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Can there be any innocent explanation for this?

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Shh2012 · 12/07/2012 23:15

Went round to see OH this evening. He picked me up so he knew I was going ot his place.His computer was on at his email screen and I noticed a subject line in his Inbox was a confirmation of a hotel . Booked in the name of 'Miss 'Initial Surname'. The booking reference code was also visible. (I didn't open his email. this was all visible right there on the screen). I memorised the booking code then went to the loo with my handbag and wrote it down.

Just got home and went on the hotel site (it's one of the very well known chain hotels) put the booking reference and name in and found the booking. It's booked in the name of Miss Initial Surname, for four days, Monday to Friday, and a family room has been booked. One adult and 2 kids. It's a hotel that's about 10 miles from where OH lives, quite close to his office. The contact phone number on the booking is my OH's mobile number
OH doesn't have kids. As far as I know he doesn't have anyone in his past with the initial of this woman.

Obviously I'm suspecting something really bad. But a few things don't add up. The fact that the booking is 4 days midweek. The fact that she's got two kids with her. Why did he book it in her name and not his?
Any ideas??...can this possibly be something innocent?..
What should I do? Confront him now or observe how he behaves during the days she's booked into this hotel?

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FootballFriendSays · 12/07/2012 23:18

Do you know this woman? Or of her?

kinkyfuckery · 12/07/2012 23:20

Could he have been asked to book it for someone else?

Bigwheel · 12/07/2012 23:22

Could it not be a Family member, old college friend, workmates ex he's helping out? Why not ask him face to face and look for his reaction?

Shutupalittlebit · 12/07/2012 23:22

Yes, he could be booking it for relatives?

kittyfishersknickers · 12/07/2012 23:22

How weird. Do you know fore sure he definitely doesn't have kids? How long have you been together?

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Shh2012 · 12/07/2012 23:22

football no I've never heard her surname before and even her initial (it didnt' show her full first name just an initial) doesn't ring any bells.

kinky I guess it's possible that he was asked to book it for someone else, but I don't know who or why he would be asked.

I feel sick.

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MissKeithLemon · 12/07/2012 23:22

I used to book hotels for people at work all the time Shh. Could it be this? As in, he's booked and is dealing with the payment side of things but the booking is for someone else, for instance, the boss's wife & kids?

Just a suggestion. If his job would not involve this type of thing at all, I'd do as you suggested and watch him like a hawk see what happens for the duration of the booking.

Fingers crossed its innocent for you.

kinkyfuckery · 12/07/2012 23:23

You need to ask him.

FredWorms · 12/07/2012 23:23

I would suggest since it's 1 adult and 2 kids it's probably quite innocent. I'd ask him.

NoComet · 12/07/2012 23:23

Strangely there is a hotel booking Email in my inbox tonight too.

It's spam of some sort since DD2 is at holiday club on that date and I haven't booked anything.
I am not opening it on my iPod, i suspect my desk top will shout spam.

ToryLovell · 12/07/2012 23:24

Could it be someone who doesn't have a credit card and your DP has booked it on their behalf.

I'd ask him IIWY

iklboo · 12/07/2012 23:25

I've booked rooms for people on hotel booking sites. I've used my phone number, email etc as I've got a registered account with the company. It could all be quite innocent.

FredWorms · 12/07/2012 23:27

Good point StarBall, I often get emails "confirming my hotel booking" and suggesting I click on the link.

I do hope you didn't touch the pc OP? It'll be virus-riddled by now!

FredWorms · 12/07/2012 23:28

oh, I see you looked it up at home.

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Shh2012 · 12/07/2012 23:28

I've never had any reason to mistrust him. And I know the signs...He's not behaving any differently towards me either.

I'm scared to ask him because it may look like I was snooping and I wasn't . It was right there in my face. We were in his office at home, he knew we'd be going in there because I needed help with my laptop. Surely if he was up to something he'd have been extra careful to not have his Inbox showing?

Sorry I'm rambling. I'm knocked for six by this because there's been nothing at all out of the ordinar in his behaviour or anything..

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FredWorms · 12/07/2012 23:30

OK, stay calm, don't over-react and keep an eye on him for the 4 days then.

kinkyfuckery · 12/07/2012 23:34

So what do you think the email suggests?

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Shh2012 · 12/07/2012 23:37

kinky The email was from the hotel chain, confirming a reservation. Booked and paid for by my OH. It contained the confirmation number and her name. This was only the email header, I couldnt' see the full details.
So I came home went on the hotel website and found the reservation.
I don't know for sure what it suggests but I can only think the worst.

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MissKeithLemon · 12/07/2012 23:38

I agree. It cold be a perfectly simple explanation. Just watch him closely, if you feel it will reassure you. That way, no harm done if is all innocent and you will be free to snoop again in future if needed

suzikettles · 12/07/2012 23:41

Ok, well what you should have done was say "Ooh who's Miss X then?" at the time when you saw the screen. That would have been the normal thing to do.

It was a bit odd going off to the bathroom to scribble down the name and then look it up at home. I'm assuming you've had trouble with someone concealing this sort of thing before which is why your immediate reaction is to assume the worst.

Anyway, it's too late for that now and it's obviously going to eat away at you, so I guess you need to phone him and put your cards on the table ie "Look I saw this and because of xyz I thought the worst but I'm sure you can explain and put my mind at rest."

You weren't snooping and it was ok for you to look at the screen and see this. It's ok for you to ask him about it too.

kinkyfuckery · 12/07/2012 23:43

I can only think the worst

But what is that? What is it that you think?

It's not like it's a confirmation for a couple at a luxury hotel for a dirty weekend?

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Shh2012 · 12/07/2012 23:44

I'm obviously not normal then.
or perhaps I was in a bit of shock because the one person I thought I could trust appears to be making bookings for hotel rooms for a Miss X...

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Shh2012 · 12/07/2012 23:46

kinky I know. The thing is OH is definitely not a chain hotel guy...that's the thing. I just don't see him up for a few nights of fun in a Travelodge..
I am wondering if he does have a family he's never told me about..perhaps he was cheating on me when we were together years ago and the children are the result of that? And she's bringing them to see him...the hotel booked is on his route to work.

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gingerpig · 12/07/2012 23:46

have you checked on his fb to see if it could be a friend?

QueenieLovesEels · 13/07/2012 00:10

Just ask.

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