Success, standards and still holding out for Johnny Depp...dating thread 18

[ChaoticismyLife]

Forget the olympics...we're aiming for dating gold.

Only the best is good enough.

As you were....:)

Kate. It sounds a bit like my experience of the scarperer who said he was shy. Have a look unthread. Yes waste no more time as you don't know his motivation. Weird.
No dates for me. I took my pics off pof and changed myself to intimate encounter. I then got loads of messages. It's not good when you get more pof with no pictures!! Lol.

i dont think he showed even just to get a look ,as i said it sounded really quiet when i rang for directions ,tbh i could cope with him just wanting a look ,its the fact i was by myself and the place was very secluded i feared for my safety....

Kate, that's really strange. What an odd and worrying thing to happen. Hope you're feeling ok.

You thought his car might be there though?

i dont know if it was his car as he said he was arriving in a taxi ,i just noticed the car in the car park and the name plate and put two and two together
either way i dont think id do od ever again...

Sorry this has happened to you kate and to all the others upthread. It's really sh*t. I hope you are ok, and can do something nice for yourself soon

Did you hear from him at all?

Well, I have a couple of dates lined up, coffee tomorrow and a drink on Monday evening (different people)!

Wish me luck, onward and upward!

Kate. Did you speak beforehand? There is no accounting for strangeness. I've learned that.

nope i tried phoning after i got the text about being in the toilets ,phone was off no messages on pof ,i should of listened to my gut instinct and not bothered like i did the first time...

Good luck OhWesternWind.

Typically, I got a text this evening from the man I met last Saturday who I wasn't attracted to, and nothing so far from the man I met today who I liked. Isn't it always the way...

yeah we had had phone conversations previously he told me in depth about his work ,his hours where he went out etc..

Maybe your radar is better than you thought Kate. I think we ignore the gut thing at our peril. Done it enough times!
Good luck Western.

Kate, yes, I think in these situations gut instinct is often a good thing to go by. There are a few men I've chatted to online but something hasn't felt right, so I haven't agreed to meet them. Having said that, of course maybe if i had met them they'd have turned out to be the love of my life, so I can't say whether or not I did the right thing.

Kate, did you check out whether the things he told you about his work, etc, seemed to make sense? I once googled someone to see if he worked where he said he did. (Of course that only works if they've given you their correct name, I guess).

hmm they did kind of although he was vague with the company name.he said he was a gas engineer for a local housing association and said he did one week a year of non stop emergency callouts.i didnt think you could get repairs done on a sunday or evening etc i live in a ha house and have never had this so yes it could of been lies

Date number three is either Monday or Friday. Yay yay yay. Sorry. Eeeekkkk and breathe. Tee hee hee.

kate as a type never go anywhere or do anything you are uncomfortable with. Maybe next time keep it in a more public place. You say it was secluded that would put me off straight away.

I meant rule.not type doh.

Thanks for the good luck wishes!

I am amazed at the behaviour of some of these guys! Totally dodgy and I just don't get why they would do stuff like this.

Apparently my oldest friend (the pilot) talks about me a lot, all positives, I have just been told by one of his friends. It feels good to know.

lueji did Mr VN remember your birthday?

And happy birthday

Hi guys, mind if I join in?

I've met someone on POF, just started a thread about it.

Been out 3 times, have kissed and text each other every day. But - one minute he'll say something that suggests he wants to be exclusive and the next he'll say something like "If I ever did meet someone I'd ... " which suggests he doesn't feel that we're going anywhere? but then he's always eager to arrange more dates etc so I really don't know. Am I analysing it too much?

How do you go about the "exclusive" chat or is it too early for that yet?

Hi nikita. I think if you're texting everyday and things seem positive then just go with the flow. I think exclusivity is just a natural progression. We had a discussion about this on here recently, I think the general thinking was that "the chat" is a load of old bollox and is a fairly new phenomenon! I certainly never had exclusivity chats with either of my long term exes and yet found myself getting sucked into the hype this time around.

Sounds to me like he might not want to seem too keen. It is early days but sounds promising - enjoy it :)

hi.. busy week... so I had date number four with the same person today. :)) he's lovely so far.. so I met him for a walk along the beach then went in the wine bar. met him for lunch during his break.. met him after a friends wedding reception last night.. he stayed up to wait for me to get back and hen I met him at his this morning before we both had to pick our children up .
this is the same person that sent me the drunken text message last weekend.. I can't stop smiling today :))
I love this thread for giving me the confidence to have started this . :-)