Wet pants

[ineedamiracle]

My OH is sleeping soundly next to me. His iPhone is on the charging unit next to him. A Facebook message just popped up on the screen "my pants are soaking thinking of you tonight".

Numb.

OP - do NOT send a message to her. It is his responsibility to fix the issue by telling her where to go. If you get involved you cheapen yourself and you undermine him (assuming he was going to sort it out). If he is not prepared to sort it out himself then you have a bigger problem. Basically, it's a test for him.

What I don´t get though is why give her his mobile number at all?

I hear ye - so, PLAN A : do not message her, ask what he plans to do about blocking her, act all casual (without criticising her love of red lipstick), and DO NOT CRY.

What's plan b?

Diddl - all the messages are on Facebook, the messages pop up directly to his phone. No phone numbers involved (thankfully, I think)

Oh of course-sorry.

Well that´s something, isn´t it?

Now he just needs to block/defriend whatever .

You shouldn't message her. Your dp should delete her and block her without explanation.

It may well be that that someone has got hold of her phone and sent the message but there is no point in investigating, he doesn't owe her the benefit of doubt.

You don't need to act anything. You need to tell him to block her and tell her to fuck off and if he doesn't do it, then you know there's something more, whether it's an affair, or him getting kicks out of it.

Well, he'll be home from work soon - speak to you all later, and thanks again for your input and support x

That was easier than expected - I was bringing in the bins when he pulled up outside. He said "did you wake me up in the night about a message?" I said I had and that I've been very worried and he said that he hadn't got a clue what she was playing at and that he was ignoring her (he sounded quite stressed out about it). He's happily blocked her now without explanation...confidence in mankind restored (for now ).

Thankyou to all the lovely MN hand holders, you've been fabulous xxxx

That's good news OP

YEYYYYY hope you can relax a bit now op

See? I was right.

Glad it's sorted.

Look at me being all smug n stuff

So damn smug

That's good. Hope you can sleep easy tonight OP. And perhaps the lovely lady will hang her head in shame.
And change her pants.

If I knew her address, I'd be tempted to send her a single Tena Lady through the post every day for the rest of eternity...that'll learn her

@ your last post ineedamiracle, please do that, it's hilarious!
Awww your man sounds like a good'un.
There are some crazy arsed bitches out there!

Ask him. Just ask. It's the only way.

Aha! That's OK then.

I've got a single tena lady you can have, they were in the shopping bags at our nct sale last week as free samples!

Glad you got it sorted, OP. It sounds like your DP is a nice normal chap!

Bless your DH's cotton socks.