I got home I charged my phone and texted his phone. Within five minutes, gym had phoned me to say it had been handed in. I left immediately, dropped around his house, picked him up and drove back to the gym to get his phone. I felt so sad when he was cross with himself and so happy when he was happy again. He has faults, isn't remarkably attractive by generic standards, But he'll stretch & his t shirt will ride up, or he'll hitch up his trousers (he's rubbish at wearing a belt ) & I blush because I have utterly filthy thoughts and they're not really the thoughts one should have about a friend.

I don't want to ruin the friendship, so I act. :(

And thank you thread, for indulging me because I know I bang on about his every so often when I'm having a wobble, so it probably does get rather tedious, but I know it's a wobble & it will pass. :). He's rather old fashioned & terribly romantic & doesn't believe in casual sex or random shagging, which of course makes him even more attractive and annoying

Back from my holiday and finally back to a decent Internet connection.

Just to thank the birthday wishes and report that Mr VN did remember my birthday. :o

We haven't been much in contact, particularly since my parents joined us, but will likely meet tomorrow and may progress to further intimacy on the weekend.
First man after ex and only second ever.
But, unlike some , he seems keen for us to spend the night together. In fact, no mention of actual sex, which I think is nice.

Off to sort out dinner, catch up with the rest of the thread and ring him. :)

Lueji, belated happy birthday. glad that Mr VN remembered.

I have had an eventful few days, but although I was ever so happy earlier now I feel a bit deflated...earlier in the week I went on to POF (to delete my profile as totally fed up), had a message from this guy who I decided on a whim to reply to. We then exchanged numbers, and since Tuesday have exchanged about 400 texts and spent at least a couple of hours on the phone. He has said by phone & text how much he liked me, couldnt wait to meet me, how he is looking for something serious, etc.

We'd already planned to meet this Tues eve but as I was over near where he lives this weekend anyway I asked if he was around - he was supposed to have his DC, but managed to swap some stuff with his ExW so he could see me this afternoon. so we went for a drink, then back to his where he made me a late lunch. Lots of snogging etc (but no sex).

bugger posted too soon!

so all seemed fine, Tues was mentioned & he said how much he wanted to see me then, we had a bit of a laugh about me just staying til Tues etc :) then he walked me back to get the train, said phone me when you get home.

I've just got back and called him, and he seemed a bit off. Basically I said I was back, couple of other things, and then he was like 'Oh ok sponge I'll text you later'. I felt a bit brushed off...should I? Or am I just being a nutter?

I have a horrible feeling I wont see him again. Boo :(

Sponge, thanks, and don't get yourself down already.

Changes are he was busy with something. There may be an innocent reason.

Don't overthink it and wait for his text.
He may well surprise you.

Sponge, you're being a nutter. . .

Don't overthinking, just go with it just now & see what happens. I know you like him & stuff, but give it a day or two before you start to get defensive & worry. Just enjoy the afterglow of meeting someone nice who has teeth & isn't catweazle. :).

I hope you're right - he's working on a new job tomorrow and I know he had to sort his tools out tonight (builder), when I spoke to him I could hear noise in the background as though he was in the middle of doing something, so that makes sense.

God I wish I wasnt so bloody needy! He said he wants to see me Tues, yet I've already written the script which is him calling on Tues to say he's tired & to put me off indefinitely.

I'm a bit tired & hungover which probably doesnt help. Just to show how pathetic I am, we were cuddling on the sofa for a while, him with his arm round my shoulders. He then got up to get a drink, when he sat back down he just put his arm behind me - but not touching me. Cue me thinking oh what have I done?

I am a bit mad.

sponge all you can do is wait and see to be honest.
snape to be fair I often come on to moan and wobble, so wobble away.
lueji sounds good to me.

thanks Snape. I know I need to get a grip. He was so keen on me before we met that any apparent reduction in that I take as evidence that he has lost interest

And I know I should enjoy the afterglow. He has the most beautiful sparkly blue eyes, I kept staring at them cos they're so lovely Just hope I get to see them again...

And he may well pick up on those negative vibes and think you are not interested!

Lueji dont say that, now I feel even worse!

I meant for you to stay positive. :)

I'll try :)

Have just remembered he spent half an hour doing magic tricks for me, just to entertain me and make me laugh.

Hoping this is NOT the actions of someone who isnt that interested....

Always stay positive, i do love sparky blue eyes. My date 4, has sparkly blue eyes, unfortunately my friend had a crisis and ended up here so no date for me tonight grrr, i was looking forward to seeing him tonight as well, hopefully at some other point and he was really good about it but a little sad.

Date 4 definitely for tomorrow night. Dinner and dvd. Feeling excited. I plan on looking extra nice.

snape the holding hands etc and cuddling would drive me mad! Do you think you could ever talk to him about this? When you are not drunk?

sponge I hope you don't take this the wrong way, as I think you seem lovely but have had a lot of bad luck with dating! But when people come across as needy it really puts me off! He was probably just busy fixing things and still wants to see you! But if you start acting needy then he might change his mind!

When I have been on dates I always get put off by the guys as after they seem desperate to see me again and start coming on too strong! Even if they seemed nice before it puts me off!

I'm not saying you are that bad atall, but I really don't want you to ruin it because all the other dates went badly! Try to treat this one like a brand new experience and scrap the others! It really sounds like it went well do keep positive!! xxx

We always text each other goodnight, so I did last night (& said I'd had a great time yesterday) but nothing back :(

But am remaining positive, because tuesday is arranged and he hasn't cancelled yet. So unless and until I hear differently I'll continue to assume that's the case. Will see what today brings, hopefully I'll hear from him at some point. Am not going to text him til tomorrow though in the hope of not appearing too needy :)

Not answering a text is not a big deal.

Mr VN and I usually text good morning and goodnight (if we haven't been on the phone for ages :) ), but sometimes either one doesn't notice it, or falls asleep before getting it.

I know it can be hard not to wonder, but it may not mean much.

Nothing so far today. He normally texts me good morning as well. but he was off last week when he was doing that, and at work today so maybe thats why

I dont think the signs are looking good though. But until he actually cancels tomorrow is on, so I'll just try and keep thinking positively.

Surely if he has changed his mind he will know he has to cancel? (because the arrangement is I'll go round to his after work and I know if I didnt want to see someone again I wouldnt take the risk of them just turning up on my doorstep!)